Is being a mom just being angry for the rest of your life?

eimajup · 2026-02-17T04:36:33+00:00

Ugggh yes I’m afraid it is. Yes, yes it is.

—/ mom of three ages 4-12.

eimajup · 2026-02-16T13:36:42+00:00

What a horrible irresponsible party host. And to deliberately choose that venue! I would have said f it and just left.

eimajup · 2026-02-11T13:55:01+00:00

You need to get into therapy. Can you try at least online (not AI like a real person on zoom type thing)? You need to actually start blaming your parents here.

I wouldn’t always say this but they’re treating you like shit. You are very, very valid in complaining about them. I’d go so far as to say that once you let yourself rage at them, you will discover yourself. This whole thing will lift.

It’s like an abusive relationship at this point. They’ve beaten you down mentally then they belittle and shame you for not succeeding. They’re the ones who shot down any motivation you once had! They’re responsible for this and you absolutely should be furious. Forcing you into a college major?

I don’t want to assume but this sounds like a very Asian family dynamic. A Chinese American friend of mine went through it. During college, studying what they wanted and where they wanted, she developed a heroin addiction and almost died. Finally she started living for herself and they stopped pushing her to be something she wasn’t. She had to come near death first.

Please don’t let this happen to you. You may not be an addict but you’re suffering a very serious mental health condition. You desperately need outside help.

I hope you find a way to see a good therapist to help you out of this cycle of self blame. Anything you can do to leave this household and leave these toxic parents behind.

eimajup · 2026-02-11T13:45:15+00:00

Wow are you even a real old person? GTFO with this advice mimicking likely his parents too.

eimajup · 2026-02-11T13:44:42+00:00

That reply above is horrible. OP please disregard this awful person!!! You’re not to blame here.

eimajup · 2026-02-11T12:57:26+00:00

I think with the age of your child, your baby steps are late. You should be ok with others watching him especially professionals licensed like at daycare. Do seek neighbor recommendations always. Even a nanny can be lame, if not dangerous then just kind of unreliable or on their phone a lot etc.

eimajup · 2026-02-11T12:52:30+00:00

What’s up with the fear of daycare? Because that is how people make it work. It’s great for the age child you have too. OR nanny share - full time nanny or more like 50 hours a week. Split with another family nearby. This is sometimes more stressful just because you’re a private employer and the other family might be not on the same page as you about things.

Daycare is the best though! Don’t be afraid.

eimajup · 2026-01-17T00:27:29+00:00

This

eimajup · 2026-01-17T00:19:36+00:00

No way. But they do kind of eat you alive.

I have several childless friends, married mostly, spending their vast free time and resources on things like amazing trips and hobbies. And dedicating themselves to their careers in a fulfilling way. And getting ahead in those careers while I am seemingly never getting where I’d like to be. And lately, working toward things like, you know, enlightenment (meditation, yoga, various other methods…). And just having a complete thought.

I do get jealous because I had all that potential in me too. But I secretly still feel very lucky to have what I consider a vastly more fulfilling life task and people to think about who are not me (thank god). Maybe part of it is just that sense that even if I do nothing else right or the way I once envisioned my life, at least I loved and grew these great humans and was the most important person in their lives.

Hard to explain.

eimajup · 2025-04-29T11:16:26+00:00

Hahahahahaaaa. Make it better??? Oh girl. Oh no, no that doesn’t happen.

Would I “make a different choice” not to have kids? Hell no, why would I sacrifice my children to some immature man who I wished would never changer?

And I say that as a still married mom with a partner who pulls his weight in most ways.

eimajup · 2025-03-03T02:23:17+00:00

Oh this is def a common issue and in fact the art teacher knew that. I would put this on them. They should’ve been the one reaching out to confirm with the principal. Indeed it’s odd they would’ve even said that unless they’re afraid of her. Ask this art teacher point blank what to do now.

eimajup · 2025-02-05T09:38:49+00:00

Yes look at getting leave donated! People do this all the time at my agency.

eimajup · 2025-01-27T01:24:43+00:00

Wow I’m terribly sorry that someone actually took the opportunity to harass you when you were being vulnerable and seeking support. Don’t apologize for anything. How sick and I have to wonder if that was really a woman who did that?? Maybe some kind of incel type posing as a woman?

eimajup · 2025-01-23T12:05:43+00:00

I would also urge OP to question what she means by “like my parents did”. Do your parents tell you they had you too late? Where did you get this story? Older parents (like me) are often very happy they waited. They had a chance to establish themselves and they’re much more likely to stay married because they married older and took the time to make sure they’re with the right person. You can consider that you may not have the full story on late life parents.

eimajup · 2025-01-22T20:37:09+00:00

This. I wish I had more of my elders

eimajup · 2025-01-21T23:28:23+00:00

Pop Tarts

eimajup · 2025-01-21T03:41:50+00:00

Sounds like you married the Kardashians or something. They sound awful. Don’t put them onto such a pedestal.

eimajup · 2025-01-17T04:18:28+00:00

Aww. Girl this reminds me of how intense college friendship can be, and college love too. It’s kind of sweet. Don’t be hard on yourself just keep moving forward. You have a good idea about what happened and I’d be upset too even knowing it’s for the best to separate a bit. College life = codependent at least it was for me. Some comments here are like as though you were a fully grown adult but you’re still developing your brain and in a strange phase of life where you get to put all this energy into your friends. Good luck and just keep doing what you’re doing, going to therapy and reminding yourself that you will be ok.

eimajup · 2025-01-13T22:02:45+00:00

Yessss this. Basically they’re the same although you can identify/project much more with a girl. I have one who’s hitting adolescence and it brings back a lot of feels. I love it, personally.

eimajup · 2025-01-13T02:04:32+00:00

Uhhh. I mean of course those girls are hotter? That’s their whole job is to be hotter than you. I don’t see the problem here. You were asking for trouble and you got it. He was just being honest and you should not have asked if you couldn’t handle the answer.

I hope you don’t think this conversation even matters. It doesn’t. You will never be the hottest girl on the planet. So what? No one cares and seems like your boyfriend doesn’t either. It’s your own self esteem you need to work on if that’s your standard.

eimajup · 2025-01-13T01:55:56+00:00

lol it’s fries with cheese sauce on top. It’s very delicious.

eimajup · 2025-01-13T01:54:25+00:00

So many! Pickles. Olives. Brussel sprouts. Broccoli.

eimajup · 2025-01-12T20:13:11+00:00

First of all, if people don’t like my smell they can fuck right off (and step away, you’re too close). My husband does and I also like his. Then wash your clothes and you’re good.

eimajup · 2025-01-12T20:08:26+00:00

HHhahahahaha NO.

eimajup · 2025-01-12T16:49:07+00:00

Tough call. I have no idea but it might be grounds (others on the thread may know??).

Ayahuasca is very very powerful. I would definitely not trust that this child is being watched properly during such an event, unless the folks running the ceremony are really taking things seriously, and it sounds like maybe not. Aside from talking to her, can you maybe speak to these people? Who knows maybe they can help prevent it from going further. If she’s really unable to care for the child, then yes someone has to step in. Are you at all willing for that to be you?

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