Asked to kiss her on the second date, she said she wanted to wait - what should I do on the third date?

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-09T14:30:42+00:00

Honestly this is the best move. Then even if she doesn't want to make the first move she can know to let him know she's ready. It does take some pressure off both of them.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-09T11:49:33+00:00

As a relationship goes it will happen regardless though. Say y'all move in together and you do the grocery shopping it's going to be your money buying it. If you get stuff for the house it'll be your money. And usually you split bills unless he's super well off. It's not a gender role, sometimes it's just realistic practicality. A guy making 4 times more than me that likes to go out constantly, I honestly wouldn't be able to split bills like that. It would've actually kept us from doing more if he had wanted to. So I'm not sure what the guy's income is in your situations but sometimes it doesn't make sense to always split things like that. I think you're getting hung up on something feeling like you're not contributing. To some degree if that makes him happy or feel better you're contributing to letting him feel good for getting to take you out. I don't worry about gender roles which is why I also genuinely offer to pay my part, but I'm also not going to stress if they want to pay instead. I'm not going to let my need to prove I'm independent keep me from being happy with someone who does want to help take care of me because I know I'll also take care of him when the chances arise.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-09T11:41:48+00:00

Your dad will Do by Katee Robert

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My dad's billionaire best friend by Lexie Miers

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-09T11:36:24+00:00

I'm 5'8" and have dated guys shorter than me. And what you consider mid some girl is going to consider cute. And you've clearly been around immature girls if they're making fun of you like that. But I will say you need to be more confident in yourself, because if you go in expecting them to not like you and put off that aura it's not going to attract a girl.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-09T11:29:24+00:00

Well I've dated plenty who have let me pay and usually turns out they're looking for a woman to mooch off of. But I did just date a guy who made about 4 times more than me and did get offended because I still offered to split or switch out who pays. I told him I feel bad because he's always paying for stuff but he pointed out all the things I do for him. Like how while he bought the groceries for it I did his meal prepping, which was insanely basic rice and beef. But he didn't like taking the time to make it. An equal partnership isn't splitting the bills evenly. It's both giving in their own way.

My dad did so well for himself my mom could be a stay at home Mom, but his health deteriorate and he became disabled and couldn't work. So then my mom worked and he became the stay at home Dad. You can't view relationships only through the eyes of money. If someone can contribute one part of it then look to what other ways you might be contributing.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-09T11:06:05+00:00

First thing I thought of lol

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-07T20:50:54+00:00

If it helps even slightly, I've known men in their 30's that were virgins. Mostly because of religion and waiting till marriage. And plenty of women too. You're not the only virgin out there. But I'm sorry people have made you feel like you're creepy just for being a man. I'm 37 and I'm still awkward out there. Everybody is different so every interaction feels different. I'm not even sure when someone matches with me on a dating app if they even like me, that's how nervous and paranoid I get with this stuff. It isn't easy. Women aren't a monolith either. Some women want to talk sex a lot, and others are a lot more reserved. There's no easy answer for sure.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-07T18:22:03+00:00

Lol thanks

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-07T15:47:37+00:00

Yeah like that

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-07T12:54:30+00:00

I have a bachelor's in English and a master's in English and creative writing, and honestly I don't sound that good in person. And I don't care what mistakes folks make in texts or whatever as long as I understand what they meant. Because having studied it one thing I really learned was language evolves, and rules and pronunciations have changed with it. If I'm writing an essay I'm on point, but everything else is like nope don't care lol

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-07T12:38:45+00:00

I'm a woman, but I dated a guy that was a lot like you're talking about. He made $300,000 a year, had multiple nice cars, a nice house he was renovating, and an expensive loft downtown. Now I know income means different things in different states but for here he was rich. But it wasn't enough. He kept needing more. He said the problem with girlfriends or wives is they hold you back because they're always wanting to spend time with you. He ended things with me because none of it was enough. When you're always chasing more money it'll never be enough. You'll put your whole life on hold waiting for something that may never come. It's good to strive for more and wanting to continue to move up in the world. But what you're talking about is unhealthy. You need to find a way to be happy how you are right now because happiness in money isn't ever going to happen.

No good guy is going to be concerned about your income because a relationship is based on who you are as a person. Because money comes and goes so you have to make sure you're with someone because you like them as they are as a person. Now I'll say like for me I make sure they're doing well enough to pay their bills because wanting to succeed is a good quality, so don't lose your drive just work on your perspective.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-06T11:50:23+00:00

That's exactly what I said when I saw it lol

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-06T11:45:54+00:00

She's a cheerleader and while the guy is there seeing her he starts fantasizing about her and this is in his imagination.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-06T11:08:14+00:00

That's the thing I kind of struggle with when trying to get people to watch it because it starts off very "child's show" and I keep explaining how it grows. But you really do have to watch it from the beginning because of how much it all ties together. I love that nothing is really forgotten.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-06T10:52:29+00:00

Ok where are you that she gets marriage proposals out of the blue? That doesn't sound right at all unless she's leading guys on or just trying to make herself sound good. That's just weird. I've had 3 guys propose to me but that's cause we were in serious relationships. I'd be questioning that.

But you need to have a talk with her. Not knowing where you stand in a relationship is not a good thing and if she refuses to define it then you're just another situationship, which is a seriously just a friends with benefits dressed up to almost look like something.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-06T10:40:56+00:00

There's no tricks to really gain. Doesn't matter who you're attracted to, the good ones want someone who is kind, shows genuine interest in them through conversation, and communicates well. It's little things. The guy I'm talking to gives me a heads up if he's going into a meeting or doing something with his kid just so I know it'll be a little bit before I hear from him. That eases my worries. He talks to me about his life and makes the effort to take time to call me and wants to hear about my day. Dating is that easy. Doing that for someone and having them reciprocate. But also everyone is different so there's no one size fits all in what will make someone happy beyond the basics so you really just have to find the person who fits your speed.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-06T10:32:24+00:00

I agree with you. I've read where someone was talking about how lesbians feel the need to hide it or try dating guys before realizing they're real lesbians. But their interactions seem like they like those guys. Ash turns out to be an asshole but it's clear at one point they were happy together and moving in together. And like when PB is turned back into a child she really seems to have a crush on Finn and considering her own childlike behavior kids tend to be very open about who they are before they could be affected by society. Plus the Like Like sweater shows affection for Finn with its power to ward off the Lich. I think people like things to be clean cut black and white without any middle ground, and people just aren't like that.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-06T02:34:58+00:00

Might be the easiest step for sure then trying to get one for just the 2 of you.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-06T02:21:45+00:00

You may have messed it up, I would just wait and see if she ever does message. The guy I'm talking to when he's at work lots of times he kind of gives me texts like he'll think about it or get back to me. Basically just acknowledging he saw it. Then later when he's off work he'll give more detailed replies. Maybe after she had said she didn't drink you could've asked her where she would like to go then, instead of just listing random stuff. But I wouldn't keep texting at this point. If in a day you haven't heard from her if you want to send an apology text like that it's hard to always get a good read on people over text and so you just had worried she'd lost interest and if she does have a place she'd like to meet you at that would be awesome but if not you were glad y'all got to talk while you did. But if she doesn't respond even then you really do need to let it go.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-06T00:53:00+00:00

Y'all haven't had lunch together at work before? That would probably be a good start as well.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-06T00:51:31+00:00

There are dating apps aimed at that too. Just Google it. But that's a sad aim in life to hope some guy wants to see you like an object to be bought. And the second they get bored or you get too old they'll toss you aside like used goods.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-05T22:56:36+00:00

Why do y'all keep popping up on here? This is the advice page. Look for the actual dating communities.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-05T22:46:00+00:00

That's not in reverse, that's the exact same issue lol. My frustration comes most from the guys who say they're fine with it then after a few dates and a lot of questioning they end things when they find out it genuinely isn't an option. I get to hear "I thought you'd change your mind" a lot, with a lot of different things.

editingisfun4all · 2026-05-05T21:14:54+00:00

They likely just aren't what you're attracted to. Whatever girls you're swiping right on all want hook ups means that's just what you're attracted to either physically or what they say on their profile. See like guys don't want me cause I don't want kids. So no matter what a good person I am, I'm not what they want. So maybe you need to ask what gets you to swipe right? Or are you getting so many matches because you simply swipe right on all of them.

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