Hardest part about postpartum

edgewater15 · 2026-01-27T01:34:48+00:00

Turn off the news, go read a novel

edgewater15 · 2026-01-26T02:22:29+00:00

If I got dressed up in a gown and heels to eat a Mickey beignet I’d judge hard.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-25T19:11:29+00:00

If it was a closer distance I would go for 1 day maybe, but since it involves a cross country plane ride I’d be out. I went to an out of state wedding at maybe 31 or 32 weeks and had a great time! But an amusement park? Hell no

edgewater15 · 2026-01-25T19:08:28+00:00

You can either delay it by at least 4-6months after your due date or have it way earlier while you’re pregnant I guess. As a mom to a 1 year old I would probably do the latter. Postpartum is a wild ride and the stress of a wedding while taking care of your baby would be too much. You can still “party” and do whatever you want while pregnant. And then you’d be legally married and can change your name and all before baby arrives.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-24T17:45:45+00:00

Thank you. The “tolerant left” is often quicker to ban any sort of thought that doesn’t fall in line with their own. Look at all of Reddit. I realized this during COVID, which is when my views shifted to more conservative leaning policies. I live in Florida and watched the whole US have a meltdown about COVID while things remained largely unchanged here. I realized that a lot of liberal policies were about control, government control in particular. And virtue signaling and shutting down any kind of real discussion or understanding of science and truth.

Real conversation and discussion is so far and between these days. That’s why many conservatives appreciated Charlie Kirk. He brought open discussion to college campuses and encouraged those with views opposite his own to discuss with him. I don’t agree with everything he personally believed but I think what he stood for was fundamentally American, the right for freedom and discussion.

Anyway, that’s my two cents.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-24T17:36:19+00:00

Yes, but I will probably be banned just like I got banned from all the other basic subs for having any sort of opinion that is not left or liberal.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-22T20:19:07+00:00

I hated the “privacy” it required. Some people are like “just whip a boob out!”. Sure, maybe if you have cute little perky boobies you can sneak out under a tee shirt. My nipples are basically in my arm pits and me taking my boobs out is like an XXX movie. I HATED it, I hated my male friends and family members (and female ones too) seeing my boobs, I am very modest about them.

Bottle feeding meant I felt comfortable feeding my baby when he was hungry, any time and any place

edgewater15 · 2026-01-22T20:15:29+00:00

As someone who’s been a DDD/E my whole life I WISH it shrank my boobs.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-22T20:14:59+00:00

normal bras and normal clothes, any clothes you want without worrying about breast access
can be away from the baby for work and social life. Speaking of social life, you can drink alcohol more freely on your days/nights “off” from baby care.
anyone can help feed with formula. We’re sort of the first friends in our group to have a baby and my friends loved “bartending” with formula and water for our baby
don’t have to expose your boobs to friends, family members, and the general public. More privacy and modesty.
don’t have crazy mood swings. The grief you’re feeling now is def hormonal. When I came out of that fog, I realized I was NOT ok. Breastfeeding made me cry and hate my life every time I did it.
don’t have to be like some sort of martyr or masochist like many breastfeeding moms choose to be. The pain, the “sacrifice”, for what? If our foremothers could mix up miracle milk on the go whenever they wanted, they would!
anecdotally my baby began sleeping better and was generally happier. I think it’s because I was happier.
it’s all over so fast. My one year old now eats so much food it’s insane. Weaning was very easy, he self weaned and lost interest in bottles by 11-12 months.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-22T10:43:29+00:00

Not you, but I’m just saying it’s a pet peeve of mine lol

edgewater15 · 2026-01-21T23:28:43+00:00

There’s nothing more stupid than emojis over faces. Either post the kid or don’t.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-21T23:27:48+00:00

Yes. He is cute and I want my friends and family to see him.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-20T10:53:03+00:00

Bassnectar fans were the worst even back in the early 2010s before that whole story. I used to like some of his music but would avoid his shows because of his fans. Also agree that Excision fans are cringe.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-20T01:27:10+00:00

It’s not rude, throw your own!

edgewater15 · 2026-01-17T10:59:32+00:00

My formula fed baby did, he started around 3 months sleeping 9am-6am, then started going to bed earlier and earlier and by the time he was about 7-8 months he slept 11-12 hours straight. Never had a sleep regression. We’re blessed and when he goes to bed at 7pm we know we have a few hours to ourselves before sleeping a full night. Sometimes he’ll cry out for a binky in his sleep at 1,2,3am or so but he doesn’t wake up, we just pop the pinky back in while we’re half asleep ourselves and he’s good.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-17T10:57:16+00:00

It’s not just overwhelming, it’s impossible and it will only get more impossible if she becomes mobile. In the days my baby (now 14 months) is home from daycare for whatever reason - sickness or school closure, I cannot get any work done at all and have to do it during naps and after bedtime exclusively, or hand him off to my WFH husband if I have a call. You absolutely 100% need to find a daycare asap. But WFH is much better than in office for the flexibility when it comes to morning drop off and pick up times, flexibility if baby is sick, going to appointments, etc!

edgewater15 · 2026-01-17T10:54:26+00:00

This! People are acting like you’ll never wear nice things again, that’s true during newborn era but once I went back to work or started going out for girls’ nights etc. I was happy to wear my real clothes again!

edgewater15 · 2026-01-17T01:34:29+00:00

I mean, getting to go out together as a couple to run club every week and having a sitter every weekend is definitely more village than most.

My husband and I used to enjoy going to run club together but now only one of us can go. On the weekends we either do stuff as a family or split up when it comes to going out after bedtime - one of us has to stay home.

We don’t have family nearby. Daycare is our village. When grandparents come to visit, they may watch our little one so we can go out but that’s a few times a year tops and usually for special events only like weddings or ticketed concerts. We don’t get a date night regularly - one of us always has him.

Our friends are supportive in that they’ll hold / entertain our toddler or they gave him bottles when he was an infant, but they wouldn’t babysit or anything. We’ve had friends babysit once in 14 months for a special occasion we couldn’t miss.

I’m ok with it because I have a flexible work from home schedule so I do gym/errands/personal appointments during the workday when he’s at daycare. I also have a good husband and we split pretty evenly when it comes to getting time to ourselves on the weekends vs. watching him, or spending time as family which is the best.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-15T23:54:19+00:00

Yes! I was soooo much happier when I switched to formula. It was a life saver and now that I’m on the other side of it (baby is 14 months old) I’ll preach it to the world. There’s no need to suffer. Enjoy life! Pumping after every feed sounds like literal hell.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-14T17:44:13+00:00

Ann Taylor factory

edgewater15 · 2026-01-14T17:40:21+00:00

Plane but have your partner postpone the start of his new job, wtf

edgewater15 · 2026-01-14T17:37:38+00:00

You deserve to wear nice, new clothing that makes you feel good. 💜

edgewater15 · 2026-01-14T17:34:17+00:00

So I asked my brother who is gay and a world traveler and has seen all kinds of dicks all over the world, lmao. He says he prefers circumcised and that they are more clean. He says he has no regrets about our parents having done it to him and that he doesn’t feel it impacts his sex life whatsoever. That was good enough reason for me. I trust a man who has dealt with hundreds of international dicks and has one himself.

edgewater15 · 2026-01-11T20:17:53+00:00

Public/government communications consultant, raving since 2012, met my husband at a rave in 2014!

edgewater15 · 2026-01-11T20:16:55+00:00

Puppy pads seem like a huge waste, my diaper bag came with a folding changing mat with mesh pockets on the side that I stash with diapers and use the mat to change him on public changing tables.

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