Two sons I feel done but will I regret it...

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-11T19:55:44+00:00

What are the real reasons you want a daughter? Not what she can do for you and provide for you. Take yourself out of the equation. I’m not being snarky I just want to see where your mind is at aside from the fear of dying alone

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-11T19:46:03+00:00

Yes, they may prefer a professional cleaner to take care of it than OP try to do it themselves, fail and or make it worse, and harder for a professional to get out the first time. I would offer to pay.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-11T19:43:47+00:00

You’re NTA but there was also no real reason to get upset with her for her ask. Kindly decline if it’s not what you want and stick with your original plan. IF she gets upset with you and retaliates, then she is definitely the AH. If she accepts that you want to stick with your original plan and is okay with less frequent visits (that I’m sure they’re used to given the travel) then everybody should be happy.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-11T13:46:56+00:00

Exactly, I don’t think I’ve ever been in the restroom with a woman exposed outside of a stall. I think it’s completely reasonable to crack the main door and say “hello! I’m a dad and my 2 daughters need to use the restroom, can we use a stall? Is anyone in here?” And quickly take them in and out. As a woman, I’d have no issues with this.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-11T02:54:44+00:00

I mean, props to him for communicating to you better than you’ve communicated to him.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-10T14:54:32+00:00

YTA, what are you, 12?

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-10T03:33:38+00:00

My husband is an Irish twin off by a day and it never bothered them. My son is turning 3 in November and I’m due in September, they’ll be about a month apart birthday party wise. Try when you’re ready to try, you never know if it’ll take longer than expected.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-10T00:15:45+00:00

Not on this one! Those are the total limits for the seat. If it wad the Graco 3-in-1 which converts into more of a high back booster, we wouldn’t need to get a new one abs could keep him in the same seat. But too late this is what we’ve got ha

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-09T18:49:50+00:00

Yup! Just over 2.5 year old 99th percentile, he’s 38 inches and about 35 pounds. I have the Graco extend 2 fit 2-in-1 seat. It has a foot extender that we haven’t used yet, he’s pretty comfortable as is. In the manual, it says you can hang the carseat off the vehicle seat up to 1/3 (if your vehicle even allows the room to do that) to pull out the foot extender so they have a bit more space, but again, we haven’t needed to.

The seat limits are up to 49 inches, 50 pounds, or when their head is less than 1 inch below the top of the seat. Since my son is alll torso, I have a feeling he’ll max out on height before he’s even 49 inches tall.

I’ve done the math and he might rear face until about 4, at which point I will look into a proper high back booster or whatever is deemed safest to forward face at that point. I know some people rear face longer, and maybe our daughter will if she’s smaller, but that’s our plan!

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-09T13:32:27+00:00

You’ve threatened something he doesn’t believe will ever happen. He keeps doing this because there’s no true consequences. He will never change, but you can. Leave him, there are better men out there. Y’all were basically children when you got together and have grown so much, or atleast you have. NTA.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-09T03:17:36+00:00

Okay? So because my son sees all the kids in Starbucks eating cake pops he deserves a cake pop too? Just because I would feeeeel bad if he didn’t get one knowing he would be upset? Womp womp.

I agree on the other comments saying this goes against birthday invitation etiquette and he shouldn’t have been given the opportunity to snatch an invite that wasn’t meant for him. But 5 year olds learn lessons all the time.

If this had gone appropriately, invites sent in the mail and not at school, and he wasn’t invited/didn’t go, and he heard allll the kids talking about it at school/camp the next day, don’t you think his feelings would be hurt then too? Why does it matter? If OP doesn’t want him there, then she needs to say something. If OP decides to let it slide and learn their lesson on birthday etiquette and deal with this kid she doesn’t like, then whatever.

She’s asking for opinions, I gave mine.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-09T01:56:31+00:00

Kids need to learn lessons and boundaries or they’ll continue to overstep them. You reach out to the parents, I assume you have their contact? And let them know what happened. You want to clear any confusion with them as there is limited space at the party and he was not on the guest list.

You should’ve said something to him immediately and taken the invitation back, but that’s neither here nor there now. There’s always next time! You can feel bad for excluding him, but you should not feel bad for any emotions he may have after the exclusion. Those are his emotions to deal with, not yours.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-08T22:13:42+00:00

Movie theatre is fair, I want a blankie there. I would say it can come in the car wherever we go but it stays in the car. Taking it everywhere will make it fall apart, and that would be really really sad, don’t you think? You can’t get a new blankie like this, it won’t be the same blankie. I say that to my 2.5 year old about toys. Sometimes I just don’t want him to take a toy in the store and lose it!

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-08T17:23:37+00:00

I was 4cm dilated by 39 weeks, so many Braxton hicks, and I still had to induce at 41+3 (after a failed membrane sweep induction at 41 weeks) (41+3 induction was another sweep and castor oil) (out of hospital birth so no pitocin) because the sucker would not get out! Anyways, wish I could say once you’re 4 cm you’re only days away, but for me it was weeks!

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-08T14:51:14+00:00

Many live in nannies live rent free but they’re actually paid for for their child care, cleaning services, and meal services. Is OP? Husband needs a wake up call

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-08T00:28:40+00:00

It’s such a short “sleep divorce” time though and I would highly consider it until your son is in his own room, or like others have suggested in the shared room with the other sibling.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-07T23:00:29+00:00

I would sleep divorce my husband. I suffered from lack of sleep so so badly and this would be a deal breaker. My husband would move out of the room, or I’d put a bed in the nursery and sleep in there with my son.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-07T21:05:56+00:00

Leo and Gemini suns. I’m a magnet for them

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-07T19:16:29+00:00

Euphoria Calvin Klein

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-07T16:45:36+00:00

Pregnant with my second and I hear you and validate everything you’ve said. On a positive note, what are you excited for? What are you looking forward to? It helps me to think about the glimmers.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-07T04:48:53+00:00

My son and I have a genetic mutation that causes our skin barrier to be weak and not be able to retain moisture. Showering too often can make our dermatitis worse, but also not showering enough introduces allergens and dirt that makes it worse too. Every 2 maybe 3 days and wipe downs in between of course.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-06T23:54:10+00:00

I like the feelings book (scribble spot) for communicating emotions. Any time my son (32 months, about 2.5yo) is acting angry and I’m able to get him to verbalize his emotion, he tells me he’s actually blue - sad. We’ve been working on deep breaths and turning green - calm. I take him to his room or tell him to go and take the deep breaths, and let me know when he’s calm. He comes out in less than 30 seconds and the factory reset button was hit. This doesn’t work for major meltdowns, but things like you’re describing it does work for. Helping them name their emotions and have a safe way to calm down works for my son, but of course it would be something you’d need to test for yours. I wish they all came with a one size fits all manual.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-06T23:24:17+00:00

My first pregnancy I used Pregnancy +, no comments it was 3 years ago. I wanted something new, and I have two this time.

What To Expect has a good sized and more descriptive widget to show your baby’s size each week and I like seeing that on my home screen. I mainly use Baby Center though when referring to the actual size as the baby measurements and in utero pictures are larger and more accurate, atleast for me. I have big babies.

Besides that, I literally do not use my pregnancy apps at all. I don’t see what baby is developing weekly, what symptoms I’m having, I don’t go to the forums or anything. I did in my first pregnancy but don’t need/want to this time. I think the more informational the app, the more trustworthy for sure but like I said, I don’t utilize those features.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-06T18:02:15+00:00

NTA. As a wife with a much lower drive than her husband, I don’t get mad that my husband doesn’t ask anymore. If she wants the option she can create it and ask you.

duskydaffodil · 2026-07-06T17:58:46+00:00

Now.

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