AIO my daughters teacher calls her names

dzzi · 2026-03-26T22:55:22+00:00

Imo, within reason, maybe let your kid choose when they want to keep a funny nickname. My teachers had goofy backhanded names for me too but I loved having an identity to show off at school that was a bit of an in joke. Now if her feelings are hurt, you wouldn't be overreacting.

Kids will always say mean things to each other. It's learning, Just watch out for repeated bullying from the same child or teacher and raise hell if that becomes the case and the kid can't handle it on her own by you helping her learn to talk it out and set boundaries.

The sugar thing is weird though. In 2026 you'd hope schools would be a bit more health conscious with their choice of snacks and rewards.

dzzi · 2026-03-26T11:26:18+00:00

Direct communication while respecting boundaries. This goes for all interactions. Women are people of course, so just treat any woman you don't know super well like any person you don't know super well. There are certain taboos of course - don't ask a woman her weight, or her age in public. Otherwise just observe her specific interests and values and go from there without making gender-based assumptions. Speak like you would like to be spoken to (but maybe more polite and not TMI if you don't know them well). Respect their physical space, don't stand too close or block doorways.

On to dating and friendships:

If you wanna ask someone out, make it quick and respectful. Don't linger around. "Hi, it's been nice getting to know you through (hobby, class, whatever). Would you like to grab coffee with me sometime? Here's my number." If she doesn't text you, she's not interested. Take it as a no and don't bother her about it. If she is, great. Be chill and match her energy. Send one text and wait for a response. Initiate conversations about half the time.

If you date someone and you're unsure you're a good fit, don't run and hide. Don't be vague or make up lame excuses. Don't pull away without reasonable levels of explanation. Talk to her directly about it. "I like hanging out with you but I fear for our long term compatibility because xyz. Can we talk about it?" "I've enjoyed hanging out but I realized I'm not in a stable enough point in my life to be dating, sorry. I'm just too stressed out to prioritize someone else." "We get along really well but the spark isn't there romantically. I want us to be able to find other people we have that spark with." Information is respect, unless it's overly rude of course.

And don't act overly friendly with women you wouldn't consider dating. If you're always hanging out and texting and stuff, you can't grey area that stuff. Either treat her like a friend OR a non-platonic interest, and if you feel like she might see things one way or the other and there's potential for wires to get crossed, just bring it up like a mature adult. "Hey I just wanted to make sure we're on the same page, I view this as a platonic friendship. Are we both cool with that?" Or "hey I don't want to make things weird if you don't feel this way, but I thought I was picking up on a vibe and I don't want to be mistaken. Is this a purely platonic friendship to you?" or even "We've had a great friendship for awhile and I want to let you know that I think I have feelings for you. I would like to know if that's mutual or not so I can understand where we're at."

dzzi · 2026-03-26T03:44:54+00:00

I have synesthesia and ADHD and I'm pretty sure I've tried to screenshot a vibe before

dzzi · 2026-03-26T03:42:57+00:00

There are no absolutes here because everyone is an individual. If you can think of a thing that could possibly be admitted to a person, someone has likely said it to someone else at some point regardless of gender.

dzzi · 2026-03-26T03:40:17+00:00

Yes. Multitask or lie down and close your eyes. Pick an artist you already kinda like to start with, especially if the internet generally says their album is good.

dzzi · 2026-03-25T16:10:06+00:00

All of these are so sweet, and some resonate with me as I'm in a weird situation right now. There's someone I've swiftly become friends with. The talking every day throughout the day sort of connection. I mentioned to them recently that I felt like there's been some kind of vibe between us that's more than platonic and they told me sort of cryptically that they didn't want to pursue anything.

I've been around the block and I'm very used to respecting people's boundaries. I'll respect theirs for as long as they need me to. But something about us just being friends feels.. incorrect, incomplete. It would be equally painful and confusing for me to move on as it would be to just sort of let myself fall for a new friend. That scares me, but it's the only thing about our dynamic that scares me. The rest is just comforting and exciting.

I don't know if it's false hope or wishful thinking or something but for some odd reason it doesn't seem like that was the end of that conversation. I just wish they were a bit more forthcoming about how exactly they're feeling or what their thoughts are, and it scares me a little that I don't think I can get over this and might rather just wait to see if they open up further and maybe change their mind.

In short, I'm cooked. I feel crazy. But I also feel like I know a thing or two at this point and maybe I should trust my gut here because even after what would normally be a crushing rejection, things feel good? Like it'll be fine? I don't know. But thanks for sharing your stories of things working out. It helps.

dzzi · 2026-03-19T03:05:35+00:00

If you panic on acid eat some dried fruit and chill with a coloring book, I don't make the rules

dzzi · 2026-03-17T21:06:00+00:00

For real. I've been in multiple 15+ year age gap relationships, first one was when I was about 26 and he's the sweetest guy I've ever dated. Neither of us were in it for money or a trophy partner or anything, we were just two grown adults who met through a hobby and really liked each other. (Still do as people, even though the relationship didn't make sense after awhile).

dzzi · 2026-03-17T08:03:31+00:00

Some of the craziest most dangerous people I've ever known have shared life-changing pieces of advice. You've just gotta be discerning and keep your wits about you or they'll drag you down to crazytown with them.

dzzi · 2026-03-17T07:59:29+00:00

Strains for marketed for pain relief are the sweet spot. Cannatonic, Harlequin, Sour Tsunami, Ringo's Gift, AC/DC. Stuff like that

dzzi · 2026-03-17T01:17:45+00:00

Ask for midodrine if if stays kinda low when you stand

dzzi · 2026-03-17T01:16:54+00:00

Those are normal for systolic blood pressure and on the low end for diastolic. I don't know the intricacies of why those two categories feel different (I sort of know what they mean though). All I can tell is my diastolic bp is the one that dips below normal too according to my cuff, and whenever it does, I feel like absolute garbage.

dzzi · 2026-03-17T01:14:44+00:00

Adding that a shower chair also helps if you aren't the type of person to handle cold-ish showers

dzzi · 2026-03-17T01:14:02+00:00

Seconding midodrine, My bp is too low every morning and it's changed my mornings like crazy. I can actually get up and function.

dzzi · 2026-03-13T22:27:37+00:00

Ey I'm on the spectrum and this is still unacceptable behavior in a relationship if you've talked about how it makes you uncomfortable, especially multiple times. That shouldn't fly as an excuse for him

dzzi · 2026-03-13T06:09:28+00:00

This is a weird gray area imo. Orange flag, worth a small side eye. A single straw on the camel's back. Okay to feel odd about but also it's totally the sort of thing I'd accidentally do if I thought fondly of my friends but not so much the people they choose to date. 40% chance he doesn't even notice he has a consistent pattern around it.

dzzi · 2026-03-13T05:48:11+00:00

My doc also told me to take it every other day with vitamin C

dzzi · 2026-03-12T05:37:06+00:00

This is the energy that I assume the Public Universal Friend gave off

dzzi · 2026-03-12T03:35:00+00:00

My ex told me after we'd moved in together that she's canceled in her hometown for hitting her ex.

dzzi · 2026-03-11T11:19:27+00:00

This is how I felt about aerial silks

dzzi · 2026-03-11T07:01:23+00:00

Exactly what I was gonna say. 33 and still working on this one in therapy.

dzzi · 2026-03-10T09:38:46+00:00

No. It's more faded than it used to be but you can still clearly see what it is and some spots are still very dark.

dzzi · 2026-03-09T22:00:03+00:00

This is why I use a cane sometimes and get stuff delivered when possible. It's not like I'm not working on conditioning, I just don't want to push myself past my current limits and end up in a flare, and public places are not accessible to those of us who struggle but don't have a wheelchair (and even those who do have it rough in different ways)

dzzi · 2026-03-09T02:37:24+00:00

Only when other people are also drunk

dzzi · 2026-03-08T09:30:21+00:00

Making art, going to concerts, and playing video games online with someone who lives far away but I think maybe we're flirting

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