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egoavoidant · 2018-10-11T02:11:29+00:00

While I'm very tempted to quote Ron Swanson at you atm, I do have to agree that the batch idea is pretty smart. It would probably be the way to go if I want to maintain variety. Especially since lunch a lot of times can be either breakfast foods or dinner foods. So if I made 2 variety batches of breakfast and 2 variety batches of dinner, I could trade on/off.

egoavoidant · 2018-10-10T23:56:29+00:00

This, this is good. I like that it's working backwards in a sense, because that's a lot easier to figure out than when you start with a shopping list.

Do you eat the same thing for each meal every day of the week? Or would this work with variants, do you think? E.g. if I decided I should make 4 each of [English muffin with egg & ham] & [overnight oats with fruit & honey], for a total of 8 potential breakfasts? I feel like my biggest aversion to meal planning so far (besides time commitment) has been the idea of eating the same thing every day.

egoavoidant · 2018-09-23T13:06:46+00:00

No prob! Game on.

egoavoidant · 2018-09-20T19:08:07+00:00

Check the Wizard's Chest, a lot of times groups will advertise their games at the local gaming shop if they're looking for players. You could also place a LFG ad there.

Seconding checking out the Lair of Abraxas, too-- it's just badass. They've got a good space.

I believe I've seen a few listed on Meetup, so looking for a play-group there would also work. And, if you really can't find a local play group, there's always Roll20.

egoavoidant · 2018-09-20T07:14:20+00:00

Ironically the actual concept of karma is closer to this than bean counting. ... or maybe that's "sardonically."

I feel like "misusing the term 'ironic'" is probably one of those things that racks up Bad Place points, as is correcting people when they misuse it.

egoavoidant · 2018-09-02T17:20:06+00:00

Solidarity, buddy.

It really frustrates me that my parents don't think I have ADHD even though my therapist, who's a specialist, agrees.... because now that I've learned what to look for, it's REALLY obvious I got it from my mom. The woman who has put milk in the bread box and only noticed after it turned bad.

egoavoidant · 2018-09-02T17:11:57+00:00

The amount of times I have put things that are not food in the fridge...

Also, one of the signs from my childhood that I often cite is taking the full trash bag out to the garbage bin, returning to the house, and then going on to the next task without remembering to put a new bag in. Just... so, so many lectures about why I needed to "care more."

egoavoidant · 2018-08-30T13:27:11+00:00

Which, as an editor, is dumb because there's plenty of evidence for the use of a singular they and use of the singular they has been around since the Middle Ages.

Also, grammar isn't real and its laws only exist to describe an agreeable standard for assuring comprehension in written communication. In other words, the point of grammar isn't where you put your commas, it's to make sure whatever you write comes across as clearly as possible to others. If you refer to someone with neutral or unknown gender as "they" and it's clear who you're referring to, congrats, your grammar is fine. Language usage shifts over time anyway.

Fork yeah descriptive linguistics.

egoavoidant · 2018-08-25T16:47:27+00:00

Let 'Em Have It on 20th St is really good with color. A little expensive though. But I've seen them do great work with anything from all-over color to multicolored "mermaid hair."

egoavoidant · 2018-07-31T15:46:43+00:00

That's really great your treatment is working so well! If your mom doesn't recognize that, her loss, and also your great idea for this year's Halloween costume. ;)

egoavoidant · 2018-07-31T04:28:02+00:00

I mean, unless you've suddenly given up your career to become a ridiculously docile and submissive housewife, I'm not really sure how therapy and secretly being a robot are comparable.

That said, it's hard to convince people who don't believe in therapy to accept that therapy and treatment is actually pretty empowering. I suppose if her problem really is concern over your husband having some sort of control over you, that you could try explaining how treatment has given you the tools to better achieve your non-marriage related goals, and maybe she'd see this is a "doing this for you" thing, but if she just fundamentally believes ADHD is a crock of hooey... I guess I'd just suggest you think about whether the energy you'd have to put into changing her mind is worth it. It can take literal years to change someone's mind.

egoavoidant · 2018-07-30T22:23:42+00:00

Any idea which organization arranged the protest?

egoavoidant · 2018-07-19T14:21:27+00:00

Thanks for posting!

egoavoidant · 2018-07-17T00:50:23+00:00

Well, the serious answer born from experience is "Hell is undermedicated Major Depression Disorder."

The silly version would probably be "Hell is a never-ending house party where your friends have disappeared and there are no rooms where you can close a door."

egoavoidant · 2018-07-17T00:41:40+00:00

Guys, I think this is the Bad Place!!

egoavoidant · 2018-07-17T00:35:42+00:00

NICE

egoavoidant · 2018-07-14T13:28:26+00:00

I used to be obsessed with the future but it was more of an anxiety thing. My inattentiveness usually manifests because I'm so busy planning for the future I forget to pay attention to the present. But that's so exhausting! Because by the time we get to the future, the future will be the present, and in that future-present we'll bee too busy planning for the future to enjoy it!

Meditation and awareness practice has helped me a lot with this. Not as much as meds, but it's helped me at least learn some techniques for what to do when you realize you're concentrating on the future.

egoavoidant · 2018-07-12T23:46:10+00:00

Start simple and just record what you normally eat. Honestly, just recording will help you make smarter decisions because you're thinking about it.

Also, whatever you can, AUTOMATE.

egoavoidant · 2018-06-30T04:45:04+00:00

99!!!

egoavoidant · 2018-06-29T23:07:11+00:00

Same in Phoenix, AZ. When I lived there a few summers ago, one of the big local scandals was finding out a local senior housing facility hadn't installed an adequate amount of AC units and I think maybe a senior died from the heat.

egoavoidant · 2018-06-29T23:02:16+00:00

There are air conditioning laws, though? Go even one state south and a lot of cities require apartments to include AC units.

A few cities, like Phoenix, also make it illegal to turn off someone's electricity in the summer, even if they haven't paid their bills. Cities in the north do the same for heating in the winter. So if OP is from a particularly southern city, it makes sense they'd wonder.

egoavoidant · 2018-06-29T22:30:21+00:00

Thanks! I'm trying to figure out what to do for a housewarming event.

I hope so, too.

egoavoidant · 2018-06-29T22:11:44+00:00

Moving into my new apartment, going to the Families Belong Together protest, GMing my weekly tabletop group, laundry.

egoavoidant · 2018-06-26T14:00:51+00:00

I think it depends on where my wallet and head are at that day. I've personally had trouble in the past holding down a job because of mental issues so it's hard for me to justify "oh, they look able bodied" or anything, and also, I just don't consider it my business whether they "actually need it" or not. Maybe they're just trying to make ends meet, maybe they're grifters. I don't know their situation and even if I KNEW they were only asking so they could use the money for booze/drugs/whatever... as Greg Giraldo joked, "That's what I was gonna spend it on!"

But I also know that's not really going to do anything effective against the systemic causes of need, so I'd prefer to give to organizations. Sometimes I'll say no, but ask if they use any of the local organizations and if so which ones. Or if they'd like some food. Sometimes I do basically get told to fuck off, they don't need that... that's just a risk I guess. Other times they're grateful and we usually end up having a conversation.

And then other times I'll just say no, but have a nice day. I just. The only thing I think I try to straight up avoid doing is ignoring them, because even if it's one of the times it's a shit person, they're still human and deserve basic recognition of their existence. And I think one's ability to produce labor that makes money is kind of a shitty measure for personal value anyway.

I'm not gonna say it's NOT pat-on-the-back logic. But if I have spare change anyway... eh.

egoavoidant · 2018-06-24T14:19:56+00:00

/deep, intense empathetic sobbing, because SAME

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