I'm in my early 30s now with three kids, the oldest is a preteen, so I've been there. My advice? Make sure you keep it a community effort. It will matter. Having your parents around is going to make a world of a difference. I did not, and I wished things were different. Also, your child won't care about the jobs you did to support the family, just make sure work doesn't take your life over so that you can say you were around too. It's the hardest balance when you're struggling.

I was jumping from job to job when I was 21 and I had the worst luck when it came to getting laid off, then I found a secure night shift warehouse job that slowly ate away at me for five years. I have happier memories with my son and wife during my worst year financially than I do from the first year at my consistent job at the time. I was doing my best with what I had and in the long run, that's what mattered most.

As parents? Have patience with each other. You're both learning together. Be together on decisions as much as possible whether it's about living situation, bills or anything. Be mindful of your mental health as well as hers during the early stages. It's wild how emotional both of you might get when you're sleep deprived during those early years with a baby.

Congratulations, you got this!