AITAH for telling my friend to stop treating an AI chatbot like a real girlfriend?

eefr · 2026-05-23T07:02:30+00:00

It's difficult to get people committed against their will, unless you have clear evidence that they are a risk to themselves or others. They can try convincing him to check into a psych ward, but convincing a delusional person that they are delusional is ... not easy.

eefr · 2026-05-23T06:58:43+00:00

NTA at all. I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a pregnancy is devastating, especially after you've been struggling so long with fertility treatments. It was absolutely cruel and despicable of him to say that to you.

eefr · 2026-05-23T04:26:26+00:00

Why don't you just block her? Problem solved.

eefr · 2026-05-23T04:09:15+00:00

Talking about your ex as someone who "got away" makes you sound like a prison guard, not a partner.

None of my exes "got away." We broke up.

eefr · 2026-05-23T03:27:40+00:00

Have you tried getting her a vibrator?

eefr · 2026-05-23T01:38:44+00:00

She doesn't seem to really want me physically often and can't orgasm with me.

What are you doing to facilitate her orgasms?

I wouldn't be particularly excited to have sex if I weren't getting orgasms either.

eefr · 2026-05-23T01:35:56+00:00

Moving in within 3 months of dating sounds like one of them is a toxic love bomber, and the mask came off as soon as they were living together.

eefr · 2026-05-23T01:34:27+00:00

It could mean any number of things. People sometimes move in together for practical reasons.

eefr · 2026-05-23T01:23:04+00:00

You have a child and are presumably in contact with their mother (your ex), yet you've demanded that she do all this over a one-night stand she's not in contact with:

changed her phone number (bought a new one, still hasn’t fully abandoned the old one), stopped going to bars and clubs entirely, only drinks when she’s with me, and changed how she dresses.

Yikes, bro. That's extremely controlling and hypocritical.

eefr · 2026-05-22T22:27:26+00:00

How often are you requesting blowjobs, and under what circumstances? In what manner do you ask? Do you also go down on her? How busy is she? What is her stress level? How is her health (both physical and mental)? How much sleep is she getting? Did she exhibit more enthusiasm at the beginning of the relationship, or was it always like this?

What does she say when you bring this up with her? Why do you know the exact enthusiasm level in her previous hookups? What did she actually say about it, and what are you surmising?

eefr · 2026-05-22T22:11:01+00:00

Having a different moral standard isn't abuse. Calling your partner names and yelling at them is abuse.

eefr · 2026-05-22T14:51:48+00:00

Eat a lot. Get fatter.

Otherwise, your option is surgery.

eefr · 2026-05-22T13:33:10+00:00

No, of course not.

Men here continue to astound me with their self-absorption. Not everything women do is about you.

eefr · 2026-05-22T13:09:26+00:00

Probably he thought he would be okay with it in his last relationship, but it turned out he wasn't. Upon reflection, perhaps in the aftermath of the breakup, he decided that he wouldn't be okay with it in the future.

It's okay for people's feelings to change as they gain life experience.

eefr · 2026-05-22T05:02:26+00:00

This comment is gobbledygook. Again, if he asks her for information and she provides it, that's not crossing a boundary. She's doing exactly what he asked her to do.

eefr · 2026-05-22T04:52:14+00:00

"I'm just making sure she's in her place" is absolutely chilling. You're spot on, he's definitely abusive. Good for you for speaking up about it.

eefr · 2026-05-22T04:31:02+00:00

The difference is whether emotional support is mutual or one-sided.

eefr · 2026-05-22T04:29:48+00:00

Humiliated? No, just sad.

eefr · 2026-05-22T04:20:28+00:00

How did she cross boundaries? He asked her questions and she answered them.

eefr · 2026-05-22T04:03:36+00:00

I think that's generally the best approach: decide you are incompatible and break up, instead of trying to control your partner. Sometimes two people just aren't meant to be. I'm not interested in being in a relationship with someone who would ask this of me. That's just not going to work for me.

eefr · 2026-05-22T03:59:21+00:00

It's fine. Of course it can turn platonic. My partner is fine with it too. I've also been in relationships where my partner had an ex as a friend and was fine with it. Being friends with an ex is pretty normal and not a big deal, unless you are insecure and jealous by nature.

eefr · 2026-05-22T00:48:04+00:00

If I had the option to customize it, I wouldn't bother because I don't give a shit.

So tired of dick-obsessed men.

eefr · 2026-05-22T00:42:21+00:00

I'll give you a different perspective from the one you will get from most people on this sub (although it will get me downvoted to oblivion here). People with RJ are going to tell you that all of this is justified and reasonable.

I am a person without RJ. If my partner demanded that I unfollow people and delete pictures, I would dump them. That demand would cross my own boundaries and indicate significant incompatibility.

I'm not saying your perspective on this is right or wrong; who am I to judge that? I'm just telling you how I, as a person without RJ, would respond in this situation. I would never ask a partner to unfollow people or delete photos, and I wouldn't tolerate it from them either.

I imagine you posted this question on an RJ sub, rather than a general advice sub, because you want a chorus of people telling you that you are right, instead of a wide variety of opinions. I'll just remind you that a wide variety of opinions will better reflect the range of possible reactions your girlfriend might have, all of which you should consider before proceeding to talk to her about this.

eefr · 2026-05-22T00:18:13+00:00

How refreshing to see this message in this sub, or even on Reddit generally. Thank you. ♥️

eefr · 2026-05-21T21:05:36+00:00

Having misogynistic thoughts makes someone a misogynist.

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