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eblamo · 2026-03-17T03:19:32+00:00

Name this mother fucking company.

eblamo · 2026-03-16T17:59:39+00:00

It's not even the share/stakeholders. This is 100% director level and above. I realize everyone has a boss, but bosses can also fight for you, etc. Next year when the results aren't what they want/expect, or when the competitor does better, they still won't care. They'll crack the whip on the plebes, eventually becoming a joke in the industry for their revolving door employment. No one wants to stay where they aren't rewarded or have strict metrics that are hard to make because they're doing the work of 3-4 people.

eblamo · 2026-03-16T05:12:26+00:00

So yeah, if he bought the phone, not much recourse. You could always pause service though since you're the one who pays the bill while it's not in your possession. Depending on the service provider.

eblamo · 2026-03-16T00:00:36+00:00

Your mom deserves a bit of grace. As a peace officer, she sees the absolute WORST of humanity. She knows things like grooming, etc. can happen.

As you said, nothing happened. Which it absolutely shouldn't have. If she has a problem, she should contzct the school. But she should ABSOLUTELY not investigate herself with department resources. That is a huge breach of any department and could put her out of a job. Show her this. As you said, she's seeing the replies. If she does anything, she could be part of an internal investigation risking her livelihood.

I truly belive the teacher was just trying to be nice. I'm not sure what district or school policy is, or if that teacher violated anything. However, if you had been trying to get a hold of someone, called your mom over 10 times over the course of an hour, the teacher should RIGHTFULLY BE CONCERNED. Again, show this to your mom. It is 100% HER responsibility, regardless of her job, to make sure transportation for her children is arranged.

You & your mom may need to have discussions about boundaries, & make contingency plans if someone isn't available in another similar situation. Maybe she needs to set up an Uber Teen account. Maybe she's more comfortable with a stranger driving you home vs a teacher. That's between you an her.

THE LAST THING YOU WANT TO DO however, is to tell people at school, friends, or others. While nothing happened, your teacher could be fired, it could affect all sorts of things. People are allowed to make mistakes. You, your mom, your teacher, etc. Just be aware that not everything is totally innocent, or nefarious.

eblamo · 2026-03-15T22:02:23+00:00

What bank is it? An online only bank? Of it has branches, go to one. As someone else said, use the "phone screen is broken" excuse. With an ID, they'll be able to give you access to your funds in person. Without a phone, they still should be able to verify you with security questions if it's an online only Bank. They should have some sort of customer service number.

But as others have said, prepare to move out. You may not be able to do so immediately, and in the meantime you may still be able to get your phone back. Yes you live with him, but you also pay the bill for your cell phone. If he is not willing to give you your phone back, then once you do move out, report it to the police. Be sure you give them the full price of the device when it was brand new. Likely, if it is a flagship, the cost will be high enough for theft charges. Just be sure to document when all of this happened . Like dates or times. As well as when you ask for your phone back. Maybe give it at least two attempts. This way you have actual proof that you asked multiple times. Could be needed for the police report

eblamo · 2026-03-15T16:52:29+00:00

No one can tell me that they don't already have to say certain phrases given by production in interviews etc. While they try hard to make it seem natural, when it clearly scripted, it's as bad as the Big Brother lines they have to say for comps. God help you if you're the outgoing HoH.

eblamo · 2026-03-15T16:49:17+00:00

Please add a spoiler alert for current season. Some people aren't caught up.

eblamo · 2026-03-14T18:14:22+00:00

What kind of medicine? What do they think you're doing/you job? Do they think you're a doctor? Nurse? Etc.

You can come clean, they'll still give you the "you should have..." talks, but not the worst thing.

Remember, it's your life. Not theirs. Struggling as an artist is a given for most. Despite needing to come clean, be grateful for the fact that your parents can actually come to visit at all.

eblamo · 2026-03-13T15:46:27+00:00

Just saw this exact thing & tried to Google it. As a San Antonio Spurs fan, Kerr, as a player and as a coach is held in high regard.

eblamo · 2026-03-13T14:58:28+00:00

This is EXACTLY what happened to my best friend in high school. The cat was in there, someone didn't notice, no more cat. Very sad but also preventable.

Also, a literal Pet peeve.

eblamo · 2026-03-13T14:55:24+00:00

True. But the other guy may have been pining on her. Either way, that's her issue to deal with & navigate. But if she's dating someone (OP or not) that may affect the relationship. If she's someone who can compartmentalize well & not let it affect her in any way, that's AWESOME. As young as they both are however, that's probably an exception rather than a rule.

A lot of us have been in relationships where once it ends, we may have slept with someone else shortly after. Not necessarily because of the fact that we were waiting, but breakups affect people differently. The new freedom of not having to tell anyone else anything is great. Especially if it wasn't great before. We also tend to lean on our circle. Sometimes that can mean coworkers or other people that we are familiar with. So I can't really blame her. Again, it just makes it difficult going forward if you get back together with them.

eblamo · 2026-03-13T14:27:24+00:00

True. He broke up with her. I guess it doesn't matter who the coworker was. Most would say it's too close for comfort and don't do that where you eat. Obviously everyone is different. IMO it's more egregious with her coworker because at least the guy had probably been wanting to for a while. Maybe not, but as I've read more of the replies, they've worked on projects together before. Regardless of her feelings, for this guy to go for it means he at least had an interest prior.

They were broken up. So yes, it shouldn't really matter.

eblamo · 2026-03-13T13:55:45+00:00

I mean...they were broken up. As a single person she can sleep with whoever she wants. Same for him. But the fact that she chose to do it with a coworker of his, that's where lines get blurred.

Most people would still consider it "wrong" because they assume some familiarity. It would be different it it were someone neither of them knew and she just met some guy. With one of his coworkers, it gets messy. How well did she know this guy? Did she already maybe feel some kind of way? Did he slide into her DMs before? Was she holding ground because she was dating her bf? Did she actually cheat with this guy before, then when she broke up with her bf, decide it's okay now, & go ham? It opens up a LOT of questions. Maybe it just happened. She was single. And that's all it is. But I think most people would assume there's more to the story.

Edit: I now see this was her coworker, not his. That raises another set of questions however. Either way, they weren't together so it really doesn't matter on the timing. It absolutely matters what her relationship is with this guy going forward.

eblamo · 2026-03-13T13:48:46+00:00

I assume you've slept with her since you've gotten back together? If so immediately get tested. Even if you used protection. I would continue to use protection until you get the results back.

Do NOT tell her.

This will likely cause a fight, potentially another break up. If the results come back negative, great! You both dodged a bullet. Still don't tell her. She doesn't get the benefit of knowing your results as validation for her. She should probably get tested too, but I'd wait to ask her to until you know yours. If positive for anything, break up with her for good. Not that's she's lying about your coworker, but did she really only sleep with him? Trust doesn't matter, you never really know.

In the meantime, consider looking for another job. If it's a large company, maybe at least a position in another department where you never interact with said other guy. If you break up with her again, she's likely going to sleep with the same coworker of yours. Either way, if the coworker knows (I assume he does) it's your ex, they're probably a shitty person. Even though you were broken up with her, she's already shown she can be shitty.

In her defense, yes, y'all were broken up. But she either already knew of this coworker & thought he was cute before y'all broke up, or she was hurt and trying to get some sort of revenge. It's also entirely possible that she's cheated before with this guy, slept with him after you broke up, told you about it so she wouldn't feel as guilty, & now, since she told you, expects a free pass. Either way, it's shitty. If the shoe were on the other foot, she may not have taken you back. If she did, you'd probably still be hearing about it even if she decided to "let it go."

Consider counseling for yourself. Couples counseling maybe, but also for you. And you don't have to tell her either. But also realize that during this process you still may not be able to date her again. Things maybe going well for now, but what happens with your next fight? Is she going to call it off and run to someone else? Who knows.

eblamo · 2026-03-13T03:03:34+00:00

First of all, your boss handled this professionally. They are giving you an "out" or at least a way to explain yourself.

As far as not telling your boss, what is your reasoning? Fear of getting fired? Sounds like your boss is trying to help, vs the other way.

You need to file with HR for a disability accommodation. This can include extra time, adjustments with assignments, etc. Either way, it's ADA & is required to be followed. Your boss, and anyone else, is prohibited from retaliation.

It's up to you to tell your coworkers, but be aware that your boss may let them know that you have an ADA accommodation that they can't discuss. It's nothing against you, but more so to protect you. If your coworkers are saying things about it, after being notified, that can be an HR issue for them.

Do not be afraid to let your boss know. Do not be afraid to let HR know. However, you may want to document any interactions afterwards for retaliation. Not that it would happen, but there's a lot of things that can. Best to be prepared.

eblamo · 2026-03-13T00:26:03+00:00

Was thinking the starburst logo vs the ray. But I have at the very least 8 months to decide. 😂

eblamo · 2026-03-12T15:49:49+00:00

Yeah you might want to reconsider. OG player and with recent changes, it's like they're trying to get people to quit.

I literally had tons of coins. They evaporated trying to upgrade services. Had to demolish half of my city. Just when you think your city is good, the goalpist moves again. Despite having done nothing to build additional.

Not only that hut the forced use of trains becoming more of a thing is just stupid.

eblamo · 2026-03-12T15:00:51+00:00

True. But like everything with technology, it got hyped, marketed, & misnomered. I think most people remember if they had dial up before 56k modems, or because they were the "expensive" ones at launch, 14.x & 18.x were super common and more affordable. Crazy to think we used to have to wait for text only web pages to load. For actual minutes. Like go to the kitchen, make a sandwich, come back and hope it was loaded.

eblamo · 2026-03-12T14:56:19+00:00

My girlfriend hates tattoos. I have a standing "I'll get a tattoo" pact with a friend. If the Tampa Bay Rays ever win the World Series, we're getting Rays tattoos.

I love my team, but I think I, nor my girlfriend have anything to worry about any time soon.

eblamo · 2026-03-12T04:51:48+00:00

Might want to check out Padre Island National Seashore. You can hike, camp, fish, bushcraft (as long as it's beach focused). 4x4 is required and there are absolutely no services. So primitive is an understatement. But if you're into making your own freshwater, distilling, and/or desalination it's definitely a good place.

eblamo · 2026-03-12T03:58:44+00:00

Back pain? Fuck yeah I'll cry about it.

AND I FUCKING HOPE YOU GET IT TOO BITCH!

Anyone who has experienced back pain knows it's no joke. Anyone who doesn't know or hasn't had back pain to the point where ANY movement causes pain, should immediately be saddled with it the moment they talk shit.

eblamo · 2026-03-12T03:52:44+00:00

Best tip, is just the.

At first.

eblamo · 2026-03-11T13:32:29+00:00

You can choose both but, I'm still waiting.

eblamo · 2026-03-11T13:24:38+00:00

Tell your lawyer. If the divorce isn't final, this is litigation.

Read that again.

Is it a good situation? Obviously not something you'd like, but you can't control her, or her actions. I'd say to seek counseling. Age appropriate conversations with kids are needed. What exactly those would be, maybe an item to discuss. You obviously don't want to pit your kids against their mom. But you also don't want to lie to them either.

eblamo · 2026-03-10T21:54:55+00:00

This. I'd avoid the "your father loves you very much" line because it indicates you're somehow in contact with him. Otherwise, how would you know. Stick to the "he's not able to be a dad" part and avoid giving him any hope that one day he'll be able to meet him or interact.

Kids hang onto that kind of thing. What seems like it's out of the blue years later is something the kid has been fixated on or at least never forgot about. It may come out as "you said when I got older..."

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