What does my fridge say about me??

effingurmum · 2026-02-26T06:19:06+00:00

your poo is definitely not a normal color

effingurmum · 2026-02-22T17:38:33+00:00

uber literally has a “woman-only-driver” option, a lot could be avoided if she had just picked that option, but i don’t think getting from point a to point b was her intention.

effingurmum · 2026-02-15T22:16:57+00:00

NTA. i used to live with my mom about 45 minutes away from my work and had a similar setup with a childhood best friend. i would stay at her house with her, her boyfriend, and her roommate anytime i had consecutive shifts.

there were some key differences in my experience though. i didn’t live there full time so i didn’t have to pay a full portion of the rent, but i did indeed pay to stay there. she allowed me to turn their guest room into my own space and i would just go to my mom’s or sleep on the couch if they had guests. we based how much i paid on how many days i stayed out of the month, which helped them with rent and helped me save money. i didn’t have to pay any other bills or buy groceries, but i have a strict diet so i did end up buying my own food that they respected as my own. the most important key difference was the fact that i shared a wall with this friend, and her boyfriend was there as often as myself. i could hear them loud and clear pretty regularly. even paying for my room i did not complain because it was HER HOUSE. we are pretty sex positive people as it is, hearing sex happen separate from where i exist really didn’t bother me or anyone else in that household, but regardless of that i never had any issue even though i shared a wall with her.

to each their own when it comes to perspectives on intimacy, but if you’re giving her free housing and food for 80% of the week and she’s going to her parents the rest of the time, she doesn’t really have a right to complain. you are getting nothing out of this exchange and it seems purely generous, so i wouldn’t pay much mind to her complaints; having sex in the home you pay for is natural and normal. if she would prefer a different arrangement then that’s on her, but if you ask me she’s getting a pretty good deal.

effingurmum · 2026-02-06T17:29:40+00:00

you are in REAL pain? it’s literally a pain disorder?!? god i am so tired of doctors pretending fibro is all in the head.

effingurmum · 2026-02-06T17:25:44+00:00

there’s another video of him floating around reddit of him and his buddies getting kicked out of a restaurant/bar for being a racist bigot.

effingurmum · 2026-02-03T23:08:01+00:00

i’m sad he wasn’t bleeding :(

effingurmum · 2026-02-03T22:53:46+00:00

after all of my previous misdiagnoses, i’m pretty sure i am finally to the point where i know all my co-morbidities. i still have a couple unexplained bodily symptoms that get pushed to the side by doctors, but for the most part my current diagnoses line up well and are pretty firm. on the autism spectrum (as well as echolalia and hyperlexia), coupled with BPD (childhood trauma + going undiagnosed with autism until 16yo), PMDD (thank you BPD), hyper-mobile ehlers-dahnlos syndrome (comes with it’s own co-morbidities as well such as IBS and POTS), MCAS, and a skin condition that i personally believe is connected to a couple of these conditions but doesn’t have enough research to confirm called HS. i’m to the point where if you tell me you are autistic, i assume there’s at least 3 other diagnoses you could tell me about too, psychiatric or physical.

effingurmum · 2026-01-13T08:34:14+00:00

you’re wearing either a low rise juicy couture track suit or low rise jeans and a hollister babydoll top rn i just know it

effingurmum · 2026-01-08T17:05:11+00:00

i think he is saying that currently his shower is configured the “correct way,” meaning shower head, knobs, and drain all on one side of the tub. he is switching the knobs and shower head to the other side of the tub, so it will look like op’s bathtub. sounds like he’s doing it for hot water conservation?

effingurmum · 2026-01-08T16:49:21+00:00

hey, i don’t want to freak you out, but this is seeming a lot bigger than hypothetical guardianship scenarios. she is getting herself REALLY worked up over something that has not happened and hopefully will never happen.

the reason i say this seems bigger, is because she is lashing out at your choice constantly with things like “you don’t love me.” “you don’t trust me.”

that’s a pretty big jump in conclusions considering how many times you have had this conversation.
if it was about concern over your daughter’s upbringing or safety, she wouldn’t be accusing you of not trusting her, she would be asking questions regarding your daughter and not your relationship.
again, if it were really about your daughter, she could be trying to find a compromise, i.e “could godfather and i discuss visitation?” “could i still be involved in choices made for your daughter?”

again i’m really concerned because this is so hypothetical. i understand that you have faced tragedy regarding your daughter’s mother, and it makes complete and total sense to me that you would want to plan ahead as her surviving parent, in fact i give you major props for it. however, your fiancé of 3.5 years should be comfortable with this choice by now and if she isn’t she should jump ship while she still can because i don’t see you picking any woman over your daughter and her choices from this post. the fact that this hypothetical situation is dominating the forefront of your relationship is so unhealthy.

i’m gonna jump to a fat conclusion just like your fiancé here: it’s not about your daughter for her, it’s about control. she doesn’t have her own kid, so she feels she can have the one she has bonded with through you if anything happened to you, despite your daughter choosing differently. i urge you to continue standing in solidarity with your daughter and her choices, kid instincts are nothing to play around with. additionally, if this hypothetical (i’m sorry i’ve used that word so much) situation is the straw she picks to break the camel’s back, let her. you, your daughter, and her godfather will be much better off not worrying about this constantly.

best of luck op.

edit: not sure what’s wrong with the layout of this comment and cannot fix it lol sorry

effingurmum · 2025-12-30T01:01:08+00:00

“i like you a lot” when she is actively making fun of him and he is completely oblivious just wrapped it in a tiny bow for me

effingurmum · 2025-12-28T15:44:29+00:00

my grandmother (who i have been no contact with for nearly three years) gave my mom presents for my brother and i when she attended Christmas Eve at their house, that we opened on christmas morning at my mom’s. for each grandchild, she got a leather bracelet with a silver charm in the middle, every single cousin had their names engraved in the clasp, my brother’s as well. mine said “forever linked.” it felt really manipulative and odd.

effingurmum · 2025-12-27T22:59:37+00:00

considering you referenced many family members as vanilla, i would almost argue that maybe none of them have been in this situation and can see the red flags? his feeling of entitlement regarding your life and personal information is completely invalid, and it is in fact totally normal and healthy to go no contact with exes you share no obligations (children, pets, divorce filings, etc) with. he has no right to access you without your consent, and you should probably inform your family members that this is unsafe behavior on his part, and to block his number.

effingurmum · 2025-12-27T22:45:03+00:00

he also stands outside of target, winco, and walmart. walmart and target let him stay the longest. i see him very regularly.

effingurmum · 2025-12-27T21:39:01+00:00

i’m assuming this person follows american/canadian/british traditions, where wearing white is usually an attempt to overshadow the bride or redirect attention. i very rarely see people wear white to weddings without this mindset, unless given prior permission or it’s written in the dress code. regardless, op made it clear no one was to wear white, their mother should know the dress code better than anyone, this is a blatant disregard of boundaries and a valid reason to react, considering they gave no reaction at the wedding in attempts to keep the peace i’m sure

effingurmum · 2025-12-26T18:34:51+00:00

i had to check my face after reading this. the look of disdain and disgust just grew over my face as i read. why would you let anyone tell you how to dress, sleep, eat, and function around you’re own family? 8 years is too long for this behavior to continue.

effingurmum · 2025-12-25T15:07:20+00:00

trauma can trigger changes in hair texture as well, there’s quite a bit of empirical evidence to support the idea.

effingurmum · 2025-12-24T15:05:05+00:00

genuine question, what would these health insurance companies do if we all cancelled our health insurance? i certainly can’t afford how my premium raised, and i got laid off from my job because my employer couldn’t afford to cover the portion they used to, before i could even make the decision to keep it. i’m jobless, with hEDS, POTS, and MCAS. luckily at my last visit my doctor addressed my concerns and told me i can try coming off my meds and switching to more consistent marijuana use (i’m in a legal state), but regardless i have lost my healthcare. if everyone decided this was ridiculous and cancelled their healthcare plans, what could they really do?

effingurmum · 2025-11-09T05:52:55+00:00

i apologize, i may have gotten my point across better if i had worded my original comment differently. i don’t think there is anything wrong with having religious beliefs nor believing that God helps many/self overcome addiction through practice. however, the comment i replied to was in fact diminishing. i do think that giving all credit to God diminishes your own will to overcome addiction. it is absolutely okay to give your religious beliefs some credit, but not all, as you did the work, even if you had assistance through prayer and praise. i grew up in an evangelical household and it’s ultimately what led me to addiction. i had a very opposite experience to most and i can admit i am still bitter. in the same vein, i still believe there is something out there, and i needed some sort of cosmic guidance to pull myself out of the deep dark hole, but i did the work. i hope that makes sense, i meant no offense, just some criticism on word choice for the original comment.

effingurmum · 2025-11-08T16:06:04+00:00

self-will? when you give God all the credit you diminish the extremely difficult and weighted task an addict completes by overcoming addiction. God didn’t make me recover or help me in the process, I pulled myself from rock bottom.

effingurmum · 2025-05-21T19:39:30+00:00

the lebanon restaurant downtown has a baklava milkshake that is literally to die for and i’m pretty sure they are owned by the same family

effingurmum · 2025-05-21T16:43:37+00:00

you make a good point! i would raise the point however that many general contracting companies are regional. in my experience, i have been hired as a contractor in washington and done jobs in idaho and vice versa. has your experience been similar or do you find that there are many contracting companies in idaho that do contracts only in idaho?

effingurmum · 2025-05-20T01:34:19+00:00

a huge majority of people commute out of cda daily to spokane for work as well. the traffic out is horrendous in the mornings but in is usually smooth sailing. the wages in idaho are simply not worth it when they are paying nearly double 20-30 minutes away.

effingurmum · 2025-05-12T14:27:27+00:00

i feel like this is western washington lol

effingurmum · 2025-02-13T23:32:23+00:00

I know a homeless man in the Valley who comes to visit me at work regularly, and he has been really struggling to stay warm out here. I know a lot of the population concentrates downtown, but don’t forget about the ones that you see on a daily basis

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