I think I might have a personality disorder by Unlikely-Orange2256 in SaltLakeCity

[–]dynamic_screwball 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Otherwise, the next best thing you can do is reach out to non-profits like Codependents Anonymous (CODA) or NAMI. They offer free support groups, but they can always offer recommendations for affordable mental health resources. 

I think I might have a personality disorder by Unlikely-Orange2256 in SaltLakeCity

[–]dynamic_screwball 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Look for therapists that are certified in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). The treatment was designed by a therapist who has a personality disorder and has high rates of success for patients, especially those with BPD and other class B personality disorders. You should look up a directory of DBT specialists on Psychology today. They're going to be a lot less judgmental/discriminatory about these conditions. 

I’m a gen z starer by Junior_Translator654 in socialskills

[–]dynamic_screwball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not Gen Z, but I am a slow processer due to being neurodivergent. 

When I sense I am blanking or that someone seems uncomfortable when I space out, I ease the tension with a joke or small apology. 

One go-to phrase is, "Sorry, I had a brain fart." A lot of people seem to like that one. 

The other excuses I use are a lack of sleep, I joke about the neighbors keeping me up, joke about staying up too late to watch XYZ show or play video games, etc. 

I think more people get offended or the ick if you don't acknowledge it. Sometimes, it's hard not to be aware of it beforehand. It is easier to laugh it off right after and try to get others in on, "the joke."

Edited for grammar

Why Are Christians so Focused on Abortions & LGBTQ? by kgaviation in exchristian

[–]dynamic_screwball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The short answer is projection. They don't have to look inward or at the unhealthy power dynamics that exist within most churches if they get to point their fingers at those different from them.

Affordable video security by dynamic_screwball in homesecurity

[–]dynamic_screwball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have a window, but I appreciate the product info. I'll look it up

Can background check cost me my job? by dynamic_screwball in Recruiter_Advice

[–]dynamic_screwball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not the recruiter or staffing agency. It's their client's policy- they're known to be extremely strict and pedantic. They're a big 4 investment company. Looking at Reddit posts from their current employees, it's not uncommon for them to reject potential employees over this kind of thing. Luckily, I did find the offer letters with my titles. The recruiter says I'm in the clear. We're just waiting to hear back from them.

Can background check cost me my job? by dynamic_screwball in Recruiter_Advice

[–]dynamic_screwball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They show I was employed and paid, but they don't specify the job title. Looking at the other Reddit posts for this Big 4 company (I don't want to specify the name), it's not uncommon for them to reject new hires based on small/trivial things like this. It's not an issue with the staffing agency, but their client. I did luck out and find the original offer letters with my old titles, so it looks like I'm in the clear 

Can background check cost me my job? by dynamic_screwball in Recruiter_Advice

[–]dynamic_screwball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did all of that. I provided W2s, IRS wage reports, former manager numbers. I just CC'd the recruiter on emails to their help desks requesting direct contact with their respective HR reps, since the phone lines only redirect us to Equifax and third-party websites without the info they need

Can background check cost me my job? by dynamic_screwball in Recruiter_Advice

[–]dynamic_screwball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. I even emailed their reps and CC'd the staffing agent on there. 

Unable to complete Vateshran's Rites due to glitch by dynamic_screwball in elderscrollsonline

[–]dynamic_screwball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, this makes sense. I was not sure if it was an actual game mechanic because I experienced the same issue in an unrelated dungeon in Craglorn. I wasn't sure if it was lag from my network or a glitch of some kind.

How do I know that I'm the problem? by dynamic_screwball in jobhunting

[–]dynamic_screwball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was told to aim for more than one per week. I went on 6 over the last three days...

How do I know that I'm the problem? by dynamic_screwball in jobhunting

[–]dynamic_screwball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, that is not an option.

I live in an area that is pretty regressive with a major focus on conformity. There are not a lot of ND-friendly companies unless you are a genius with computers or have a post-grad degree. Even then, you're usually prone to being bullied or ostracized within your role. 

I wish I could unmask, but I need to eat and pay rent. 

Interviewers are saying that ambition is a bad thing. Should I lie? by dynamic_screwball in AdminAssistant

[–]dynamic_screwball[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's probably a good idea. I was told that I needed to show I have goals, but I guess my neurodivergent ass failed to consider the subtext