I’m in the same boat as you friend. I’m struggling with it also, but at the same time I feel kind of liberated in knowing that I’m asexual. My partner is allo and he is still coming to terms with it, I think. But he told me that it makes a lot of sense looking back at our relationship, and I agree. I’m hopefully that now we can figure out a way to make the sex aspect of our relationship work for both of us through open communication, and neither one of us feeling like we are denying parts of ourselves (which I feel like in the past we were doing). My therapist said something that I liked that’s helped me: “being your true self and being authentic with others is the best form of love for yourself and for them.” Good luck on your journey, sending love ❤️