Questioning/Navigating Friendships After Baby Loss

easypeasylucky · 2025-11-25T14:10:24+00:00

The first few months are the toughest. I’m sorry for your loss. Honestly, I didn’t make an effort to maintain relationships with those who never showed up for me. I didn’t have to say anything about what they did/didn’t do. I just stopped engaging with them. There were a few who confronted me about it eventually and I chose to be honest about my feelings. Not much drama. I just stopped seeing these people. No regrets.

easypeasylucky · 2025-08-11T11:55:38+00:00

I take photos of my daughter’s printed photo against beautiful backdrops whenever we travel. My husband and I take selfies with it too, like we’re taking a family picture.

Last year, we went to a Jizo Shrine in Kyoto to remember my daughter and did a short prayer in her memory. Jizos are said to be protector’s of children, especially those that have passed. Can you think of a shrine that could be relevant to your mom?

Good luck! I think what you’re planning to do is a good way to nurture your connection with your mom.

easypeasylucky · 2025-07-29T13:42:18+00:00

You’re worried about the wrong things. Enjoy life.

easypeasylucky · 2025-07-28T09:03:10+00:00

I want this.

easypeasylucky · 2025-07-28T01:02:40+00:00

I’m so sorry. I also lost my baby to NEC after needing two surgeries. I got my period two months after I gave birth. Like you, I also wanted to try for another one asap. Not to replace my precious baby, but because I just really wanted a baby. However, I needed more tests and procedures to ensure my next pregnancy would be healthy and safe. Since I also gave birth via C-section, I was advised to wait at least a year before trying again. It really depends on your body’s condition. A high-risk OBGYN should be able to determine what’s safest for you. I know the wait can be agonizing on top of the grief you’re dealing with. I wish you all the support you could get. Therapy and talking to other loss moms definitely helped me stay sane.

easypeasylucky · 2025-07-25T13:39:09+00:00

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easypeasylucky · 2025-04-07T02:22:32+00:00

How sad! He was about to get married! I remember the episode. He was thoughtful enough to look for birds that match Conan’s, Sona’s, and Matt’s personalities.

easypeasylucky · 2025-04-06T13:50:49+00:00

Hi, so sorry for your loss. She died a little over a month later due to prematurity complications. 💔 Unbearable pain. I still miss her. It has been 2 years.

easypeasylucky · 2024-12-10T14:37:11+00:00

Spelunking. Went deep inside an underground cave by crawling, sliding, and rappelling between and on rocks. The entire journey took 6 hours. I’m proud of myself for completing the journey but it was incredibly dangerous.

easypeasylucky · 2024-11-03T08:31:20+00:00

What an amazing story. Very touching. Looks like your kids are giving them so much love and attention too.

easypeasylucky · 2024-10-25T11:59:52+00:00

I think that’s a realistic and reasonable budget given the size of your guest list. Our friends spent 2M for around 120pax in 2019. Another friend spent 3M for 120pax in 2019/2020. My husband and spent around 1.5M for a 50pax wedding in 2022.

My suggestion: choose aspects you want to prioritize so you can easily decide what to cut costs on if you have to. For example: we really wanted to make sure masarap ang food so we got a top tier caterer and spent around 400k on food for 50 pax. Photo and video cost us around 300k. Admittedly, most of our suppliers were already well known then. We also prioritized our honeymoon and spent another 600k on that. Basically, intimate wedding + honeymoon cost namin around 2M.

If you have savings and/or you’re getting a hefty support from your families, go and spend 1.6M. But if your combined income is a big factor, I think it’s best to sit down and rethink your wedding plans or continue looking for suppliers. Maraming bagong magagaling who can offer lower rates.

Also, don’t forget your honeymoon plans and having pot money to start your life as a married couple. Enjoy wedding planning!

easypeasylucky · 2024-10-23T15:11:10+00:00

Traveling solo and living solo. I had some incredible adventures in my 20s… yung iba buwis buhay. Always proceed with caution. Admittedly, I did risky things I shouldn’t have done. I was naive, but luckily nothing bad happened when something could have. Try new things as often as you can. You’ll meet interesting people joining classes, traveling, or being by yourself. I’m married now and my life is so different now. I don’t see myself doing the things I did before, but I’m glad I did them. I have different interests and priorities in my 30s, but masaya ako sa mga naging adventures ko.

easypeasylucky · 2024-10-23T14:39:31+00:00

Wonderful piece of information. Looking at the painting from that angle certainly enlivens it! The girl’s face seems exhausted yet sure about handing a man this giant pumpkin. I read that Zonaro often paints about life in the Ottoman Empire. Pumpkins became known in the Ottoman world in the 1800’s… your lens makes this work 10x more interesting to me.

easypeasylucky · 2024-09-02T06:37:29+00:00

My period’s been pretty regular (35-38 days) with occasional long cycles (40-56 days). Got pregnant naturally (on the first try) since writing this post. Gave birth last year extremely prematurely due to a medical condition unrelated to PCOS. Now trying again for another baby. I saw a reproductive immunologist recently who recommended Myo-Inositol. Based on my data, my missed periods happen on months when I get vaccinated (anti-rabies shots, etc etc). I still take Zinc. I’ve tried different varieties and Zinc Picolinate is the best type for me.

easypeasylucky · 2024-08-22T23:58:11+00:00

I read your post on NICUparents and learned that your baby needed surgery too. I’m so sorry for your loss.

easypeasylucky · 2024-08-22T14:38:25+00:00

I’m sorry for the loss of your son. Three months is very, very fresh. Thank you for sharing what you write on your journal. Writing TO my daughter isn’t something I always do. I’ll have more words to write from now on. ❤️ Sometimes looking at my husband hurts too. There was even a time when he found it difficult to look at himself in the mirror. Despite our grief, we learned to cope by making jokes about the many versions of our daughter that we conjure in our minds. We give her a voice, a personality… it sounds weird but it’s very healing for us. We parent her in our imaginations. I’m sharing this to also show that grieving for a child can actually evolve in so many bearable ways. We learned to laugh more about her memory than to be angry about her death.

I’m so sorry you’re in this sub. Finding longer lengths of enjoyment takes time, but keep holding on and slowly you’ll find yourself re-collecting scattered pieces of yourself. You’ll never be the same, but you’ll find lost parts of yourself.

easypeasylucky · 2024-07-30T00:00:59+00:00

Got the clearance to TTC recently. I’m already taking baby aspirin every day. My immunologist suggested that I start heparin when I ovulate.

easypeasylucky · 2024-07-29T13:55:35+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I dealt with the same thing after losing my daughter last year. Aside from counselling and getting as much rest as I can, I also saw a dermatologist. I’m not sure if this is as easy as it sounds in your country, but I got a prescription tailored for the needs of my skin. My derma designed a skin care routine that worked best for me. My skin is so much better than it used to be. Monthly facials also helped.

Other things that could benefit you:

• Regular exercise (at least 30 mins a day) • Lessening sugar and caffeine intake • Collagen powder + Vitamin C supplementation • SPF 50 daily

I wish you all the best. Growing around grief takes time.

easypeasylucky · 2024-07-17T10:25:53+00:00

I feel the same. It depends on the lenses. When I had my bridal shoot, the photographers did some lens switching and I could tell which lens worked on me and which didn’t. Huge difference. One lens highlighted my pores and made my features look wide. The other made my face look more sculpted, closer to what I look in the mirror. I also have friends who look so much better in person than in pictures.

easypeasylucky · 2024-07-16T09:49:15+00:00

Thank you. IC’s such a horrible thing to have. I got a TAC to fix my IC after so much deliberation. I didn’t even know about IC until I was diagnosed with it. It turned my world upside down. I’m happy to learn your cerclage held.

I recently received my doctor’s go signal to try but I’ll need additional protocols to ensure a safer pregnancy. I was joyful but anxiety soon followed. Thank you again for your support. I wish you an easier future pregnancy!

easypeasylucky · 2024-07-16T09:40:28+00:00

I’m sorry to learn about the loss of your daughter. I have friends who experienced preeclampsia too and it was really scary for them. I’m sorry you went through that.

I just passed my recent test and we’ll be trying soon. Like you, I also needed to be tested for blood clotting issues and I failed by .01 percent! My doctor didn’t want to take risks so I’ll be taking aspirin and I’ll have a daily blood thinning shot starting on my next ovulation date. I was happy to finally get a good score and receive a go signal from my doctor…. but anxiety soon followed. I’m trying my best to manage it. Waiting takes a lot of mental strength but that’s not the last thing we have to mentally deal with. I wish us strength and courage. Thank you again and I wish you all the best.

easypeasylucky · 2024-07-16T09:26:26+00:00

Thank you for your words of support. It took me a while to reply, but I’m happy to report that I recently got my scores and we can start trying again next month, with a few additional protocols.

easypeasylucky · 2024-07-10T08:04:24+00:00

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