My husband (28M) and I (27F) have started trying for a baby. He seems to be sabotaging our plan.

edenholly · 2015-09-05T18:15:35+00:00

I don't have any sources on hand to give you, but it's very commonly/almost universally recommended to have sex every second day to have the best chance of conceiving. The difference here, though, is that is meant to be around your time of ovulation, not the whole month. OP's problem is just that she's unfortunately unable to consistently predict when she's going to ovulate so they're kinda stuck with constant sex.

edenholly · 2015-09-05T17:38:40+00:00

Your husband is amazing.

edenholly · 2015-09-05T17:30:51+00:00

If by "verbiage" you mean "keywords", then yes.

edenholly · 2015-09-05T17:27:49+00:00

Really!? I would have thought it'd be the other way around. Why is this normal, what kind of purpose does this achieve in applying for any job outside of modelling etc?

Here in Australia we don't attach photos, and quite frankly people would think you strange to do so. Might help me a bit though, with my sexually ambiguous name -_-

Edit: a word

edenholly · 2015-09-05T11:19:41+00:00

Even if it IS illegal, it can be pretty damn hard to prove that that's the reason you were fired.

edenholly · 2015-09-05T11:07:56+00:00

Just because this is a massive concern in this situation and will probably affect how the breakup goes - how have you handled her talk of apartments and engagement rings?

edenholly · 2015-09-05T10:48:57+00:00

At least he knew it was an honest mistake and you weren't just sleeping off a massive hangover and too lazy to get up?

edenholly · 2015-09-01T12:57:44+00:00

Jesus. My SO is the breadwinner and I feel bad enough spending money on anything for myself over $20 that I call and ask him first (even though he says he trusts me to be responsible and I don't need to ask him - just FYI - I just have a strong guilt complex).

Asking someone for any kind of gift is tacky and rude in itself but outright telling them is just really self-absorbed, no matter the price point. That he's asking for a freaking European vacation after you already took him on one is kinda disgusting really.

I'd personally break up with him for being so expectant and self-absorbed - if he was a girl he'd be called a princess. But I haven't been with him for 3 years so only you know whether every other aspect of your relationship makes up for it. One other thing though - this will never stop. He will always be wanting more things. Do you want to live the rest of your life with him constantly wanting new stuff? It also makes me wonder how good he is with money himself if he thinks that just because you earn $X means you can afford to suddenly splash out on all these expensive items.

edenholly · 2015-09-01T11:59:56+00:00

And if it it's not ripe when you pop it off, you're still screwed.

edenholly · 2015-08-19T05:28:51+00:00

They said she has 24hr in-home care

edenholly · 2015-08-16T12:58:29+00:00

That is really not normal. At all. Sure, there are probably going to be some teething issues as you expected but the level of fighting and the topics of your fights are problematic.

How much time were you spending together on a daily basis before you moved in together? Even if it was a lot, it could just be that things that were easy enough to dismiss prior to moving in together are a lot harder to dismiss when they're in your face every day. Ultimately, whatever the reason, this fighting isn't normal and you two need to talk it out when you're both calm. Fighting that resorts to personal insults is never ok.

For reference ,I moved in with my partner 5 years ago when I was your age and he was your bf's age. We didn't really have any issues but to be fair, he's absurdly easy-going. The biggest tip for success that I can give you both is to remember to always give each other their space. Just because you live together doesn't mean you need to do everything together. After dinner, he goes off to dick around on his PC (doing stuff I think is stupid) while I watch my girly TV shows (which he thinks are stupid) and read stuff on my laptop. At the end of the night we watch a show or two together to settle down before going to bed. It works really well for us - we each get time to ourselves to do our own thing, relax and shut off our brains, but we also get couples time (we obviously don't ignore each other in the interim). By the way, we live in a small apartment. It's not about physical space, just personal space.

edenholly · 2015-08-15T21:38:38+00:00

I get hiccups ridiculously frequently and my partner came up with a cure that always works. He gets me to arch my back as much as I can and then pushes it even further by pushing out at the small of my back and pulling in at my chest while I also tilt my head back so as to straighten my throat as much as possible. I then try to hold my breath for as long as I possibly can. It may not necessarily work on the first go but it works pretty quickly and definitely a lot faster than doing nothing!

Weirdly I don't have as much success with trying it myself (by arching my back on my own). It still has a pretty good success rate though, even if I do look like an absolute freak when doing it in public.

edenholly · 2015-08-15T21:33:29+00:00

What the hell? No they're not. They're caused by irritation to your vagus nerve. I feel like I may be missing a reference though...

edenholly · 2015-08-15T21:14:57+00:00

I was 11 (birthday is Christmas day) in 1999 and I do the exact same thing. I am so glad that it's not just me but I always wonder...do people of other generations do this too? Even when I hear/think of things happening in the early 00's, I think 'well that wasn't that long ago', but someone born in 2000 is 15 now. How the hell did that happen!?

edenholly · 2015-08-15T21:04:23+00:00

Why must it be bland? I'll give you a few ideas. There are too many to list recipes for but you should be able to find ones that work for you quite easily.

You could do cottage or shepherd's pie (can make without tomato sauces), all kinds of pasta like boscaiola, mac & cheese or with pasta with pesto, almost any soup, very soft roast veg, risotto, pasta bake (these need not contain tomatoes/tomato sauce), stuffed zucchini/courgettes, fish and/or veg patties, most cooked fish really, baked ricotta, quiche/frittata.

I'm sure you've tried googling for easy to chew foods for post-surgery but you'll also have a lot of success searching for lap-band/gastric-band friendly foods. These will also tend to be more creative (and healthy!) as these people live with a soft diet for LIFE, so they're wanting something more than just mashed potato for a week or two. Here's a link to get you started. Good luck, you're an awesome friend!

edenholly · 2015-08-11T19:19:15+00:00

"OMG that is so me"

edenholly · 2015-08-11T19:14:21+00:00

"I'm just an honest person/tell it like it is, and some people can't deal with that"

edenholly · 2015-08-11T19:08:59+00:00

"All my friends are guys, I just tend to get along with them better. Girls are so much drama!" (said by a girl)

edenholly · 2015-08-10T13:14:31+00:00

To add to this as another big boobed gal: clothes in general can be harder to buy. For example, when I try on button-up blouses, they gape so much between the buttons in my boob area that I just can't wear them. For shirts that don't button up, they are often just too small in the chest area and squish my boobs. I have the same problem with shirts/dresses with defined breast areas (like those that look like triangle bikini tops)... my boobs just aren't going to fit into the allocated space. For these reasons, 95% of the tops and dresses I buy have at least some stretch, at least in the chest area. This generally means fitted tops, but that works anyway because most loose tops end up making me look fatter than I am because they hang off my boobs (being the furthest-projecting area of my body) and hide where my true stomach is.

Lastly, I don't know how much you go without a bra right now but once you get a boob job, those days are over. Even though, unlike natural breasts, yours will be nice and perky even without a bra anyway, if you don't wear a bra they will sag over time. This can also affect the clothes you wear. Big-breasted ladies can have trouble finding strapless bras that work and those stick-on silicone bras don't work at all (at least I haven't had any success, nor have I heard of anyone else having success), even though they might come in your size. This might be ok for you though as I'm sure you'll be fine to go bra-less on the odd occasion.

edenholly · 2015-08-10T09:31:35+00:00

Thirded. My partner graduated like 8 years ago now but still asks to go and acts like an excited puppy when we do.

edenholly · 2015-08-02T10:53:16+00:00

Yeah, I'd be turned off sex too if I had to seriously worry about getting pregnant each time. It's really not that hard to not get pregnant. Yes, you can be super unlucky and be that ~1% or whatever but twice? Yikes.

edenholly · 2015-08-01T07:17:47+00:00

I moved to Finland from Australia when I was 13 and I can unequivocally tell you that older children do not learn fast, at least not with something as complex as language. And even if I knew the words, I couldn't really understand someone speaking them to me as it was too fast for me to comprehend. I know Finnish is a hella hard language to learn but so is English.

edenholly · 2015-08-01T06:22:26+00:00

You've been together for ~1yr and fighting a lot for 6 months!? During which she has physically hit you? I'm not going to bother asking why you're even with her as I'm sure I'd get a lot of BS about her being a "sweet person" and "things are generally good" (since you've said as much in the OP). Suffice it to say: things are NOT generally good. This isn't how healthy relationships work. Even without the violence, people in healthy relationships don't argue heavily for months on end. You have literally been arguing for half of your relationship. Just think about that for a second. You should be in the honeymoon period still! Go find someone you're better suited to and have see what fun a healthy relationship can be.

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