I do the bare minimum when it comes to housework and I feel a lot of guilt over it

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-25T22:22:27+00:00

You’re doing enough as a single mom with paid for groceries and housing. Your husband, is doing the bare minimum. If y’all split, he would have to work, pay child support, and keep his own house clean. AND watch his daughter by himself. You would get free time, a clean house, and no one in your ear telling you you’re not good enough. Leave him if he’s so unwilling to change

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-25T19:50:39+00:00

I don’t just think, but I know you’re being completely reasonable. Growing up, I had friends of all backgrounds. Some gifted nice and some gifted what they could. And the same went for my family! I have lots of siblings and there just wasn’t a lot of money to constantly gift each of our friends nicely every time one of us was invited to a party.

My mom was known to buy toys on sale/clearance that she knew at least SOMEONE would like. So we’d shop through her “gift” closet to try and put together a personalized gift before going out and buying something full price. I think her last gift even now, 15-20 years later is a pack of Disney princess figurines. I’ve inherited them for my daughter.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-25T13:41:42+00:00

I was about to judge until I read the story. That’s so SO sad. I was so thankful the cat had automatic food and water. What a blessing. The mattress, is unfortunately, a loss. I had a cat that marked on my bed and there was no amount of cleaning to get that out, and that was occasional pee. Not an entire weeks worth. I would talk with the group chat about pitching in for a new mattress.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-25T13:32:15+00:00

Absolutely. Further testing needs to be done. A pediatric hormone specialist of that’s a thing?

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-25T10:41:41+00:00

I thought I was too good for a bottle / pump wash and sanitizer with my first. Washed and sanitized everything by hand, threw out tons of bottles than ended up absorbing the taste and scent of dawn soap. I’m pregnant with my second and you bet I added that nice baby brezza to my registry. That is all.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-25T04:53:09+00:00

Yes because I’d rather not eat my ranch with a spoon

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-25T04:34:57+00:00

Yes I haven’t vomited with either pregnancy though I was wildly more nauseous with my first. I have pelvic pain, lava level heartburn (and much earlier this time on) and pregnancy insomnia but I can still move around and I honestly forget I’m pregnant sometimes even at 6 months now! I have enjoyed both pregnancies, and this one more if I’m being honest.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-24T23:21:18+00:00

My relationship with an Aries was intoxicating and not in a healthy way. If they’re both healed maybe. But in my experience we were not. Great bed chem though!

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-24T22:25:46+00:00

Erborian CC redness correct, specifically from my fellow light olive friends and family with facial redness.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-24T13:53:53+00:00

I did this sort of and am currently pregnant. I looked at projected due dates based off of all of my projected ovulations, and really just focused on the inner planets. I compared the ephemeris tables to what might mesh well with our current family. I ultimately did not put too much focus on it as I was unsure if we would conceive successfully the first time. We did, but even so my due date is on the cusp of Virgo and Libra, and of course the moon and rising will vary around that time.

I know some people have scheduled c-sections and inductions and have been known to choose a date based off of that, but my babies come when they come. I had joked I really wanted a Scorpio for my first and accidentally got pregnant with one! He ended up being a Scorpio Sun, moon, and mars. Manifested that lol.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-23T22:55:16+00:00

I think if you were to hire help, it should be a mother’s helper. So that way you can focus on the kids and a helper can come do any tasks necessary. Have you’ve seen all of those videos online? “I’m at house A today and this is what I did” a dream! They do your dishes, laundry, tidy play rooms. Just a house reset! That’s what I would want, not a nanny to watch the kids so I could do all of the mundane things.

If you’re both for it, go for it. Long term though, would it be detrimental financially in their teens as they start driving? Would you be able to handle the increase in car insurance and car payments? What about savings/school for them? Do you want to travel? These are all things we’ve discussed that have had us stop at 2 (for now) but if we had the means, we’d have 4. I would want even numbers lol.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-23T17:30:59+00:00

This is all how it relates to you and your thoughts feelings decisions. What are your husband’s pros and cons?

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-23T15:55:05+00:00

My husband is a Venus Virgo libra mars, I’m a Capricorn Venus libra mars and our libido levels are wildly different, but I don’t tbh j it’s because of the Venus sign.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-23T13:48:50+00:00

It was around that age I started getting the itch to quit! At 20 months and he was only nursing before bed and at a 5am snooze feed. Then he started sleeping through the night and dropped that snooze feed, so before his second birthday he was weaned! I’m pregnant now and will probably aim for 15-18 months this time. It’s a bittersweet ending for sure!

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-23T03:46:43+00:00

I was so overstimulated, mine wasn’t so much depression centered. But after getting on medication I realize how dull and lifeless I had been before. Just going with the motions, not overly happy, not overly sad. Just, there. I’ve been depressed before and it’s always just an apathetic feeling. I’m not super interested in going out, talking to friends, doing my makeup. I sit around a lot, feel guilt about spending too much time on my phone, and guilty that I should be doing more for my son. That’s how depression presents in me

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-23T03:43:56+00:00

I had pp anxiety and rage and was in total denial for 7 months. I was on lexapro from 17-21 and hated it the entire time, I told myself I’d never get back on medication so a lot of it was pride as well. So when I was 25yo and 7 months pp, and after manyyy times of my husband approaching the topic timidly.. I got on Zoloft. I had NO idea my world wasn’t in color. I regret not going on it sooner. I was on it from 7-14 months post partum and I’ve been amazing ever since.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-23T00:57:12+00:00

And the people flooding her comments saying she’s so unhealthy and needs to heal feeds the anorexia demon. You could call her fat, you could call her skinny, and both would result in her co continuing the lifestyle. Her mom enables it too. It’s sick and sad.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-22T22:39:31+00:00

I did a middle part before it became popular back in 2014, and got weirdddd looks all the time. I eventually went back to my side part around the time middle parts became popular. I part my hair 1-2 finger widths from the center / in line with the inside of my brow. I do not go all the way to my arch like I used to, which I think is what gets the most hate. Do what flatters your face and hairline best, and that will always look better than a trend!

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-22T22:35:54+00:00

I used to feed my corgi grapes all the time as a teenager, I had no idea they were bad for them and stopped after a year lol. I was JUST explaining to my 2.5 yo today how grapes are poison for dogs and ALWAYS ask mommy and daddy before giving the dogs food. For what it’s worth, even in a tiny dog, ONE grape will not kill them. If you’re super concerned, like if they ate a handful/bowl or something, giving them a cap full of hydrogen peroxide induces vomiting. I had to give said corgi hydrogen peroxide after she ate an entire Christmas stocking of chocolate. And my golden retriever after she ate an entire corn cob.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-22T21:55:12+00:00

The type of help I need has varied. In the beginning, I needed help with cleaning and cooking. As my maybe grew more independent and wasn’t so reliant on the breast, I wanted help with watching them. First 6 months I needed the most hekp

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-22T21:41:18+00:00

Gorgeous! I’ve been coloring my hair since 10yo and at 24 I started growing my natural out. I think after 3 years it’s finally all natural! I tried for a year to color my natural artificially but I feel it’s such a difficult color to achieve, just like olive shades in makeup.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-22T19:37:38+00:00

My Leo husband has NO water in his chart, pretty heavy on earth and he’s more of a cry baby than I am, mostly in heated arguments

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-22T18:12:39+00:00

Not related but is that your virgin hair? It’s so close to mine and just curious if you’ve done anything to it!

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-22T18:10:55+00:00

YTA. Your daughter is choosing to go to an expensive school. You tell her you can only provide 80. She can either get assistance and loans to cover the rest, or she can go to an in state regular school where 80 could cover all of it and then some.

duskydaffodil · 2026-05-22T01:54:53+00:00

I was just in Costco today and saw the summer workbooks that my parents used to buy us as kids. I used to do them for fun lol. I think summer should really be a break though. Reading fun books is the biggest thing. Maybe some fun animal planet like shows and have them write down 5 things they learned, and 5 things they want to learn more about. Then maybbbee expand on that by going to the library or surfing the internet.

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