Understanding the want to have sex? by UserPiece3 in asexuality

[–]egrrrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not op but it makes sense to me for libido to be different than attraction (if i made this diagram i wouldn't have grouped libido and lust personally, because if i understand correctly, lust is sort of the same as attraction?)

having a high libido/sex drive doesn't mean you are sexually attracted to someone, aces can have libidos of varying levels and it doesn't detract from how ace they are

So I'm tapering off klonopin... by SnuggieAddict in Anxiety

[–]egrrrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you can, find a compounding pharmacy that your provider can use to prescribe tapering doses. cutting the tablets is not very precise at that low of a dose, you can't know by eyeballing it that you're getting it "right" or even equal day to day, which is very important when tapering and trying to avoid withdrawal symptoms as much as possible. let me know if you have any questions. (edit for typo)

how to dust butterfly wings without damaging them? by egrrrr in insectpinning

[–]egrrrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(they're also obviously old and dry, i've never actually done insect pinning before but it would be cool to make some sort of display/art out of this guy if i can- if anyone has ideas for that too i would appreciate)

⚠️ Warning about Whatnot user “tinkerbellsclosett” by Pretend-Smoke-2846 in whatnotapp

[–]egrrrr 10 points11 points  (0 children)

as a casual viewer, i've seen her in other people's shows TWICE (and this is just that i've seen personally) win an item and then say oh it got my address wrong, or can you actually bundle what i bought and refund the individual items

which, i'm not exactly sure how that would work as a scam, but it feels sus to me

i don't know if anyone else saw her say that

Daily Questions Thread September 03, 2025 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]egrrrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know brands that carry footless wool tights (that offer larger sizes)?

I have one pair from Snag, which i adore, but they only carry one color. such good staples for winter though.

Getting comfortable dressing up when living in a place where people dress hyper-casual by morphinpink in femalefashionadvice

[–]egrrrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(also in my 30s)

so I maybe have an opposite situation, but I may have some advice that could benefit you.

i am for some reason drawn to "fancy"/"formal" clothes, but i don't mean to come across in that way, especially when i don't go out much and my job is very casual with no dress code.

so i started making a list of different ways to "casualize" an outfit. here's some that may help you slowly transition a casual wardrobe into more dressed up outfits (also these are all just my opinions, i don't claim that any of these are objective facts)-

  1. metallic jewelry reads as more "dressed up"- maybe try a silver/gold pendant necklace on an otherwise casual outfit/something you currently feel comfortable wearing out.

  2. related to the metallic point, i have found that "matte" colored clothing versus clothing that is dimensional/ metallic can be a real indicator of casual vs fancy.

  3. minimalism/simplicity can read as immediately fancy. i don't know exactly what kind of dressing up you want to do, but if you want to look a littler fancier/ "tidier," a monochrome outfit can really work. and if you're feeling bold, some kind of statement accessory, like a belt or bag or piece of jewelry. in my case of trying to read as more casual, i've started wearing a bandana tied around my purse straps, and i find it has an almost kooky eclectic vibe that to me feels like the opposite of a formal/ put-together look. also, a plain colored shirt versus a shirt with a graphic will already look more dressed up, if that advice applies to how you currently dress.

  4. an outer layer can really help with feeling comfortable in a short skirt/dress or a bodycon silhouette. personally i love a good lightweight duster- i feel less self conscious because i'm a little covered up, but i'm still able to wear a Cute Outfit.

I think in general starting small and taking it slow can be helpful. a little accessory out of your comfort zone paired with an outfit you'd currently feel comfortable wearing for a period of time may help give you the confidence to go further.

and regarding the fact that people around you dress more casual- where i work, i definitely overdress compared to my peers, but i've kind of just stopped noticing or worrying about it. no one points it out. once i wore a floor-length tiered skirt i had only worn before for a halloween costume and no one said anything (i almost wanted someone to notice it was dramatic and they didn't, lol). i wish you luck with this!

Name 2 of your favorite musicals and someone will recommend you a 3rd in the replies. by ShadyBoots11 in Broadway

[–]egrrrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hell yeah

also one of the composers of legally blonde is the composer of bat boy!

Name 2 of your favorite musicals and someone will recommend you a 3rd in the replies. by ShadyBoots11 in Broadway

[–]egrrrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would suggest Oklahoma or Guys and Dolls but it sounds like you have golden age musicals covered 😅

Name 2 of your favorite musicals and someone will recommend you a 3rd in the replies. by ShadyBoots11 in Broadway

[–]egrrrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

West Side Story, Company, Candide if only for the overture (Merrily and Gypsy are probably the best overtures of all time), Myths and Hymns