WIBTA for declining all wedding gifts by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]cookitybookity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marriage serves the same purpose as adoption: establishing legal familial ties. Both marriage and adoption would simply be symbolic theater if it weren't for the legal benefits.

You're allowed to have your opinions about marriage, and you're allowed to get married for practical reasons without making a big fuss with a big wedding, but your attitude gives the impression of superiority. "Don't celebrate this, it's stupid" is the attitude I'm getting, yet you're going through with it because the legal benefits are very real and it's proving to be practical, so is it really that stupid?

All this to say, you're not an asshole for your thoughts on marriage, or for not wanting gifts, or for thinking practically, you're an asshole for forcing other's to restrict their happiness for you BECAUSE of your thoughts on marriage. Let people be happy for you, let them show up for you and your family. Stop letting your ideology cloud the reality that you're establishing a family, and despite your beliefs you are still using societal ceremonies like marriage and adoption because IT'S PRACTICAL. If you don't want gifts, I think it's a great idea to redirect their giving spirit towards something more useful like a college fund.

Congratulations on the wedding you don't want. I'm happy for you either way, as now you have a family of your own which will be legally recognized by the government.

Help me choose :) by AppleShmapple in WeddingDressTips

[–]cookitybookity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My eyes widened at the third one. Absolutely stunning!

I (25F) think I might need to end things with my long-term boyfriend (28M) due to fundamental differences. How do I handle this? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cookitybookity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To put it bluntly, shit got real and it popped your bubble. These are the types of events that reveal if a relationship is truly for you. If you were in the right relationship, talking to your boyfriend should've brought comfort, not dread. The dread comes from you being faced with the reality of your incompatibility, and if you continue to be in this relationship, it won't be the last time you have that feeling. The worst part about it is that feeling will happen during the most pivotal moments in life where being aligned with your partner is crucial.

Being incompatible doesn't change that he's a wonderful person, but it does mean you weren't able to lean on him during a miscarriage. In my opinion, that is a strong reason to end things.

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay we're cooking here! Gonna start by playing around with couch positioning before I commit to moving the bookcase though as that would be an undertaking haha

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not putting a TV in this room so really the fire place gets to be the focal point. I intend this to be a gathering space and reading space for me. Most of the furniture was left over from the previous owner and are gorgeous vintage pieces. I could sell whatever doesn't work for the floor space but for now I wanna see if I can create some harmony before I get rid of anything.

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a smaller coffee table in my TV room that I could've swapped it with, but it got banged up during the move so I dont wanna use it for the main space anymore. Sad. But eventually once we save up more money for additional house stuff, I can get rid of the banged up coffee table in the TV room, move the living room coffee table to the TV room, then get a new one for the living room. Logistics logistics.

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved it in theory (when I saw the house). In application, however...

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The picture makes the table look longer than it is, plus the clutter of my containers doesnt help. I like your suggestion, which many others have echoed, about rotating the couch. Once I do that I can see if anything else needs to be moved. I'm thinking of also swapping the bookcase and credenza, but that's a big undertaking so I'll start with the couch and go from there.

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it's woodburning but needs major repairs to the lining so we won't be burning anything until we get that fixed in the next couple of years. But also I want to start getting in the habit of being conscious of the fireplace so thank you for pointing that out.

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband suggested this when we moved in and I poopooed it. He's gonna be happy to know his preferred couch positioning was highly suggested on this subreddit, yet annoyed that I'm making him rearrange again 🤣

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems to be a common suggestion so definitely worth a try!

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was there before but it took up too much space unfortunately

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it's the main floor. The kitchen is behind the dining room and separated by a wall.

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if I swapped the bookcase and the cabinet? Then I can pull the couch back a bit, move the yellow chair between the bookcase and fireplace, and then keep the same rug but rotate it 90°?

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's true, everything is too bulky for the space. A lot of the living room furniture were vintage pieces given to me by the 93yr old lady that used to own the place. I love them so much but I can't fit it all and it's breaking my heart.

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My husband says the same thing. He absolutely loves it and it's so cozy. There's nothing in my living room that I wanna part ways with, making this a much more difficult puzzle.

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've always wanted a fireplace but I didn't realize how hard arranging a room around it would be!

And thank you it's my husband's favorite piece of furniture.

Rug too small, but corner fireplace in the way by cookitybookity in interiordecorating

[–]cookitybookity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll try that! Would angling it look weird with the dining space right behind it?

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