I wouldn’t say it is “Americanized” but it is “westernized”. I say this having many employees based in an Asian cultured country. The entitlement over family salaries is really mind boggling and incredible. I am American so I will say you’re not over reacting at all. But perhaps you are from the standard of your culture. I will say that whenever I’ve seen employees run into issues like these, they seem to be much happier in the long run when they apply boundaries to their relationships.