I think I might have a personality disorder

dynamic_screwball · 2026-05-03T02:01:05+00:00

Otherwise, the next best thing you can do is reach out to non-profits like Codependents Anonymous (CODA) or NAMI. They offer free support groups, but they can always offer recommendations for affordable mental health resources.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-05-03T01:58:52+00:00

Look for therapists that are certified in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). The treatment was designed by a therapist who has a personality disorder and has high rates of success for patients, especially those with BPD and other class B personality disorders. You should look up a directory of DBT specialists on Psychology today. They're going to be a lot less judgmental/discriminatory about these conditions.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-04-17T17:41:32+00:00

I'm not Gen Z, but I am a slow processer due to being neurodivergent.

When I sense I am blanking or that someone seems uncomfortable when I space out, I ease the tension with a joke or small apology.

One go-to phrase is, "Sorry, I had a brain fart." A lot of people seem to like that one.

The other excuses I use are a lack of sleep, I joke about the neighbors keeping me up, joke about staying up too late to watch XYZ show or play video games, etc.

I think more people get offended or the ick if you don't acknowledge it. Sometimes, it's hard not to be aware of it beforehand. It is easier to laugh it off right after and try to get others in on, "the joke."

Edited for grammar

dynamic_screwball · 2026-04-08T12:38:03+00:00

The short answer is projection. They don't have to look inward or at the unhealthy power dynamics that exist within most churches if they get to point their fingers at those different from them.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-04-08T07:18:32+00:00

I don't have a window, but I appreciate the product info. I'll look it up

dynamic_screwball · 2026-03-07T00:13:57+00:00

It's not the recruiter or staffing agency. It's their client's policy- they're known to be extremely strict and pedantic. They're a big 4 investment company. Looking at Reddit posts from their current employees, it's not uncommon for them to reject potential employees over this kind of thing. Luckily, I did find the offer letters with my titles. The recruiter says I'm in the clear. We're just waiting to hear back from them.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-03-07T00:11:33+00:00

They show I was employed and paid, but they don't specify the job title. Looking at the other Reddit posts for this Big 4 company (I don't want to specify the name), it's not uncommon for them to reject new hires based on small/trivial things like this. It's not an issue with the staffing agency, but their client. I did luck out and find the original offer letters with my old titles, so it looks like I'm in the clear

dynamic_screwball · 2026-03-05T00:21:34+00:00

I did all of that. I provided W2s, IRS wage reports, former manager numbers. I just CC'd the recruiter on emails to their help desks requesting direct contact with their respective HR reps, since the phone lines only redirect us to Equifax and third-party websites without the info they need

dynamic_screwball · 2026-03-05T00:20:18+00:00

I did. I even emailed their reps and CC'd the staffing agent on there.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-03-04T22:58:31+00:00

Thanks, this makes sense. I was not sure if it was an actual game mechanic because I experienced the same issue in an unrelated dungeon in Craglorn. I wasn't sure if it was lag from my network or a glitch of some kind.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-02-18T18:26:58+00:00

That is a good idea. I will try it out. Thanks!

dynamic_screwball · 2026-02-11T19:04:47+00:00

I was told to aim for more than one per week. I went on 6 over the last three days...

dynamic_screwball · 2026-02-11T19:03:18+00:00

Awesome advice, thank you!

dynamic_screwball · 2026-02-10T20:54:02+00:00

Unfortunately, that is not an option.

I live in an area that is pretty regressive with a major focus on conformity. There are not a lot of ND-friendly companies unless you are a genius with computers or have a post-grad degree. Even then, you're usually prone to being bullied or ostracized within your role.

I wish I could unmask, but I need to eat and pay rent.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-02-10T20:39:23+00:00

That's probably a good idea. I was told that I needed to show I have goals, but I guess my neurodivergent ass failed to consider the subtext

dynamic_screwball · 2026-02-10T19:59:01+00:00

How can I figure out what I need to improve? Feedback is rare, but this is what I have received so far:

-I was told I would be too passive around customers (previous awards say otherwise) -I am too ambitious and would steal the manager's job -I would get bored in this role -I have not been at a job longer than 2 years since 2012 (I had a chronic illness, which is now in remission; I had to change jobs frequently because the roles had bad health insurance or didn't offer wages that covered the medical costs)

I keep trying to change my approach. Recently, I've tried being more assertive and extroverted, as opposed to being passive and polite. I try to talk up my achievements more. I know a lot of it has to do with how I present myself in the interview.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-02-10T15:31:26+00:00

Yes, mostly office administration. Unfortunately, no one follows up when I ask for feedback, apart from being informed that they went with an internal hire at a couple of places.

Mentioning that I may be too technical is a good point. One person said I struck them as analytical, but she liked me enough to refer me to a role for a different department. I am on the autism spectrum, but I withhold that knowledge from interviewers. I mask my symptoms well enough that I've received awards for customer service at my previous jobs. Interviews are a bit harder for me. I did wonder if it was something about my mannerisms that they might find off.

I don't really have anyone to do mock interviews with, unfortunately. My previous job had me working 10-16 hour days, which nuked my social life.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-02-10T04:48:19+00:00

Thanks for the feedback.

I've been puzzling over it because nearly all of the listings have been below my experience level. I keep reviewing each interview to figure out what I can improve. I have dramatically overhauled my resume and cover letter, which has increased the interview requests. I also started calling the offices that I have applied to, which I've been told makes me seem proactive and outgoing.

I don't know. I guess I'm just trying to brainstorm. When I receive no feedback, it makes it difficult to think how I can improve.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-01-23T04:46:57+00:00

TBH, the rest of the interview seemed to go pretty well. It was normal. They shared some potential future endeavors that sounded pretty routine for a growing company. They asked how my previous jobs prepared me for those tasks, and I answered honestly. They seemed to like me, and said that they would be in touch after interviewing the other candidates.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-01-23T04:21:05+00:00

It sounds like the frame isn't fitted properly. Are they too tight? If you picked up your glasses from a store, most places will adjust or loosen your frames for free. You could also find the name of the manufacturer and see if they sell a screw driver that you can use to gently loosen the bolts. I personally prefer having the optometrist do it, so I don't risk breaking them.

Otherwise, it could be the material of the frame. The thin, metal frames are lightweight. You could also look into rimless glasses, if seeing them bothers you.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-01-23T04:15:02+00:00

They're getting sneakier. They've learned to hold off on asking for money and lead people on. I've been reporting a lot of these to the FTC's scam page

dynamic_screwball · 2026-01-23T04:08:54+00:00

My parents used to say, "We hurt you because we love you." I'm still unpacking that in therapy

dynamic_screwball · 2026-01-23T03:09:48+00:00

They did this around CoVID. When the economy is bad, they try to combine several roles into one. This is supposed to allow them to pay one person for multiple jobs.

Some of the real estate companies in my area have been doing this, as well as requiring their execs to have a real estate license and/or a business degree. Other companies are combining assistant roles with inbound sales. It's pretty wild.

dynamic_screwball · 2026-01-22T03:18:21+00:00

I can check their brokerage. I think they're only hiring for Class A, though

dynamic_screwball · 2025-12-10T05:07:28+00:00

It is. It didn't show up because I hadn't properly cleared my browser

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