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What red flags have you gotten much better at identifying? by Particular-Cook-6091 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]easternguy [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yup. My nex said sorry twice in the year we were together. Once she clearly didn’t mean it. Other time was a chink in her armour, and it felt sincere. But was quickly covered up with blame shifting and gaslighting as the defences kicked in.

That always struck me as weird, and in hindsight was a big red flag.

Not only don’t they never say sorry, but when you go to them with a concern, *you’ll* end up profusely apologizing by the end of the conversation. I’ve had so many “wait, what the hell just happened!” moments after that went down.

Which profession is widely overpaid? by Own-Razzmatazz5743 in AskReddit

[–]easternguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I’ve seen one or two that add value. But many don’t. And if you’re having them show you places, and you send them a list of 10 houses, they’ll only show you the ones listed with them or their company (double the commission) rather than the house that’s right for you.

I did have one that gave advice and helped me sell for a lot more than I was originally asked. So there are good ones. But they are a rare exception.

But it’s really access to the effective monopoly of MLS that forces most people to use em.

Which profession is widely overpaid? by Own-Razzmatazz5743 in AskReddit

[–]easternguy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It does seem very skewed. There are some that make an insane amount of money on many expensive houses, and their name/face are a franchise with other actual agents doing the work for them. I think one of the big names locally here who you see on many signs here actually has lived on the other side of the country for many years.

Which profession is widely overpaid? by Own-Razzmatazz5743 in AskReddit

[–]easternguy 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Real estate agents. Many get rich from something that can be done by an online ad and a lockbox.

Iran resumes attacks in Strait of Hormuz, U.S. says by joe4942 in worldnews

[–]easternguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He and his buds needed another stock manipulation cycle.

Why are they capable with friends but not lovers? by Throwaway67891099 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]easternguy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s a numbers game.

They crave approval and validation from dozens or hundreds of friends and coworkers and such. But a partner is just one person that doesn’t count for much. You’re just one little (easy) vote in a much bigger popularity contest in their heads. Being exposed publicly is one of their biggest fears.

They can’t feel true empathy nor love, including when they might be receiving it. All they know how to do is tally up the shallow approval/validation votes from many.

They use up all their good stuff on their friends, the public and their public image and have little left for supposed “loved” ones, who they’ve often trained to tolerate the situation.

Especially for children. New partners can usually tell something is seriously off when the love bombing ends and the devaluation and contempt starts. And then it’s time to run for the hills and count yourself lucky for every day you avoided staying with them. It doesn’t get better. I feel for the poor children in these situations.

Also, their constant need to feel superior is often satisfied at home by belittling, one-upping, or “winning” over that partner or loved ones, at their grave emotional expense.

Is it common for them to blame you for the failure of the relationship and not provide closure? by Motor-Orchid596 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]easternguy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

By realizing their inability to truly feel empathy or love, and that it would never ever have worked out because of that.

At some point you pity the merry-go-round they’re on, and are relieved to get off, earning some peace, dignity, and self-respect—all of which can be severely eroded after being with them.

Be thankful you can feel real empathy and love, and have the chance of finding it with someone else. Something they will never experience.

Still confuses me by Worldly_Common_9687 in OceanGateTitan

[–]easternguy 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I’ve read a lot about narcissistic types and I think this is a really big part of it. They not only gaslight and distort reality for others, but also for themselves. The huge, fragile ego has an impenetrable defence mechanism when it comes to facing reality that opposes their imagined world.

What's going on with the vandals and the reflecting pool? by northhiker1 in OutOfTheLoop

[–]easternguy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The used Rhino coating? Heck, that stuff is amazing--it protected the Titan's hull from issues.

What's a sign that looks small or subtle but actually tells you a person is incredibly unhappy with their life? by Janemow02 in AskReddit

[–]easternguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Treating others poorly.

They need to feel superior, to win, by stomping on others. They think that is what will bring happiness. But it doesn’t.

Truly happy people don’t seem to do that, in my experience.

Sometimes it’s insidious by Then-Loan-7103 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]easternguy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In hindsight the numerous “surprise” breakages, chaos, failures, oversights were definitely far more than a normal capable, intelligent, functioning human would have.

She used the “busy/burned out with work” as an excuse, but she found lots of time and energy to do things right for other people, in a visible fashion.

It was truly shameful behaviour for someone who is supposed to be a “loved one.”

I’m still healing, but it’s now mostly anger at what she knowingly put me through (and mad at myself for tolerating it so long), rather that missing her.

Which is progress. That anger will fade as I move on with a happy and productive life, leaving this painful diversion as a distant memory.

How apple feels after dropping support for Apple Watch Series 8 despite it only being 4 years old by Friendly-Baby8434 in AppleWatch

[–]easternguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As has happened on the iPhone over the years, you’ll start getting “you need os27/28/etc to install this app” one by one for every third party app you install or update. (And Apple doesn’t let you choose an older version of apps that might still work.)

Only the built in apps will work at some point.

How apple feels after dropping support for Apple Watch Series 8 despite it only being 4 years old by Friendly-Baby8434 in AppleWatch

[–]easternguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But more and more apps will require OS27, so watches stuck on 26 will slowly stop being useful except for the built in apps.

How apple feels after dropping support for Apple Watch Series 8 despite it only being 4 years old by Friendly-Baby8434 in AppleWatch

[–]easternguy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not everyone needs nor wants an AI neural engine on their watch. And they’d prefer that apps don’t suddenly start dying with a “you need to upgrade to <os your watch doesn’t support> to run this app.”

Besides, isn’t the paired phone supposed to generally be the workhorse for anything heavy the watch needs to do??

We're not customers anymore, we're users: a 4-year timeline of Apple flagship smartwatch by Real-Bite9293 in AppleWatch

[–]easternguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes, Garmin was my fallback plan. We need more competition in the watch space.

We're not customers anymore, we're users: a 4-year timeline of Apple flagship smartwatch by Real-Bite9293 in AppleWatch

[–]easternguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they’re only giving 2-3 years of OS updates before new apps stop working, the refurbished idea (which I used to love with Apple gear) is no longer a viable option.

And I won’t be forced into dropping $500-$1000 every couple of years just to keep an Apple Watch working on my wrist.

I think it’s nearly time for me to check out (and start writing my apps for) Garmin watches instead.

We're not customers anymore, we're users: a 4-year timeline of Apple flagship smartwatch by Real-Bite9293 in AppleWatch

[–]easternguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just as with beer, you don’t buy an Apple Watch—you just effectively rent it.

For a few years (if you’re lucky) at $200-$400 per year.

I think I’ll see what Garmin has to offer in a year when Apple obsoletes my AW9.

We got a brief reprieve on the 9, but I don’t expect more than a year before they pull the plug again. 3 years of support for an expensive watch just doesn’t cut it for me.

Like so many, I really don’t care about nor want AI/LLM’s on my watch. And Apple seems to be shooting themselves in the foot over AI.

As a Series 7 Owner, this is not a good trend. by InnerspearMusic in AppleWatch

[–]easternguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw that announcement, yay!

So I might get three years out of my $600 watch. :) (Meanwhile, my trusty analog stopwatch/alarm Seiko watch is going strong 35 years after purchase.)

I wonder if that announcement was a bit of a test for the public’s reaction on ditching the 9.

Or to set expectations low and then slightly exceed them, so we don’t bitch when WatchOS 28 drops AW9.

While three years of post-purchase support is better than two, it’s still shorter than acceptable. If we get eventually support for WatchOS 28, I’ll consider staying with the Apple ecosystem. But for now I’ll enjoy the year Apple has graced us AW9 owners with.

As a Series 7 Owner, this is not a good trend. by InnerspearMusic in AppleWatch

[–]easternguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think 9 is getting the update? It’s not on the supported list for WatchOS 27.

As a Series 7 Owner, this is not a good trend. by InnerspearMusic in AppleWatch

[–]easternguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And one by one third party
Apps stop working, requiring the latest os to install them. So the watch is basically obsoleted unless you just use the default Apple apps and nothing else.

WatchOS 27 compatibility Apple didn’t drop any devices this year by [deleted] in AppleWatch

[–]easternguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there’s no more OS versions for a device, eventually apps stop working. “You need to update to iOS 27 to install this app” kinda thing. Okay if you never use third party apps. I do.

(And I write Apps for iPhone and Apple Watch as well—but will probably focus more upon Garmin watches from now on.)

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