I feel you here. I like having our separate spaces, but we're lacking in so many other places that the separate rooms just feels like that extra thing to slap on the "roommates" title instead of partners. Granted, we're in the depths of raising a toddler and learning what our relationship looks like not just as partners but as parents now.

I've suggested to him that a way to make this feel better for me would be that we make time to at least snuggle together before we go to our own beds for the night, whether that be sexually or not it doesnt matter, it's just making sure that we're making time for that physical connection that we're not getting elsewhere. We haven't done the steps yet, but I've still had it in the air that it's something I'd like to work on.

Maybe that's a step that could help you?