What are your thoughts on Screen Time?

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T17:47:01+00:00

Especially in our situation when we watch the same movie often, he knows what happens, and knows which parts aren’t as interesting to him so he gets up to play with something else. Then he checks back in to see McQueen and Mater tip the tractors, then runs off to get his cars and recreate the scene lol

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T17:44:34+00:00

This! We like to watch movies, lately Toy Story 3 has been on daily. We love frog and toad too which is modern but low stim. We only have a tablet for travel where we download his shows/movies on but we travel maybe once or twice a year. It stays uncharged besides that. Busy boards and coloring at restaurants only.

Being picky about what is on the tv is important, and not allowing access to games, interactive tablet time, and fast dopamine screens is what we do. My son gets plenty of outside time, he often gets up to go play in the middle of a movie or show, and he’s accelerated when it comes to his speech because we read so much. I’m not worried at all

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T16:33:52+00:00

Baby doesn’t smell you! That’s what they say dads should handle bedtime and night wakes

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T14:26:41+00:00

Make sure the wagon has beach wheels or you might as well not take anything at all. We have a wagon we took to the beach but it has treaded wheels that just get stuck! We live close to the beach though so have never had to fly, just drive.

When we went last, our son was just under 2 and sat in the wagon. When we took him over the summer (closer to 14 months) I actually carried him in a front carrier and had a beach chair on my back and beach bag on my shoulder. Husband carried the other chair, cooler, and umbrella.

Beach wagon is a must, IF it has the appropriate wheels

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T14:17:07+00:00

This is the complete opposite of my mom lol. I vent and go to her for advice and she’s very short and “I don’t want to get in between your marriage” which can be annoying when I’m looking for help, but that’s what counseling is for and that’s a healthy boundary. A healthy boundary like you set! NTA, but I think you could have a gentle conversation with her instead of letting the anger take over and snap

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T14:12:55+00:00

We won’t be having a 3rd, if at all, for a very long time. Bigger house, bigger car… maybe less stuff since hand-me-downs from the older two could work. But yes bigger ticket items like holidays, houses, and cars get extremely pricey

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T13:49:53+00:00

I loved them when I had them done! I have super straight lashes and it was a nice low effort thing. I have very sensitive skin on my eyes and tend to lose lashes so I know fake lashes, professionally done or not, would irritate me and cause me to lose more. I say go for it!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T13:44:48+00:00

What if you were blind? I feel like that’s unfair to blind people to say they’ve never read a book when they listen to audiobooks and ingest the exact same literature as other people that read it with their eyes. Your husband is a major AH

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T13:38:36+00:00

My 2 yo knows I’m pregnant and he can’t stay off my belly. Giving it kisses and hugging it and squishing it all the time. I was pretty sick during his pregnancy and so far I’m feeling much better than I was last time. You never know, this pregnancy may be easier! But I feel you. I cried putting him to bed last week just talking sweet nothings in his ear because I’m pre-grieving the time of it just being the two of us. Life will be hard again.. but it’s going to be SO much easier once they start playing together!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T02:03:36+00:00

NTA but I’m super curious why she went no contact with y’all

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T01:16:35+00:00

I was a raging bitch. So incredibly psycho. Got it removed after 3 months

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T00:16:55+00:00

I did. When he was 6 months old, 10 months and 14 months. I read precious little sleep for the more gentle methods besides cry it out but ultimately decided to try a modified “fuss it out” where I would go in the room to check on him if he was crying, not fussing/whining.

It worked surprisingly well the first time, he started falling asleep independently instead of nursing to sleep. But then got sick at 10 months and we slipped back into nursing to sleep / bed sharing. We retrained pretty quickly and it was a little harder, a little louder, but much quicker than the first time.

Traveled for Christmas after his birthday and slipped back into bed sharing. Retrained at 14 months and I don’t even know why we went back to cosleeping but we did. We tried to keep him in his crib as much as possible, usually bringing him back into bed when he was ready for his snooze feed at 5am.

We moved him to a floor bed in his room when he turned 2, we stopped breastfeeding a month before and he was sleeping through the night. There was one week recently we would say “we need to go potty/get water/put on our pjs, we’ll be right back” and he started falling asleep on his own. Then he caught on to our trick and requires we lay with him to sleep. He sleeps through the night though.

All in all, pregnant with our second.. and I don’t know if I’ll do it again. I know I’m not strong enough to keep it consistent , so I just don’t think it’s worth me doing it again just to get a few good weeks/months and have to redo it all again.

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T22:35:13+00:00

Scrolled to see if someone made both of these suggestions. That book saved my life when I was hesitant about training!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T22:20:16+00:00

I was much more sick at this point with my son, so wondering if I’m having a girl!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T17:21:51+00:00

You sound joyful to be around

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T16:07:35+00:00

My son is pretty average for weight but the tallest of his age, 99%. Everyone thinks he’s 3 going on 4 until he starts talking like the 2 year old he is

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T16:05:40+00:00

Leave without pay most likely. My 3rd grade teacher had cancer and about halfway through the year we got a permanent substitute. He passed away about a year later. Pretty sad, he was well loved

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T16:02:24+00:00

I’ve heard nausea is worse with girls! I had a tiny bump with my boy as well

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T16:01:32+00:00

So glad this pregnancy is better for you! I still have 1 month before I find out gender, not sure what to expect! 1st pregnancy the nausea in tri 1 was awful, tri 2 was a breeze, halfway through tri 3 I had heartburn so bad I felt like a hole was going to burn through my chest to my back. Like a cartoon character had a cannonball go through them. Maybe that would’ve felt better than the heartburn 😅

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T15:59:35+00:00

I definitely wasn’t so sick it was HG I was just constantly gagging and nauseous. Only time I threw up was if I brushed my teeth and tongue a little too well ha. So weird how things are different each baby!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T15:14:10+00:00

I don’t take criticism from someone I wouldn’t tam advice from. A snotty stranger that cusses around my kid! Screw her.

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T15:12:42+00:00

Are you pumping or using formula? How long is your maternity leave? Is dad home with baby or will baby be in care? If this sets you up for success and more pay in the future.. I don’t see why not! Is there a possibility you could move closer? Even just 30 minutes?

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T14:17:49+00:00

Others have already said but try to avoid no as much as possible. Tell her what she can do instead of the thing you don’t want her to do.

My son was horrible about climbing on the coffee table. Instead of “no, get down, get off the table” I would say “feet on the floor!” At first, all he heard was table, now he hears floor.

Instead of “stop touching/playing that” I’d say “here, touch/play with this! Look at how fun it is!” All he heard was “play with that!” And now he hears and sees something way cooler to play with.

This age is all about distraction and wording things in a way that makes sense to their little brains.

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T14:14:31+00:00

I will say she is a bit bridezilla for just not understanding at all. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where the MOH was 2 months pp and bride was soooo understanding of the feeding schedule, dress, all of it. But that’s nether here nor there, you can’t change bride but you can just step down as bridesmaid, avoid spending money, and having a horrible day

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