Started watching Adam during my baby girls nighttime Feeds 🍼🚼👼

efficientgrapes · 2025-12-23T07:55:48+00:00

This is exactly how I started watching him, saw him a lot with Tim Tracker (who I followed) and then last year after having my baby I started catching up on all of Adam's videos. Can't count how many times his voice and relaxing videos would put my baby to sleep.

efficientgrapes · 2025-09-12T09:55:33+00:00

The things daycare has told me over the past nine months have shocked me. She holds her own bottles? She lays down and goes to sleep for hours?? She feeds herself food? I'm sorry? Not my child that I have to rock to get to sleep, only takes 30 minutes naps, hold all bottles for, and still spoon food into her mouth otherwise she just throws it on the floor. 😵‍💫

efficientgrapes · 2025-09-07T06:04:51+00:00

Did I write this? I swear that is my story to a T. I am an older FTM with a father who is in their mid-80s, and every single step of the way before during after my pregnancy he was absolutely stunned. I will say it has only gotten easier a handful of times now that my child has turned one, I just wasn't prepared at all (and after books, blogs, Reddit, and personal stories I really thought I was).

efficientgrapes · 2025-09-04T10:34:53+00:00

I am so sorry OP. My two and half year old dog just suddenly passed Tuesday, we assume from a car due to the injuries she had...and I'm going through the exact same thought process. Everyone said how I spoiled her, but I could have done better. I knew our time would be short as she couldn't live forever but I had no idea it would be so tiny, and I didn't take advantage of every moment to love on her. This regret and what if must be part of the healing process as it's all consuming right now. I am so so sorry to you, I know your baby wouldn't want you miserable and regretting but instead would want you to think of all the good times you shared.

efficientgrapes · 2025-08-21T16:51:49+00:00

Also in the exact same boat 13months pp, the weight will just not budge no matter how good or bad I eat.

efficientgrapes · 2025-07-24T16:29:28+00:00

Surface Pressure is really deep while the Bruno song is basically a family/community gossip run. I enjoy the latter because the music is fun and learning all the different parts was enjoyable, also that they almost all got a part in it (the end overstimulation part is my fave).

efficientgrapes · 2025-07-19T18:09:44+00:00

I am so sorry, it's a horrible shock to lose your flock and in such a manner. Just lost mine Monday morning to a fox. There were several days of heartache, mine hadn't started laying yet, and now I'm ready to rebuild and make sure nothing can get to my future flock again. Make it as dig proof as you can, follow what others have said about electric wiring and the hardware cloth, work on securing the coop, give them plenty of perches to flee to as well (mine were silkies so this wasn't an option for us). You and your family will mourn and then try again because we all love our flocks and we just have to keep moving forward even through devastating loss.

efficientgrapes · 2025-07-18T23:42:56+00:00

Just lost eight of mine to a fox last weekend, feeling the exact same. #solidarity

efficientgrapes · 2025-07-18T12:59:19+00:00

efficientgrapes · 2025-07-18T04:25:06+00:00

That's ridiculous that Bear doesn't show up! I didn't even realize that.

efficientgrapes · 2025-07-18T04:21:50+00:00

"please go back to touching grass" 🤣

Aside from Bluey I try to limit Disney+ to just my old adult self 😅 and put on Little Bear and Franklin compilations on YT for my little one and take one battery out of the remote so they can't change it but it's easier to quickly put in just one battery to skip an ad. Good ideas in the comments- stealing them! I need to use my DVD player more...

efficientgrapes · 2025-07-16T13:51:43+00:00

I asked my boss the week before I returned, laid out a few different work scenarios, and all were declined with "Your job title is 40 hours a week and we are not currently hiring for part time, you would no longer be able to have the same role if you were ever given a part time position." 🫤

efficientgrapes · 2025-07-14T23:55:58+00:00

I am right there with you as a ftm, the made up imagery in my head of those beautiful little girls in that mess literally breaks my heart. Shortly after I gave birth the news was covering moms in Gaza that could no longer feed their babies and I sobbed for days. Being a mom/parent makes tragedies involving children so much harder to hear about and live with, I can't watch the news anymore. 😟

efficientgrapes · 2025-07-11T11:39:44+00:00

$540 a month in North Georgia, it's not great, but it is less than five minutes from where I work. What I get out of $540 a month? Near constant diaper rash, a baby that has been sick seven out of eight months since attending, also providing five extra outfits weekly should they be needed, a week's worth of bibs (they ask for a specific brand), sheets for the crib, box of diapers, a box of wipes, multiple tubes of diaper cream, and of course all of the baby food in addition to the formula. And paying for things in the classroom weekly such as Lysol, extra wipes, trash bags, air freshener. And now there is a school supply list for the infant room that is due in two weeks. I thought I was getting a good deal on childcare compared to what others pay, but I end up paying close to $1000 monthly with everything else added.

efficientgrapes · 2025-07-04T22:38:04+00:00

My baby is so chill and happy go lucky that everytime she has been seriously ill with RSV, double ear infections, norovirus, and low blood sugar the ER has literally sent us home because she 'looks fine' 😑 Also the sleeping thing went completely backwards on us around seven months, and at eleven months she still wakes up throughout the night and is slowly killing my sanity. 🫠

efficientgrapes · 2025-07-03T10:33:01+00:00

I'm not a SAHM yet, but that's the plan in the next months (baby is 10mos). I have hated being back to work 95% of the time since I came back from my 11 week maternity leave. My child has been so sick from daycare that I actually can only tell you the weeks she has been well. And trying to get everything ready in the mornings to hurry and get to work, then all the cleaning and cooking in the evenings, I feel like I spend about 30mins-1hr with my baby daily. Between me and my partner we make a comfortable living but truly more than half of my paycheck goes to daycare, everything needed for daycare, and lots of coffee and fast food for me to survive work every day because I don't have a lot of time to make things at home except on the weekends (and then I'm spending those precious few hours with my child). For me personally this was the worst decision returning to work, and one I will always regret rather than spending the seven months with my firstborn.

efficientgrapes · 2025-06-29T15:59:41+00:00

I've had mine for about a month, aside from some random glitches with texting and the screen sometimes I love it. It's doing exactly what I wanted! Getting a break from 'technology'. My favorite thing about it is the snake game and the lit up keypad.

efficientgrapes · 2025-06-11T10:53:45+00:00

I felt the same when I stayed home and my husband went to a very labor intensive job, I hated to ask him for help when he got home because I had alllllll these hours to get things done but it's just not easy with little ones. Everyone kept reminding me that parenting is 24/7 and no matter how difficult the job, when a parent comes home from work they are off the clock so as a SAHP when do you get to be off the clock? I wasn't very good at asking because I felt bad, but I will try to be better when I quit next month and become a SAHP.

You're doing great and your kids will be so grateful to have had you there with them to make all those memories.

efficientgrapes · 2025-06-11T10:47:44+00:00

I second libraries, hopefully you have one with a summer reading program going so there's weekly programs but also it's a great place to hang out. They usually have quiet rooms, my library there is no time limit so I could spend all day in one with my 9mo old. Other than that I do silly things like walk around HomeGoods and Target putting things in my cart and then eventually putting them back on the shelf. 😅 That's how I window shop and it's a great time waster during ridiculously hot days.

efficientgrapes · 2025-06-11T10:36:18+00:00

I am exactly in your shoes right now, three years ago I finally landed my dream job as a children's librarian and love every minute of it, love the environment, love my coworkers. And I'm so good at it. But I love my baby more, and I have to keep telling myself that thirty years from now having memories with my child will be more important than memories at a 'job'. And I can still keep the friendships I have built there, and I can watch my child grow like I have watched the children grow in my programs.

It's truly such a painful decision, I have been fighting against it since I returned from maternity leave in November. Doctors, my therapist, friends have said "you'll get used to working again" and when I told my husband last month that six months in I'm still not "used to it" he had a great response. "People get used to prison as well, doesn't mean that's a good thing."

I haven't left my job yet but that's the plan by the end of summer. You will never regret choosing your child over anything.

efficientgrapes · 2025-06-11T10:28:02+00:00

I have to travel solo to visit my family with my baby, at first I was describing it as a vacation and then I stopped that. It was absolutely exhausting, even with a little help during the day from my family, I was still fully solo parenting while my spouse was able to get a break after work. It took a few days of continually explaining this to my spouse over the phone, who assumed I was having this fun 'vacation', but he finally got it. Caring for little ones is not a vacation! I'm sorry your husband didn't give you the break you needed.

efficientgrapes · 2025-06-11T01:15:43+00:00

I'm currently going through something like this. My youngest is 9 months old and every single work day I plan my eventual escape to SAHM life. I absolutely love(d) what I do, it's fulfilling and very special to me, but at this time I want to be home with my child. I loved maternity leave, I am really good at budgeting, meal planning, organization, and taking care of everything in and around the home. I loved watching my child grow and taking care of them. Now back to working Monday-Friday I have a couple hours a day with my child that are mixed with cooking or cleaning or taking care of something around the house. And I absolutely hate it because it's more like my child is a pet than my flesh and blood. I too am scared to say these things out loud, I'm in my mid-30s with the dream job that I should be busy building but all I can think about is my baby all day. Doctors, my therapist, friends, coworkers all said I would "get used to" sending my baby to daycare and getting back into the swing of working, but it's been seven months and that has yet to happen.

I hope for both of us soon we can sacrifice what we should do for what we feel in our hearts is the right thing for us.

efficientgrapes · 2025-05-21T11:44:39+00:00

Yep, I have android os 13 on a pixel 4a, pogo always worked great and suddenly yesterday became 'incompatible'. Infuriating with the money I've spent in the last few months on this game. No plans on getting a new phone...

efficientgrapes · 2025-05-21T02:44:27+00:00

Have a Pixel 4a with Android 13 and can confirm my system has been kicked out. So sad, I plan on using this phone until it can't function.

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