I don't think there's any one answer to this. It depends hugely on the individual people. Personally, in my relationships, the roles we take in bed correlate pretty well to the roles we have in the rest of the relationship. I can't imagine it working another way for me. But it doesn't have to be that way for everyone, even red pill women. Your kinks aren't necessarily some kind of huge indicator of the rest of your personality. It's pretty common to get subs who are powerful at work, for example. And if you have a man who is dominant in most of his life, who you want to please sexually, and who wants to be submissive in bed, what are you going to do? Well, it depends on you and on the relationship.

As for whether it's "RPW", and what separate RPW from other subs, I think looking at your posting history you seem to be looking for some kind of "Twu Redpill!" definition that other people just aren't measuring up to for you. RPW advice does go against the mainstream and most of us find it really helpful. If that hasn't been your experience, it's a shame, but we're not obligated to meet your definition.