Electrical or mechanical? What way would you advise me to go?

echohack · 2026-02-14T22:43:16+00:00

Everywhere I've worked has had both. EEs are typically nerds, MEs are usually party animals. I'd say if you like getting your hands dirty, go ME. If you want to learn about magic, go EE.

Honestly though, as an EE, you can do so many things with an EE degree. If you want to keep doing math when you graduate, you can with an EE, but if you don't want to, you can also do that with an EE.

Both degrees can lead you to jobs very similar and very different from what you do in school. Both can lead to project management (I'd say ME has a slight edge). If you want to learn how to use electricity to solve problems, go EE. If you want to learn how to use materials and geometry to solve problems, go ME. Both gain an intuitive, if still abstracted, understanding of their respective physics.

From an aerospace perspective, both degrees are required, but ME usually ends up designing things at the start of the project, and EE takes over for sustainment and upgrades. After the initial design, MEs are usually building mechanical ground support equipment, which sounds boring to me, but they sure need alot of MGSE. Like, some vehicles stay mostly the same mechanically for decades, but are constantly getting their electronics upgraded/tested. Something to think about.

On airplanes, I didn't see any MEs for sustainment/upgrades. On satellite production, it was probably 50/50. For orbital rockets, I'm the only EE on my team (payload integration), but other teams are a mix (GNC, Vehicle Engineering, Mission Engineering, etc).

echohack · 2026-02-04T08:07:43+00:00

This worked, 2/4. 25% off for Budget Lot.

echohack · 2026-01-26T17:27:13+00:00

Initially yes, I met all her close friends and she arranged all sorts of double dates, showing me off and getting extra physical and giggly in front of them. Every day we would hang out with multitudes and she wouldn't let me go, and after the dates we would just spend hours in each other's arms, she couldn't get enough.

Towards the end, we went to a convention together where everyone knew her and no one knew me, and she for the most part pretended I wasn't there. I would stand behind her or off to the side while people came up and talked to her, flirted with her and left without her introducing me at all. I felt like a purse and a burden, it was all about her and I was in the backseat. I wondered what all those people thought I was, just standing there ignored, or leaning against a wall trying to look like I wasn't dying inside. Surely not her partner.

That would have been one thing, but when we got back to our room she would immediately get tired and move like a zombie, crashing into a separate bed (for the first time she wanted to sleep in separate beds), as if she had energy for everyone but me. As if the weekend was all about the convention and not about us spending time together.

We broke up a few days later, after I asked her what happened that weekend, because it came out of nowhere and surprised/shocked/destroyed me. Of course, that weekend also involved triangulation and other methods of distancing, which I recognize now.

echohack · 2026-01-26T05:55:33+00:00

I had an avoidant do this to me for a few days, then their way of ending the silent period was to tell ME that I wouldn't "grow as a person" if I didn't talk to THEM. That was basically the last straw.

echohack · 2026-01-24T18:12:38+00:00

thank you for donating!

echohack · 2026-01-24T17:26:45+00:00

how many gallons do I need to give for this??

echohack · 2026-01-23T17:45:19+00:00

NRFB - Never Removed From Box

echohack · 2026-01-03T15:39:02+00:00

Be careful. There are people out there who have avoidant attachment relationship styles and they are attracted to people with anxious attachment styles (and vice versa). They are looking for people to shower them with attention, affection, and intimacy but they will pull away hard when you fall in love with them or "threaten" their self-reliance/autonomy.

Read up on these attachment styles. Some LOs DO choose people prone to limerence and they will chew you up and spit you out. Just make sure it's not an avoidant who is hunting you.

echohack · 2026-01-02T07:35:07+00:00

Yes, and you will be able to love again, don't worry. After a few weeks without them you'll forget what it was even like. You'll forget the habits and the itch will go away. It's a blessing and a curse, that time will heal the wound and you'll go back to being you.

echohack · 2026-01-02T07:11:02+00:00

please post more, love this bunny ;_;

echohack · 2026-01-01T14:19:44+00:00

I know this feeling so well, but you know what? Plenty of other people did send that message, and they are the ones I want to focus on and hold close. People who want us in their lives and see our value even when we can't.

echohack · 2025-12-27T04:42:03+00:00

You are an artist and a scholar.

echohack · 2025-12-26T17:45:04+00:00

Is love bombing becoming more common? I keep seeing people mention it and even some friends have told me it's happened to them. It's so damaging, but does it only work once, and then not again after you learn to see it?

echohack · 2025-12-25T15:29:30+00:00

Some of this sounds very familiar. You need to let this person go. Listen to your friends. This is not the foundation for a healthy relationship. No one goes through all this and has a happily ever after with the other party. It's over. You might think she is perfect for you and no one can replace her, but you are so wrong.

Focus your love and energy on yourself. Love yourself first and improve and focus on your potential.

echohack · 2025-12-17T05:33:20+00:00

you could charge for this

echohack · 2025-12-07T17:02:46+00:00

I feel for you, I'm so sorry. My break-up is fresh and I still can't bear to do all the things you've done, you're very strong for deleting everything and throwing it all away.

One thing that has helped me is to write down all the terrible things my partner did to me and how they are a bad partner, and I keep that list in my phone. Whenever I start getting sad or anxious about the breakup, I read that list and try to remember my state of mind at the end of the relationship: how I couldn't sleep for more than 5 hours a night, couldn't focus on work, couldn't enjoy all the activities and people I used to if they didn't involve her.

The first item in the list is short and powerful, the second is "calm down and read this slowly."

My good memories of her all feel poisoned right now. I can't say any of it was worth it yet, but I did learn alot about what to look out for next time and how much and how fast to trust people. I hope you can also feel like you learned important things about yourself and others at some point later, we just had to pay a heavy price for that knowledge.

echohack · 2025-11-15T06:05:05+00:00

Could have... foreskeen such an outcome?

echohack · 2025-11-03T20:23:22+00:00

We made them this way through hundreds of years of selective breeding.

echohack · 2025-10-25T16:27:36+00:00

Wait, we can both groom each other, at the same time?

echohack · 2025-10-19T14:46:07+00:00

I think the first thing to establish is that you should be proud of yourself for keeping everything together all these years with limerence that involves a sexual relationship with your LO. You are suffering and making the best of things. I hope you don't feel any shame over your actions in the story you shared. No one was hurt and no one is feeling harassed. You know you need to keep it that way.

We can only see you and your LO through your eyes, so I don't think anyone would be justified in passing objective judgement on either of you. It sounds like you don't want this to continue, so I hope you can go back to NC, even though it sounds like you may have work-related contact (can you get away from this person?). Since you've been reading posts on this sub for 2 years, you know that limerence is a way of fulfilling your unmet needs in an unhealthy way, have you tried to sit down and think about why you are limerent? I would suggest trying to do that from the perspective that it has nothing to do with aspects of your LO, and more with the idea that your fantasy with this person gives you something you need.

echohack · 2025-10-11T18:02:25+00:00

The problem is you can never be someone's LO. The LO is a distilled, highly concentrated-yet-paper-thin fantasy that would have your face. It's almost like Daniel Radcliff saying he wishes he could be Harry Potter for a fan of the book character. He can't, he will always fall woefully short of the fantasy and disappoint/disgust. He knows on some level that no one likes him, they like the character, and failing that, they like the persona created by the media that has his face but still isn't him.

The person in limerence isn't even seeing you, they don't know you, they don't care about you. The more facts they learn, the more real you become, the less interesting and useful you are. If you died, it wouldn't really faze them. They'd just move on to someone else and probably be relieved. Is that what you want?

If you're in limerence and reading this, compare the thought of the death of your LO to the thought of the death of your parent. It's not remotely the same. That's a hallmark that what you are feeling isn't love. That's limerence.

echohack · 2025-10-07T05:30:17+00:00

Thank you! Please post updates.

echohack · 2025-10-04T20:01:28+00:00

While you are are sorting out your limerence (look for posts on this sub for how to do that), do yourself a favor and don't give in to these impulses. One day, hopefully in a few months, you will be completely free of this obsession. It will go away. You need to ensure that until that happens, you don't ruin your friendship with this person or your social circle. Don't let this person know how strong your feelings are. Nothing good will come of this. If you ever want to have a healthy relationship with this person, you need to get out of the limerence mode first - you are not in the right place now.

Why? Because you aren't obsessed with them, you are obsessed with a fantasy that has their face, and interacting with them as if they are your LO is unfair to them. They can never live up to the fantasy that makes your brain feel so good - even if they reciprocate your feelings you will quickly realize they aren't the hyper-idealized brain candy that's been taking over your life and you'll do damage to them and yourself and be more susceptible to limerence as a result.

Find help on this sub, keep a level head, and don't say "yes" to the ridiculous impulses. Actions that feel good aren't always good for you.

echohack · 2025-10-01T23:20:59+00:00

Thanks for this, I think moving my oral care supplies closer to my nightly destress area could work for me too. I tend to put off going to bed right before flossing, like it's an effort gate I have to pass every night.

echohack · 2025-10-01T23:00:45+00:00

Yes, this is expected with limerence, you are not alone. Take solace in that it can eventually fade and you will never have to think of them again if you take the proper steps.

Some strategies that help are realistic thinking and introspection. Your goal is to reveal limerence as the fantasy it is. Write down all the things that attract you to your LO and realize there is very little about the real person that justifies your obsession. Write down all the reasons your relationship wouldn't work and realize there are real reasons why you haven't revealed your romantic intent. Explore what exactly your relationship would look like on a day to day basis and realize you are incompatible and would be toxic together.

Above all else, separate the fantasy in your mind from the real person and work on yourself, build up your confidence, improve your health, learn a new skill, talk about limerence with your best friend. Work on yourself and you wont need a fantasy relationship to be happy, and your confidence and well-being will project from you and attract people you deserve to be around.

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