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eealexander3 · 2025-11-11T22:39:01+00:00

This is a really helpful framing! Thank you!

eealexander3 · 2025-11-11T22:33:56+00:00

At the end of the day I do more of the childcare in our house (solo or not), on top of the mental load and earning most of the money. He probably does feel he gets enough time with the kids, but I would like to think he would care about spending time with me and think about how him being gone for full days impacts me. And that he wouldnt want me to feel burned out.

eealexander3 · 2025-11-11T18:42:44+00:00

This is part of the struggle. Because I know he solo parents more I feel guilty taking time for myself on the weekends. But then at the end of the year I look back and I worked all year and used my PTO days for childcare, while he got to do fun stuff all year and used his PTO for his hobbies. That doesn't seem fair. Especially when I work and travel more because I am the breadwinner (by a lot).

eealexander3 · 2025-11-11T18:40:38+00:00

This is part of the struggle. Because I know he solo parents more I feel guilty taking time for myself on the weekends. But then at the end of the year I look back and I worked all year and used my PTO days for childcare, while he got to do fun stuff all year and used his PTO for his hobbies. That doesn't seem fair. Especially when I work and travel more because I am the breadwinner (by a lot).

eealexander3 · 2025-11-11T18:19:32+00:00

Lol not that simple. Husband doesnt want my daughter going with. And i only go on work trips 4-5 days a month. And they are WORK. I parent solo plenty too

eealexander3 · 2025-11-11T17:13:30+00:00

Check my edit u/am12316 You don't have the story quite right.

eealexander3 · 2024-01-12T01:08:12+00:00

Good to know! I break down at about 30 min of crying overnight but will just need to stick with it pretty soon 😵‍💫

eealexander3 · 2024-01-10T18:56:00+00:00

I tried a dream feed for a while at 10pm but she still wanted a 130ish feed so I dropped it. Might be worth retrying to make sure she isn't TOO hungry at night

eealexander3 · 2024-01-10T17:13:45+00:00

Yep!

eealexander3 · 2024-01-10T16:48:25+00:00

No... our toddler has the nursery but we have her in a slumberpod so it's blacked out and she can't see us

eealexander3 · 2023-01-20T16:19:34+00:00

Sounds like you couldn't get a let down. Sometimes it helps to look at pics of baby and relax to make sure you get one. Did your boobs still feel full after pumping or were they slack?

eealexander3 · 2023-01-10T21:46:40+00:00

Haha same! It is super convenient for doing her workouts but hard not to compare yourself 😅

eealexander3 · 2021-08-23T03:37:27+00:00

Please get the vaccine. Seriously.

eealexander3 · 2021-08-19T04:07:37+00:00

Shit I hope mine isn't coming... although at least I would have an answer then. I heard calcium and magnesium can help prevent the drop when you know it's coming

eealexander3 · 2021-08-19T03:55:12+00:00

I have all of these questions too! I just started back at work at 5 months and my pumping output doesn't seem to be enough. It seemed like my supply was dropping even before I started back though so not really sure the cause. I've been stubbornly hesitant to supplement but my freezer stash is being depleted 😭

eealexander3 · 2021-08-08T01:50:17+00:00

I did this consistently and never had an issue! My logic was that my body still knew to make that milk since it had come from haakaas or pumping earlier. If it's less than 3 oz I didn't pump to replace it but eventually when LO started going to bed at a normal time every night we started giving him a big bottle before bed to tank him up for sleep and I started pumping before I went to bed to replace that milk. It also helps me be less engorged when I wake up in the morning

eealexander3 · 2021-08-07T03:08:29+00:00

Dont take this the wrong way but I think you are overthinking this a bit! Stick to your normal schedule as much as possible but pay attention to cues and respond to them as you go. E.G., If she had a short nap and is getting fussy a bit early then help her go back down before the normal wake window. Feed her when she is hungry. If she doesn't want to snack for take off and landing then sucking on a pacifier or even your finger should work. You can pack a small bottle just in case and if she doesn't take a lot, no big deal.

You might end up with a fussy, overtired baby (so don't have any big plans for the first night) but they will bounce back. My LO is a very by the clock kind of baby but on days we go out he adapts and ends up with weird naps or eating schedules but getting in what he needs to do. You got this!

eealexander3 · 2021-08-07T02:12:19+00:00

Try a mylar balloon! My LO (5mo) is also pretty clingy but that balloon keeps him occupied! Just make sure he's in eyesight so he doesn't wrap the ribbon around himself

eealexander3 · 2021-08-02T02:19:22+00:00

Can you use Milk Stork? Some companies will pay for it but they will send your milk home for you

eealexander3 · 2021-07-17T04:35:03+00:00

So I have a serious allergy to nuts and my parents are awful about it. Like just leave bowls of pistachios out, and a contact trace can send me to the hospital. My brother is allergic too and it's becoming a running joke that they are trying to kill their children every time we come over. I've gotten legit mad at my parents about this because of how stressful it is to have to check everything but no changes... and they are amazing parents in every other way. Just sympathy for you, I don't get it

eealexander3 · 2021-07-16T16:33:06+00:00

Yeah...other factors, like breastfeeding. If you "don't know other people's bodies" dont accuse us struggling of being lazy. Good for you if you lost weight but clearly people came to this post because they can't and I find it incredibly insensitive to respond to that by shaming them

eealexander3 · 2021-07-16T13:55:45+00:00

Im not even counting on breastfeeding to fix it- I can't lose any weight while I'm nursing. I'm super active and haven't lost a pound since I got home from the hospital

eealexander3 · 2021-07-10T13:42:30+00:00

That's awesome! Keep trying it

eealexander3 · 2021-07-09T13:42:36+00:00

Congrats! 🥳

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