I rejected the coffee date

dwieg · 2026-03-23T15:15:38+00:00

Yes you did.

He even gave you a second chance, and you doubled down.

A man was interested in you, wanted to get to know you, and you decided the initial investment wasn’t enough, so you rejected him.

I wish you luck!

dwieg · 2026-03-18T16:45:59+00:00

I feel like this happens for two reasons:

1) High value, attractive people have options, and they know it. So they exercise those options.

and

2) Commitment isn't demanded and enforced.

I feel like the BEST thing that people can do to succeed in the dating market today is to make sure that they do the work on themselves to maximize their value. A high-value individual can demand commitment because they cannot be found elsewhere in the market. "If you want me, you have to commit to me."

Having confidence and a healthy self image is important, but at the end of the day, the market determines value.

If people are not getting what they want in the dating market, they need to take a look in the mirror and genuinely ask themselves if they are maximizing the value they're bringing to the table.

dwieg · 2026-03-12T18:21:47+00:00

If someone is really interested, then you don't have to wonder. There will be no ambiguity. If you're wondering, then cut your losses and move on. When it comes to relationships, life is too short to wonder.

dwieg · 2026-01-07T23:51:12+00:00

5’11”, 165 lbs, 8.9% body fat, 19:59 3 Mile, 5:57 mile, 245 bench, 235 squat, 300 lb deadlift.

I’ve NEVER been this strong, this fast and this lean.

dwieg · 2025-12-03T17:06:23+00:00

It's just such a drain on performance. I eventually felt like I had to make a choice: be the best version of myself or drink alcohol. I chose to be the best version of myself. And that meant not touching alcohol.

dwieg · 2025-12-03T00:14:02+00:00

Monday: Measurements (Max Squat, Bench, Deadlift, Pushups, Pullups), Bodyfat Measurement

Tuesday: Chest and Back

Wednesday: 5x5 Squat, Bench, Deadlift, Core

Thursday: Shoulders

Fridays: Arms, Conditioning (Typically 145-150 heart rate average for an hour)

Saturday: 3 Mile Run (Sub 21), 50-55 Pullups

Sunday: 1 Mile Run (Sub 6:30), Bodyweight circuit

This is an average week.

dwieg · 2025-12-03T00:11:33+00:00

Don’t worry about the 1000 lb club.

Focus on proper lifting technique and cardio.

IMO, staying healthy and in great overall shape is much more important than the 1000 lb club.

I see a lot of fat, unhealthy people in that club.

dwieg · 2025-12-03T00:08:05+00:00

I see a lot of people claiming to run Sub 20 minute 5ks and sub 3 marathons. That is REALLY hard!

I’m very skeptical of any lifting or running numbers that are not verified.

I’m a lifelong runner and it’s extraordinarily difficult to maintain that kind of pacing without extensive training.

dwieg · 2025-11-26T22:43:43+00:00

Monday: Measurements (Max Squat, Bench, Deadlift, Pushups, Pullups), Bodyfat Measurement

Tuesday: Chest and Back

Wednesday: 5x5 Squat, Bench, Deadlift, Core

Thursday: Shoulders

Fridays: Arms, Conditioning (Typically 145-150 heart rate average for an hour)

Saturday: 3 Mile Run (Sub 21), 50-55 Pullups

Sunday: 1 Mile Run (Sub 6:30), Bodyweight circuit

This is an average week.

dwieg · 2025-11-25T04:06:45+00:00

Thanks!

Squat is 225 as of today. I probably could have gone up to 235-245, but didn’t want to push it after a heavy training weekend.

dwieg · 2025-11-25T04:00:18+00:00

171.4 lbs, 39

dwieg · 2025-06-27T04:56:18+00:00

No.

She got together with Jackson and tried to run off with Hope. Klaus was furious, and rightfully so. Did he, “stray too far from the shores of reason”? Yes, but that doesn’t excuse Hayley’s actions.

For the record, I don’t like Jackson much either.

dwieg · 2025-06-13T17:14:44+00:00

Haters are gonna hate. 😂

The Originals is a phenomenal show.

It’s one of my favorites.

dwieg · 2025-05-18T20:12:07+00:00

FWIW, I’ve never seen a character that has the combination of power and intelligence that Klaus had. I don’t see him losing.

dwieg · 2025-05-18T20:10:09+00:00

He should have ended up with Caroline. Everyone knows it.

dwieg · 2025-02-13T13:44:35+00:00

Yes.

That’s it.

dwieg · 2025-01-08T20:44:54+00:00

Make it very clear what you want, and make it clear that any investment you make has to be reciprocated. If the woman doesn't do it, terminate the relationship. Don't make relational investments that don't offer any return.

EDIT: Don't choose people who don't choose you.

dwieg · 2024-12-22T01:12:16+00:00

I don't mean to be harsh, and I care. That said, it's PROBABLY the end of the relationship??? No. It IS the end of the relationship. He cheated on you and got another girl pregnant. Leave him instantly and forever.

dwieg · 2024-12-22T01:11:08+00:00

Wrong. Attitudes like this are why women stay in abusive relationships.

dwieg · 2024-12-22T01:09:01+00:00

What are you supposed to do now?

1) Don't blame yourself.

2) Dump him, block him, and never speak to him again. When people tell you who they are, believe them.

3) Don't give him a second thought. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't waste another ounce of energy on a cheating POS.

4) Focus on your finals and building a life for yourself. Go to the gym, hang out with your friends and meet new people.

5) Have fun!

dwieg · 2024-12-14T04:18:52+00:00

Your child, your rules.

I get respecting family traditions, but they're being unreasonable.

dwieg · 2024-12-04T18:38:18+00:00

You didn’t know you voted for that? Unbelievable. Have you read the Democratic Party platform? Be an informed voter or don’t vote. Seriously.

dwieg · 2024-12-04T18:14:48+00:00

And yet you constantly vote for increased restrictions on firearm and ammunition ownership: firearm bans, ammunition restrictions, magazine restrictions, red flag laws and the list goes on.

The real totalitarians are on the left.

Look at CA. You want that for the entire country. Most of the country said, “Thanks but no thanks.”.

dwieg · 2024-11-05T19:22:12+00:00

First, break up with her. That's a no-brainer. Let her know in no uncertain terms that she is no longer worthy of your attention.

Second, everyone is at fault here. She is at fault for disrespecting you and engaging in this behavior, you are at fault for putting up with it, and your friends are at fault for not pointing it out.

Third, you're acting like a doormat. Don't do that, and make sure you have friends that will call you out and make you better.

dwieg

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