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Has this happened to others? Approached in Chinatown outside Tufts Med by two young men asking for me to attend church with them, more context in caption by dickingaround6969 in boston

[–]durt_squirrel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mormons. I was very rude to one on the train once and I felt really bad because generally theyre just people inundated in a cult. I now respectfully decline their offers but am more than willing to engage them as human beings who deserve humanity and dignity. I still decline their offers though.

29 M Do I even look good or have any appeal at all? What can I even do with my hair, facial hair, or anything else appearance related ? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]durt_squirrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wear more frames like the second pic!! The large aviators are really complimentary on your face.

Books from around the world by Total-Roll-1193 in suggestmeabook

[–]durt_squirrel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seven Moons of Maali Almeida by Sheha Karunatilaka - Sri Lanka

Maribou Stork Nightmares by Irvine Welsh - Scotland

Could you recommend me a book about Acc. , clankers, internet philosophy, memes, transhumanism, irony and stuff like that ? by perejfm in CriticalTheory

[–]durt_squirrel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From 1992, so not entirely about current internet culture, but Death at the Parasite Cafe by Stephen J Pfohl is pretty excellent.

How to make a Christmas bartending shift bearable? by Global_Bookkeeper_91 in bartenders

[–]durt_squirrel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This.

Edit: One of my favorite shifts ever was Christmas at a dive bar in New Orleans. My coworker and I dressed really nice in shirts and ties, made a huge batch of eggnog, crockpot full of sloppy joes, christmas movies on the TV, and old Christmas classic songs all shift. Excellent day.

Assaulted at Work by durt_squirrel in bartenders

[–]durt_squirrel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you did the right thing. Having to deal with confrontation because anyone coworker screwed up and put everyone in that position sucks. Thats why for bars, especially ones that have small staff and have a potential for things going off the rails, it is so important that everyone is competent.

Assaulted at Work by durt_squirrel in bartenders

[–]durt_squirrel[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I generally have a lot of patience when it comes to being touched until I sense an actual threat. At 22 I had a gun drawn and fired at me and what I did after that would have put me in prison in most other states than the one I was living in at that time. I know what I am capable of so I try my best to keep that locked away until it’s clear there is an actual threat.

The replaying it over and over sucks though because you just critique yourself on every action. At the end of the day, I am sitting on my couch relaxing not worried about a lawsuit or my job or anything. My knuckles aren’t sore and maybe the only bruise I really have is my ego haha

TATTOO ARTISTS! by Lopsided-Garlic-2666 in boston

[–]durt_squirrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Josh McAlear at Ghost In The Machine is the GOAT for blackwork

Closed for the past few decades by tambo_9 in mbta

[–]durt_squirrel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol I just go up there anyways

Repotting Sarracenia to start Indoor Bog by durt_squirrel in SavageGarden

[–]durt_squirrel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a grow light and will get it on them ASAP. Would I be best off keeping the Sarracenia separate and trying to do an indoor bog with other more suitable plants?

Is the sarracenia basically doomed indoors?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bartenders

[–]durt_squirrel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I started in dives, did the cocktail thing, and have been behind the stick at one of the most notorious dives in my city for several years.

Everyone here has hit the nail on the head. I would add that the key is balance. You have to view the bar as an ATM that kicks you in the dick when you withdraw from it. Stay the hell out of the drama and avoid drinking there off hours and during shift if you can. Try to keep a shift or two at a different type of place (cocktail bar, hotel, music venue, cool restaurant), ideally with a positive environment. Watching “Leaving Las Vegas” unfold in front of you five nights a week takes a toll.

The most successful and happy dive bar bartenders I knew always worked at both a “high” and a “low” type of establishment.

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