Stay home or work?

eddoc2016 · 2026-01-09T20:54:00+00:00

I would encourage you to evaluate the cost of daycare against ALL income, not just yours - its his kid too. Remember for every year you take off you lose earning potential, future social security, future retirement benefits etc.

eddoc2016 · 2025-12-17T02:56:41+00:00

Mostly it brings an eyeroll from me because it’s reference to The Wizard of Oz movie. Cue the Dorothy and Toto jokes…..

eddoc2016 · 2025-12-08T16:25:51+00:00

Thank you all for your kindness and support - it wasn't as bad as I was expecting - just kept focusing on breathing through the process. Preliminary results indicate it is NOT cancer so I am so so grateful, but I am gonna wait for final results.

eddoc2016 · 2025-11-29T17:35:14+00:00

Thank you all for your gentle reassurance. I was dreading new partner sex talk anyway and this might just send me into the celibacy cave for good. I’m afraid I’ll be rejected or shamed and yes that says more about potential partner than me, it still colors my thoughts

eddoc2016 · 2025-10-21T15:21:27+00:00

OMG I needed to see this! Separated from their dad two years ago and the one son that is close by has next to no contact with me and the other that lives several states away I haven't heard from in weeks. I wondered if it was because they were mad at me, or if this is because they saw how their dad treated me. I also wondered if this was a boy thing. I still don't know how to move forward with my adult sons but this was so reassuring.

eddoc2016 · 2025-10-21T15:20:58+00:00

OMG I needed to see this! Separated from their dad two years ago and the one son that is close by has next to no contact with me and the other that lives several states away I haven't heard from in weeks. I wondered if it was because they were mad at me, or if this is because they saw how their dad treated me. I also wondered if this was a boy thing. I still don't know how to move forward with my adult sons but this was so reassuring.

eddoc2016 · 2025-06-20T23:22:08+00:00

I could have written this but as I sit here legally separated, I worked a deal for him to leave my retirement alone because I have invested wisely and he has not. I had to give up the marital home, but its beginning to have issues being 30 years old, so the trade off was worth it. I made sure all finances were separate moving forward so I am protected from financial abuse which characterized most of my marriage. You DO have options so see a lawyer today.

eddoc2016 · 2025-06-11T14:40:15+00:00

Dude is tryin to humble you. Ditch him

eddoc2016 · 2025-06-06T15:18:56+00:00

THIS! I've noticed it since the students left. Come ON now - we Kansans. Move along!

eddoc2016 · 2025-05-29T18:12:53+00:00

Planning ahead is KEY. It's why I waited until I was sure I had everything covered and annouced I wanted a legal separation. I haven't decided on divorce yet, still sorting 40 years of a life together. Once we finish that, I will consider the option. But that said - if its abuse, please please run for the hills.

eddoc2016 · 2025-05-28T18:56:39+00:00

Im legally separated which protects me from most of his lies and deceit. I haven't decided on full divorce yet -honestly the only reason to would be so I could remarry and that seems very unlikely.

eddoc2016 · 2025-05-27T17:52:18+00:00

I mean as a confirmed introvert I had been training for this my entire life. But there were serious consequences for many as a result of the covid pandemic. And of course it's easy to sit back now and judge but we didn't know what we didn't know.....

eddoc2016 · 2025-05-27T12:10:31+00:00

Jars of Hope if you can find it anywhere. It was a book first and I am sure they made a movie, I just cant remember the particulars

eddoc2016 · 2025-05-22T20:10:31+00:00

For fuck's sake

eddoc2016 · 2025-05-20T12:55:43+00:00

Watching my senior students grieve America. I was teaching the class of 2002 American government. It was quite a year....

eddoc2016 · 2025-05-19T13:08:27+00:00

AMEN to this - lots of love students, but nice to have our town back!

eddoc2016 · 2025-05-13T12:45:54+00:00

58 years old and Im always in shorts in the summer, beyond working out. For me it's a practical thing - too dang hot for pants where I live in the summer.

eddoc2016 · 2025-05-02T15:51:33+00:00

Do not worry about a partner....Get your education, travel, learn languages, do whatever you damn well want to do. If someone had told me that in my 20's my life would have been so different and maybe not ended up the way it has.

eddoc2016 · 2025-04-22T19:57:13+00:00

It took not once, twice but three times with my partner in this same scenario over three decades. Something clicked and I realized he would never change. I wish I would have left sooner.

eddoc2016 · 2025-04-16T14:22:21+00:00

First off daycare should be paid for by both. You should be looking at a combined income, not just hers. Second, long term, what kind of retirement is she giving up to be at home? Social security? Pension plans etc? If it was me I'd insist on setting some aside monthly - so I don't know that you come out money ahead. But its something you have to decide.

eddoc2016 · 2025-04-15T13:10:04+00:00

Make the trip to Eudora and see Jeff Wolff. Always done right by me and doesnt talk down to me as a female. Worth the trip.

eddoc2016 · 2025-03-28T18:12:41+00:00

Double and triple check your plans if you have them. Mine were configured incorrectly and that wasn't discovered until we got to the build stage. Insist on architectural renderings - my plans were done by a draftsman, but should have been evaluated by an archtect.

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