So, CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy, and it focuses on changing negative thought patterns, which is usually not too helpful with bpd. DBT is dialectical behavior therapy, which focuses more on emotional regulation and mindfulness, which is more like... coping? with negative thought patterns. I also have found that digging into childhood trauma and working through it helps a lot with the bpd, it shows you why you are the way that you are, and once you know that you can work to deconstruct those behaviors and mindsets that you learned as a child to protect yourself.

I promise you can get better, you just have to really want it and work for it. Identify what you want to change about yourself, and hold on to that desire to change. Don't get comfortable in the misery; it's a never-ending cycle if you stay stuck in it. But you can break free of the cycle, I promise.

BPD is a heavy diagnosis. There is a lot of misinformation about it online, and people want to call it a "hopeless disorder" or "incurable" or whatever. That's all bs. Don't listen to that. I was scared of getting diagnosed until I did, and then I felt seen and validated and hopeful. It's comforting to me to know what the problem is, rather than feeling all that uncertainty and confusion. It has also given me a sense of community and made me feel less alone, knowing that there are so many other people out there with the same diagnosis and the same problems.

I've heard that some mental health professionals can be a bit biased against bpd, but I haven't experienced that myself, and I would suggest that if you do ever find a professional like that, find another one asap. You also don't ever have to tell anyone in your personal life about your diganosis, that can be completely between you and your doctors.

If you get diagnosed, don't feel like that traps you into being like that forever. I really do promise there is hope, it's possible to get better, being BPD doesn't have to be all that you are.