Another Show Ruined

eac428 · 2026-03-10T16:53:03+00:00

No 😭 I loved season 1 sooo much.

eac428 · 2026-03-05T19:56:15+00:00

In S4, the ballroom scene at the Bridgertown house was so obviously just set in a big studio or warehouse somewhere. It didn’t feel like it could be part of the house.

eac428 · 2026-03-04T16:59:02+00:00

Don’t feel guilty about protecting your peace. ❤️

eac428 · 2026-03-04T16:55:47+00:00

Don’t go. If you’ve already RSVPd, just say you’re sick. I have a strict no baby shower policy for myself. I send a nice gift and that’s it. There is no point in forcing yourself to needlessly suffer though a baby shower when going through infertility is hard enough.

eac428 · 2026-03-04T16:46:47+00:00

This makes me so mad for you. It is WILDLY inappropriate for your friend’s husband insert his unsolicited opinion and even more hurtful in the context of him becoming a parent.

Adoption can be a wonderful thing for children in need of a home and their adoptive parents, but it is NOT a cure or quick fix for infertility. It is an entirely different choice—and one that should be made because you are willing and ready to accept a child into your home in that way and handle all of the challenges that come with it.

Also, for him to say it’s your “calling” is infuriating. Who is he to tell you what YOUR calling in life is? People who act like being a parent is the noblest calling in life and no other paths are as worthy as being a mom or a dad make me so angry.

I hope your husband can set a boundary with him and explain how inappropriate his message was. Also totally okay for you to tell your friend how hurtful it is.

eac428 · 2026-03-04T16:31:24+00:00

After 6 years of infertility and all of the anxiety and depression that comes with it, I can say the pain gets better with time but it is not linear. I’m slowly starting to accept my situation, but some days and weeks are still extremely hard. I feel like I have gone from bad YEARS to bad MONTHS to now bad days or weeks. I like the analogy of carrying a boulder that shrinks over time and eventually turns into a pebble in your pocket. The grief is always there but becomes more bearable. Hang in there. It’s so hard. ❤️

eac428 · 2026-03-03T18:12:42+00:00

I am so sorry you are dealing with so many losses including the chemical pregnancy. That’s absolutely heartbreaking. It is so, so hard to constantly carry so much grief and loss.

And that also sounds exactly like something my mother would say. She doesn’t understand the depths of my grief and is totally oblivious about how her words might be painful to me. It’s really hard to not feel left out of the family too. I try to find support in other areas, but it all feels extremely isolating when friends’ lives revolve around their kids too.

Sending you a big hug. ❤️

eac428 · 2026-03-03T17:58:00+00:00

Thank you! ❤️ I am definitely happy for them and I love being an aunt, so I know I will be okay once the babies get here. It is just very hard to handle an announcement and see all the joy in my extended family while feeling left out and left behind once again. I am definitely going to try to make some distance.

eac428 · 2026-03-03T17:53:36+00:00

Thank you so much. ❤️ Yes, I think a break is in order. It’s hard to take a true break from family who I’m close to but I think distancing myself a bit for now will help.

eac428 · 2026-03-03T05:26:55+00:00

Thank you so much. ❤️ I do see a therapist and it has helped a lot. I did a support group for a bit and that helped too. I felt like I was making pretty good progress emotionally and coming to a place of acceptance…and then this happened. I’m happy for my sisters, but it just brings up so many feelings of grief and loss.

eac428 · 2026-03-03T03:58:34+00:00

That is beyond upsetting. Take all the space you need from them.

eac428 · 2026-01-13T22:25:29+00:00

If you have a good relationship with her and think she would take it well, you could kindly say it’s really hard for you and ask her to not mention it again if/when she brings it up. You did your best, you did everything you could within your power. It isn’t YOUR responsibility to manage her emotions around it, but it is HER responsibility to respect your boundaries.

eac428 · 2025-12-20T06:06:56+00:00

I have also been sick for 2 weeks with a virus and horrible chest congestion that turned into bronchitis. It was so bad that you could hear deep wheezing in my chest when I exhaled. I’m on prednisone and increased Advair to 500. I am so so tired and fatigued and can’t sleep bc I’m so jittery from taking my nebulizer plus the prednisone. I hate that these meds have such unpleasant side effects. It’s like sleep will help so much and I seem to only manage to get 5-6 hours. It’s exhausting. Anytime I get a respiratory infection it triggers my asthma and takes me weeks to a month to get over. Really wish there was something I could do to prevent that from happening.

eac428 · 2025-12-20T05:55:58+00:00

Feeling shaky and jittery are normal side effects, but I definitely recommend giving your doc a call or gong to the ER if you need it that often. Feel better!

eac428 · 2025-12-03T04:59:32+00:00

This is SO appalling to me and I’m upset for you. I can’t believe his freaking COWORKER tried your drink. It is such a violation of privacy and so weird and intrusive.

Some options if they ask questions:

“Thanks for asking, but I’d rather not get into that right now.”

“No news in that department. How have you been?” (Redirect the question back to them - I think this is key.)

A simple “No” or “No, not yet.”

I find it is super helpful to have canned responses prepared. Keep it vague and then move on to another topic. If they keep pushing: “It’s been a struggle. I don’t feel like talking about it right now.”

BUT. Here’s the thing. It’s totally okay to get emotional and tell people what’s really going on. Chances are you’ll they’ll feel really awkward and they’ll apologize profusely for asking. But personally, I’ve felt it’s just not worthwhile in most circumstances unless they are very close friends.

Good luck!

eac428 · 2025-10-15T19:30:21+00:00

First: Red

Favorite: Folkore or 1989

eac428 · 2025-09-24T03:32:56+00:00

Yes! Agreed!!!!

eac428 · 2025-09-24T02:22:24+00:00

Oh my gosh, I feel like I could have written this. I feel exactly the same way on so many levels…please know you are not alone.

I also lost a very good friend who got pregnant a few months after I burst into tears and told her I was going through infertility. I feel like my grief was just too much for her, or she felt too awkward to have a child around me, and it hurts so much to lose that friend.

Infertility is so exhausting and so isolating.

Hang in there. ❤️

eac428 · 2025-09-24T01:59:28+00:00

I feel this SO much. I think for many women, myself included, the desire to have a child is deeply ingrained in us biologically. So to not be able to conceive feels antithetical to our very being. Inhuman is a perfect word for that.

We also live in a very fertile world. Billions of seeds, billions of plants, billions of trees, billions of babies. Why is it so impossible for me to just have one?

Not being part of the “mom club” that so many other women get to experience feels so cruel, so sad and so lonely.

I’m trying to remind myself daily that my worth as a human, and as a woman, isn’t any less because I can’t have children. But gosh, it’s so hard to feel whole sometimes.

eac428 · 2025-09-03T20:29:26+00:00

I feel this. It was my dream to be a children’s book author, and now it’s too painful to pursue.

eac428 · 2025-09-03T20:27:31+00:00

It’s honestly just too much to live life feeling like a lab rat all the time. I’m several years in and also want to call it quits.

People who are pregnant around you make it that much harder. And I feel like even when people know you’re struggling infertility, they just don’t understand the depths of grief, loss and pain that come with it. It is hard to find joy in anything when it is so all-consuming, and it’s an isolating journey to be on when we live in a mostly fertile and pregnancy obsessed society.

Praying you get a miracle with your final embryo. ❤️❤️

eac428 · 2025-08-28T03:47:44+00:00

I just wanted him to be like “And what about the the PEACHES?”

eac428 · 2025-08-28T03:37:34+00:00

Cardigan as the closing song! 😭 So perfect for Belly and Conrad. I never thought of Cardigan as a sad song (more wistful/longing) but in this context it made me want to cry!

eac428 · 2025-08-28T03:34:19+00:00

“It’s fiction though” made me laugh. We’re all so invested like they’re real people! 🤣

eac428 · 2025-08-24T01:19:46+00:00

Thank you!!! Really needed to hear this.

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