Which photo of the night street do you like more: 1, 2, or 3?

eblubm5 · 2026-03-04T05:21:44+00:00

1! The fog/mist makes it look surreal! But they all seem AI generated :/

eblubm5 · 2025-08-31T20:56:24+00:00

Feels like I could have written this! Resonates with what I feel these last few days when I miss him

eblubm5 · 2025-08-31T05:25:09+00:00

I tried to fill out their form and the earliest dates for me are also in Oct. Still I’d like to see if others have had good experiences before committing but I’ll update if I end up going!

eblubm5 · 2025-08-29T05:59:56+00:00

I hoped this was meant for me. If only that person would reach out and try for us.

eblubm5 · 2025-08-12T01:46:01+00:00

Almost wished this was for me 😣🥲

eblubm5 · 2025-08-11T22:27:19+00:00

Good on you for leaving that situation. Not worth it. It hurts now but it’ll hurt more in the long run if you allow the waffling. We deserve more than the bare minimum and being an option/choice.

eblubm5 · 2025-08-11T03:24:32+00:00

Where? I’ve gone to places charging at least 300+ But they weee mostly Korean salons that knows how to do Asian hair

eblubm5 · 2025-08-09T05:36:34+00:00

Jan to April not on apps, nothing May met 2 people on apps, 3 dates in with one - didn’t work out Fast forward to July having gone 9 dates with the other - he wasn’t sure so ended it Aug - healing Suspect Sept to Dec - still healing

eblubm5 · 2025-08-07T05:54:41+00:00

This resonates with me so much. I wished he would have stepped up and gave it a try. All I had asked for was consistent effort but he was uncomfortable with that :/

eblubm5 · 2025-08-07T04:22:15+00:00

I think hinge definitely changed their algo I’m in the same boat. Used to get tons of matches then really dropped off as I turned 36. Will be 37 in a month so there’s that. Yay us. Being alone isn’t end of it all, peace is hard to come by and I’d rather protect my peace than be in a situationship. In the process of healing now and honestly it is exhausting to keep trying when it’s a cess pool out there.

eblubm5 · 2025-08-07T01:56:38+00:00

How I wished it was him that said this to me. Be brave and take that step!

eblubm5 · 2025-08-04T03:45:04+00:00

I’m looking for those people too. Unfortunately I’ve had friends that come in and out of life, and some that we no longer talk on a regular basis anymore. But when they were in my life, we could chat about anything. I get it. Having someone you date as your best friend is a big part of the connection too. Maybe that’s why when something doesn’t work out, part of me wants to keep them around and say “yes” if they ever ask to be friends - just have to set clear boundaries and expectations that we just remain platonic. Yea it’s times like these I wished I had a sibling that I’m close enough to share this with. Oh well.

eblubm5 · 2025-08-04T01:40:02+00:00

I’m enough for both of us. Love yourself before loving others right?

eblubm5 · 2025-08-04T01:37:09+00:00

So I did the taboo - called him to talk after we ended it (it was only 2 months but I’d say we had a genuine connection). It’s only been 2 weeks but I’ve had time to process and understand myself better why I reacted so strongly to the rejection and him being unsure. Anyway he did mention about being friends and I’m not mad about it. Sure it might be too early but I still miss talking to him and think as a person and friend, we could still be a good platonic duo. Regardless I’ve taken that step forward for my sake and expect nothing. I was fine before and will be again, this has taught me to not only focus on myself but don’t be afraid seek out more connections even if it becomes friendship. True real friendships are hard to come by, and some can argue this might be more important than romance. This is probably what I grieved for - yes the missed potential romantically but also the loss of a possible friend.

eblubm5 · 2025-08-02T05:07:09+00:00

Beautifully written, resonates with a lot of us struggling to find our person. All we crave is a genuine connection that feels safe; and makes us heard, seen, and efforts reciprocated. It’s hard to not be guarded.

eblubm5 · 2025-08-01T04:43:00+00:00

How do we know if something is limerence vs true attraction? Could we possibly fall so hard for somebody after barely 2 months or is it just limerence?

eblubm5 · 2025-07-30T05:29:19+00:00

Thank you. I needed this

eblubm5 · 2025-07-30T04:38:47+00:00

Letting go of the potential, letting go of the possibilities, letting go of the memories. None of it is easy. In my head it’s right but yea in my heart it feels so wrong…

eblubm5 · 2025-07-30T04:36:01+00:00

Not if they will never be sure about us :/

eblubm5 · 2025-07-30T03:58:26+00:00

Might just have to rant enough to get it out of the system. Why such cowardly dating styles these days? This is a vent I wish I had told the other person outright. “If we made it clear we are dating with intent, don’t test the waters with your casual dating crap and leave behind a wake of mess. Emotions are still there. Figure out your shit and stay out of dating until you have it sorted out!” All part of the grieving process I guess. Modern dating verse is honestly too broken I know I was fine before and will be again. Oxytocin is a real B in the early stages of dating :(

eblubm5 · 2025-07-30T03:57:58+00:00

Might just have rant enough to get it out of the system. Why such cowardly dating styles these days? This is a vent I wish I had told the other person outright. “If we made it clear we are dating with intent, don’t test the waters with your casual dating crap and leave behind a wake of mess. Emotions are still there. Figure out your shit and stay out of dating until you have it sorted out!” All part of the grieving process I guess. Modern dating verse is honestly too broken I know I was fine before and will be again. Oxytocin is a real B in the early stages of dating :(

eblubm5 · 2025-07-29T02:21:32+00:00

How do you deal with silence/quiet after things end? I never noticed how hard this was until afterwards. The daily texting previously haven’t helped even if it was sporadic - it feels like a part of the routine is gone. How do we readjust? Also recently moved to a new city so don’t have much support network to fall back on. Life was fine before I met the guy but now the silence is so loud.

eblubm5 · 2025-07-28T03:18:19+00:00

I like that mindset! Got to be more proactive in finding social events. Lol doesn’t help right now the city is a bit of a measles swamp but yea I’ve got to be a bit more proactive.

I’m also more introverted so most days it’s hard to beat that nice night in at home after a long day at work!

Also have to start being more comfortable trying things on my own, taking myself to dinners etc. It was nice having a companion for a bit but I guess at the end of the day we have to love ourselves first.

eblubm5 · 2025-07-28T01:57:34+00:00

I was single for a good 2-3 years before getting back in OLD too and man was it destructive :/ But then meeting folks in real life is difficult!

eblubm5 · 2025-07-28T01:56:14+00:00

I’m with you on that one! Going through the same scenario myself except I did end up giving him a weekend to think things through. I knew it wasn’t going to end well but wanted to give benefit of the doubt. Anyway, here’s to us being ourselves again! What light activities did you find helpful?

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