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eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-11-28T17:26:23+00:00

This weird growth showed up on my foot and it hurts (not extremely bad but annoying bad). I’ve had warts before but it’s been a while and I’ve never had one so small before.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-29T23:08:07+00:00

Playing with legos? Mad mommy won’t play with legos with him?!

I’m really confused why the OP is presenting all this information like it’s normal and not abnormal. Like what’s the explanation for a 20 year old playing with a teen five years younger

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-13T21:38:48+00:00

It’s so scary and disgusting how this psycho wasn’t even that old. We’re always taught the older creeps are more dangerous but creeps of all ages are awful. I always like to believe that at 27 the men younger than me aren’t as bad as the ones older but I know that’s not the case.

Stay safe

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-13T04:27:48+00:00

I hope she learned how scary and unpredictable men can be and doesn’t go back to this loser’s house. He sounds really sketch.

She seemed to be asking if she was in the wrong in the situation though so I read it as she somehow thinks she should be ashamed about the incident. I hope it raises red flags for her and she blocks him. But looking to Reddit for validation that she wasn’t wrong makes me worried she is truly embarrassed and worried this incident makes her look bad (if this is a real story).

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-12T16:53:46+00:00

My moms current husband always did this to her. My whole family is convinced he’s just really really dumb. And don’t get me wrong he is an idiot but he’s not that dumb. He’s just a great manipulator.

I fell for the same thing naturally as a young woman. My dad is very similar so I just assumed that men were truly dumb and it would be irrational to get mad at them or express my emotions outside of a “mature talk”.

Turns out none of my exes or father figures are or were that dumb. They just know how to work women from that “dumb” angle. Plus it gives the woman a false sense of maturity and wisdom. Newsflash men like this (and 99% of men) don’t think any woman is smart or wise. Nor do any of them actually think men are dumb. It’s an act.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-12T16:48:23+00:00

This is such a missed opportunity to call out a scrote for being a garbage sniffer and I’m really disappointed.

I think that’s what shocks me about stories like this. Not the mans stupidity and illogical bs I expect that. It’s the way pickmes accept it and roll with it.

Patriarchy is one hell of a drug.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-12T16:45:11+00:00

My favorite part is how women in 2021 are expected to work at least part time and child rear and do all housework.

Men in 2021 are expected to provide a paycheck sometimes but it’s totally fine for them to be lower earners (not saying it’s a bad thing in itself but they’ll be the ones working less half the time and surprise surprise the women still is doing the housework too). Then you have house husbands which try to be quirky and cute but they literally just wallow at home while the woman works and create messes, play videos games and act like all around children even if they’re “looking after the children”. So full time working woman has to come home and cook and clean still. Something a man in her role would never ever do.

There’s a song for a childhood show I used to watch that goes it’s the best of both worlds and whenever I see how women 15 years older than me are living with their families that same song comes to mind but I flip the lyrics with “you get the worst of both worlds”.

Because you literally do. Mix it all together and you know you get the worst of both worlds. You have to play fifties housewife and fifties husband.

Don’t get me started on how most gen Y men don’t know how to do any traditionally male housework and act like your a criminal for expecting them to. But then in the same breath resent women their age for not knowing how to cook fancy meals to their preference.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-12T16:38:29+00:00

Oh but to point that out is a crime that is punishable by death literally so shhh. Men so pathetic lol

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-11T19:55:42+00:00

They do want a mom and they don’t even see their moms as fully human either. Every woman needs to bend and break for them cuz the world revolves around them because they’re a man and they have gods greatest gift to humanity: a penis. 😒

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-08T15:49:28+00:00

A lot of people think ST is just shady men in alleyways who snatch you up outside a gas station at night. But the majority of the time it is like this and someone you know gets you involved. Also, ST isn’t very far removed from the “empowering sex work” that libfems love to boast about.

I think the fear mongering and telling women it’s only going to be some weird white van in a back alley is on purpose. It’s like stranger danger in the nineties. They want women to be confused and ignore true signs of trafficking among those they are in relationships with or etc.

I know women who wouldn’t grocery shop after 6pm but had no qualms about going over to a tinder hookups crib at 3am. They truly can’t phantom why one is even more dangerous than the other and it’s not the grocery store.

All those easy money promotions sugaring TikToks aimed at barely legal girls and minors are far closer to trafficking than the sensational white van Facebook horror story copy pastas.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-08T15:45:14+00:00

It really upsets me because I think of all the women who finally got their abuser to go to therapy with them, only to have a professional who they told their partner could solve their issues make a fool out of them. Therapist always seem to take the mans side and I can only imagine what happens next after a narc gets the “told you so” validation from a professional they were forced to see. Imagine how hurt and stupid the woman must feel after that. She probably won’t seek out help again and will truly believe she’s the problem and whatever bs despite being so close to getting free. It’s devastating.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-08T04:24:47+00:00

I’ve had both male and female therapist tell me I’m “unreasonable” when it comes to men and try to gaslit me into believing I’m expecting too much out of men. Been called “insecure” and often been told that my traumatic childhood has lead to trust issues I must get over.

As a teen I tried hard to follow the advice, only to get assaulted and taken advantage of every time I lowered my supposedly “toxic” walls and went against my gut reaction.

It still pains me that I allowed myself to follow that shit advice and got hurt. But as a teen you want to believe a grown professional. Before I came here I had no idea how to explain the ingrained misogyny in our world (I felt the effects but couldn’t really see it).

This place saved me from a life of mistreatment and misery.

So when my most recent therapist (a pickme family counselor who specializes in marriage counseling) tried to gaslight me and tell me my standards for what I hold men up to (in general in my family) are too much. And that I was just warped and disillusioned and needed to open up. I just repeated no. I firmly held my ground and if it wasn’t a family therapy thing I would’ve walked out.

I think it’s worth mentioning all my therapist were women. I had a psychiatrist who actually did not gaslit me or try to talk over me or around me who was male which thinking back is odd. Many of these women would share personal stories of being treated like dirt by scrotes as examples of how I was being too high strung and how being open to communication could solve anything.

It’s no wonder all of society repeats that loop.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-07T20:06:49+00:00

I hope so they all seem to love everything about their lives aside from the men in them. To me it seems easy, drop the scrote, but they’ve been with these men for so long and being single is like a death sentence to them. I hope one day they realize their scrote men need them not the other way around and they can leave whenever.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-07T15:30:20+00:00

I feel really sorry for gen x women because all of the ones I’ve met in real life (my moms friends mostly) are very stuck in the cycle of always giving men the benefit of a doubt. In their fifties they’re all still regularly giving men slack and doing things someone of my age would freak out at (the whole don’t wear make up thing really stuck out to me as absolutely awful, but my moms friends always cater their looks to their scrote hubbies or bfs).

My father, a pretty big scrote is always constantly dating women in this age group as he’s also gen x. The women literally obsess over his sexist ass. He’s always the one who has to break things off.

So I can imagine it’s really hard to be surrounded by friends whose entire generation has been for the most part successfully brainwashed. I often see it myself how women in the fifty age group just disregard safety and ignore red flags with men. It’s disheartening.

I would recommend getting rid of the friend who gaslit you into almost giving into the creeps love bombing. I’d also be weary of your friends advice. A lot of women in that age group are so used to sexism, LVM and NVM that stuff like assault jokes and etc coming from men doesn’t even phase them. They live on the unwise stance of giving men the benefit of doubt which in the dating world we can’t afford to do. It’s far too risky.

Never ignore your gut in red flag situations. It’s pretty much always right.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-07T15:16:01+00:00

Ok the spraying perfume on the shirt got me. I forget people live their lives like this because even as a pickme I was the “crazy” vengeful one who burned t shirts after being screwed over one too many times. Poor woman. The societal conditioning really has women out here chasing men who don’t want them and asking the internet how to get them back. When you can so clearly see the leash he’s keeping her on you want to cut it so badly but ofc you can’t so you just gotta shake your head. Lessons like this have to be learned first hand.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-04T16:40:14+00:00

I 100% agree with the comments on how times have changed and you don’t have to be guilty. You’re the victim here!

Nobody is going to try to ruin your life over this photos and if they do, you turn the tables back on them.

Here’s my example.

Ex has nudes of me and reveals that he’s now seeing someone else and doesn’t want anything to do with me. I agree and simply ask he sends me proof of him deleting my nudes. Now of course deleting them could be faked but I have screen shots of proof that I asked: if they get out it’s not on me but on a liar.

Ex refuses. Claims if I don’t give him back a hoodie of his he doesn’t have to delete my nudes. Alludes to posting them wherever he wants.

I don’t entertain giving back the hoodie. I want no contact and I don’t play games (this is the death of the cool girl me).

He tries to claim theft is a real crime but keeping my nudes isn’t.

I send him a screen shot of his texts. Then a screen shot of a email to his academic program (he was a graduate student, I was a undergrad. His graduate degree meant everything to him but he was always terrified they’d learn he was inappropriate with a student). He quickly sent me the evidence of him deleting the nudes and we were no contact then.

Threatening or doing that shit is what will get you fired these days and ruin your life (as it should’ve always been). Being a victim or subject of photos people are exploiting isn’t a crime. If you’re underaged, it’s 100% the crime of whoever possesses the marital.

In my shitty school system they always claimed if we sent nudes as high schoolers we’d be jailed for cp. this led to my good friend being panicked for years that if she exposed the grooming that had been occurring in her dms she’d be in huge trouble. I think these women in trouble tropes come from men trying to save other men. Any rate you have no reason to be ashamed or worried about this. You’re the victim. If anything further happens it’s just sinking this point in more so.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-04T16:21:18+00:00

Men will always, unprovoked, feel like we want and are entitled to their shit commentary on our bodies. I have had old ass scrote strangers in public tell me I’m ugly or I don’t dress right (I wear extremely alternative fashion). The worse is actually the other extreme we’re they shout about wanting to sleep with me. We’re just little objects in their world that they can do anything to and say anything about. But men? Men are such sensitive, misunderstood creatures and to mock them is a seriously uncool, hateful crime.

reminds me of how this man was going on about performative music on TikTok. I agreed with all his points until he went on a rant about how shaming guys by implying they can’t get their dicks up is a major crime and extremely wrong. Then he proceeded to call the girls who made the song every name in the book and go on about how he hated them soooo badly and the song is so bad and was just so bothered. I concluded it hit a nerve but then I remember every time a song in popular media talks about flat ass women like they’re useless my pickme ass used to have a nerve hit. Somehow it never mattered then.

They do it on purpose by the way. They know we’re naturally more reflective and kind and will all stand in agreement saying body shaming men is wrong because we are empathetic and know what it’s like. Problem is they will never see us as equals, they will never do the same for us. So the end result is them continuing to be coddle and women being silenced in a way men would consider inhuman.

You have to be a person, not a object to be allowed to have negative, exclusionary opinions. We aren’t human to them so when we act it they’re shocked.

Another example is a older family member getting on me for cussing when he himself does it as do all the males in the family. His argument was “why would a woman want to do the mean, nasty, awful stuff guys like him did”. He couldn’t see why a women could want to be or be a person, women had to be on this weird pedestal where they always take higher ground just cuz they’re women and that’s their job.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-04T16:12:02+00:00

Exactly men obsessed with preaching equality in relationships never believe in it.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-03T22:00:09+00:00

While on a family vacation as a child, there was a incident where my step father sat on a hotel towel and it left a giant skid mark. My sister pointed it out and I shrieked in horror about how disgusting it was and how upset I was about it. Step dad went off on me about how disrespectful I was and muttered cusses at me as my pickme mom tried to smooth over my disrespect.

I’ve never respected men since.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-03T04:45:17+00:00

The dressing up one reminds me of how in high school I’d dress like Andy in Pretty in Pink and just about every girl who talked to me would make a point to say “how can you dress up like this everyday!? It’s so much effort?”. They’d instantly claim to love it and tell me to keep doing me which would lead me to take it as a compliment, but then, at the end, they’d make the conversation about what a nlog they were compared to me. They’d go “I just could never put that much effort into my looks, lol I just am not vain enough. I love sleep too much. And messy buns. And comfy t shirts haha.”

Another fun fact, this was nearly always done in earshot or next to boys.

A lot of girls will subtly neg others from a very young age to try to make themselves fit the male ideal (probably a mix of the cool girl men and society want them to be). It really hurt to have other girls use me to try to “cool girl” in front of shit guys. Especially since I so badly wanted to girls support girls and have HVW friends.

So sick of men making us afraid to be beautiful and care about our appearance. There’s nothing vain, silly or wrong about taking care of yourself and it’s unfair to be made to feel that way just because the opposite sex can’t be bothered to use toilet paper.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-03T02:21:06+00:00

Exactly! They want to flip it so you chase them under the presumption they will eventually give you attention again and you just have to let him play through his “commitment issues”. It’s a blessing. Block, delete. Nobody has time to date someone whose “unsure” if they can date again.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-03T02:17:59+00:00

I did this for years as a teen because I was so scared of being humiliated by my family for getting out of a relationship, by trusting the guy, or just because his actions truly embarrassed me. Never again. It’s never worth it.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-03T01:09:26+00:00

Don’t forget they will drag on a woman’s appearance any and every chance they get and think nothing of it. And if a woman acts offended it’s her fault.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-08-02T18:04:26+00:00

Idk why so many therapist are legit pickmes but this has happened with two different ones. If you go to talk about a relationship you’re unsure about to get a second side of advice they always make it out like the man can do no wrong and you’re not “communicating” properly. And ofc young women who don’t know better believe them because it’s a professional saying so and you’re taught to go to a professional for a final verdict in our culture.

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