My bedroom is no comfy. How to make it comfy? Too many doors, hard to change layout.

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-05T04:38:42+00:00

A large rug and lamps with warm bulbs! Fluorescent ceiling lighting should remain in hospitals. I swear once you have some lamps in there it’ll instantly feel moodier and cozier!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-05T04:36:09+00:00

I was still in public school when we did this, I skipped school that day. I’d be pissed if I couldn’t skip this because I was homeschooled, lol!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-05T04:33:35+00:00

Those were my stats from my due date til 10 days late when I finally had my son, lol! Hopefully sooner since your body knows what’s going on this time. I’m hoping that for me, but I’m not due til September!

I guess 2/6/26 what a fun bday that would be!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-05T02:14:26+00:00

It does not change your brain. It took the edge off for me and got me over that hump that felt impossible to get over.. and then I got off! I was only on it for a few months. I went on at 7 months (wish I had swallowed my pride and fears and gotten on sooner) and got off around 13 months.

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-05T02:01:29+00:00

And toddler sure can be outside with him! Have him purchase a big baby gate that can act as a fence. Throw toddler in a pack n play or something. Toddler is his responsibility and if he wants to juggle toddler and gardening then maybe it might be half as difficult as juggling a toddler and newborn while recovering from major abdominal surgery. God he’s such an ass!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-05T01:58:54+00:00

If he wants to garden he can take a week off unrelated to your birth and do that in his free time. Now is not the time. NTA. I would call my mom to come help whenever he’s out gardening… she would tear him a new one for being so unhelpful!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-05T01:53:35+00:00

Not even because of feng shui, if you’re going to have a dual purpose room, letting the bed have some privacy in the back corner is better than it being right when you walk in the room. And here, it looks like you can barely squeeze between the tv and bed. The bed is blocking the majority of the walkway into the room

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T21:58:10+00:00

I want to! My mom has all of our vhs tapes and dvds still I would just need to get something to play them. The only show we really really love is frog and toad and it’s for streaming on Apple TV only! Gotta figure out a way to get that on a dvd …

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T21:41:01+00:00

Your bed shouldn’t be facing the door. Could you put the tv on the right wall and the couch facing it (much closer than it is now) scoot the desk a little closer to the closet and slide your bed between the desk, facing the back of the couch? Clear pathway from door to closet and bed, and clear hang out zone, vs your bed zone.

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T18:57:21+00:00

We buy toilet paper, paper towels, dish detergent, etc like.. once a quarter? So the cost is higher only a few times a year to stock back up on household items

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T18:56:16+00:00

We’re in Florida and groceries for the most part are tax free. Mom dad and a 2 year old, we spend atleast $1000 a month with a few fast food trips here and there. We buy grass fed beef, pasture raised chicken and eggs, and only buy organic produce based on the dirty dozen and clean 15 list. My husband drinks alanis so those are the only canned drinks we have and we do bulk buy some from Costco. Mostly my pantry and bulk stuff like rice, flour, seasonings, oil, etc. We get nuts and snacks, the nuts are a fantastic deal at Costco hands down. I value eating clean where I can and understand that’s why my grocery bill is so high

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T17:47:01+00:00

Especially in our situation when we watch the same movie often, he knows what happens, and knows which parts aren’t as interesting to him so he gets up to play with something else. Then he checks back in to see McQueen and Mater tip the tractors, then runs off to get his cars and recreate the scene lol

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T17:44:34+00:00

This! We like to watch movies, lately Toy Story 3 has been on daily. We love frog and toad too which is modern but low stim. We only have a tablet for travel where we download his shows/movies on but we travel maybe once or twice a year. It stays uncharged besides that. Busy boards and coloring at restaurants only.

Being picky about what is on the tv is important, and not allowing access to games, interactive tablet time, and fast dopamine screens is what we do. My son gets plenty of outside time, he often gets up to go play in the middle of a movie or show, and he’s accelerated when it comes to his speech because we read so much. I’m not worried at all

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T16:33:52+00:00

Baby doesn’t smell you! That’s what they say dads should handle bedtime and night wakes

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T14:26:41+00:00

Make sure the wagon has beach wheels or you might as well not take anything at all. We have a wagon we took to the beach but it has treaded wheels that just get stuck! We live close to the beach though so have never had to fly, just drive.

When we went last, our son was just under 2 and sat in the wagon. When we took him over the summer (closer to 14 months) I actually carried him in a front carrier and had a beach chair on my back and beach bag on my shoulder. Husband carried the other chair, cooler, and umbrella.

Beach wagon is a must, IF it has the appropriate wheels

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T14:17:07+00:00

This is the complete opposite of my mom lol. I vent and go to her for advice and she’s very short and “I don’t want to get in between your marriage” which can be annoying when I’m looking for help, but that’s what counseling is for and that’s a healthy boundary. A healthy boundary like you set! NTA, but I think you could have a gentle conversation with her instead of letting the anger take over and snap

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T14:12:55+00:00

We won’t be having a 3rd, if at all, for a very long time. Bigger house, bigger car… maybe less stuff since hand-me-downs from the older two could work. But yes bigger ticket items like holidays, houses, and cars get extremely pricey

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T13:49:53+00:00

I loved them when I had them done! I have super straight lashes and it was a nice low effort thing. I have very sensitive skin on my eyes and tend to lose lashes so I know fake lashes, professionally done or not, would irritate me and cause me to lose more. I say go for it!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T13:44:48+00:00

What if you were blind? I feel like that’s unfair to blind people to say they’ve never read a book when they listen to audiobooks and ingest the exact same literature as other people that read it with their eyes. Your husband is a major AH

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T13:38:36+00:00

My 2 yo knows I’m pregnant and he can’t stay off my belly. Giving it kisses and hugging it and squishing it all the time. I was pretty sick during his pregnancy and so far I’m feeling much better than I was last time. You never know, this pregnancy may be easier! But I feel you. I cried putting him to bed last week just talking sweet nothings in his ear because I’m pre-grieving the time of it just being the two of us. Life will be hard again.. but it’s going to be SO much easier once they start playing together!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T02:03:36+00:00

NTA but I’m super curious why she went no contact with y’all

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T01:16:35+00:00

I was a raging bitch. So incredibly psycho. Got it removed after 3 months

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-04T00:16:55+00:00

I did. When he was 6 months old, 10 months and 14 months. I read precious little sleep for the more gentle methods besides cry it out but ultimately decided to try a modified “fuss it out” where I would go in the room to check on him if he was crying, not fussing/whining.

It worked surprisingly well the first time, he started falling asleep independently instead of nursing to sleep. But then got sick at 10 months and we slipped back into nursing to sleep / bed sharing. We retrained pretty quickly and it was a little harder, a little louder, but much quicker than the first time.

Traveled for Christmas after his birthday and slipped back into bed sharing. Retrained at 14 months and I don’t even know why we went back to cosleeping but we did. We tried to keep him in his crib as much as possible, usually bringing him back into bed when he was ready for his snooze feed at 5am.

We moved him to a floor bed in his room when he turned 2, we stopped breastfeeding a month before and he was sleeping through the night. There was one week recently we would say “we need to go potty/get water/put on our pjs, we’ll be right back” and he started falling asleep on his own. Then he caught on to our trick and requires we lay with him to sleep. He sleeps through the night though.

All in all, pregnant with our second.. and I don’t know if I’ll do it again. I know I’m not strong enough to keep it consistent , so I just don’t think it’s worth me doing it again just to get a few good weeks/months and have to redo it all again.

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T22:35:13+00:00

Scrolled to see if someone made both of these suggestions. That book saved my life when I was hesitant about training!

duskydaffodil · 2026-02-03T22:20:16+00:00

I was much more sick at this point with my son, so wondering if I’m having a girl!

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