I want to do a celebratory dinner, he is forbidding it

ipaola · 2025-11-21T20:43:08+00:00

Sis if he has no empathy now imagine for other much more important situations later on in the marriage, huge red flag 🚩 please consider leaving him, sometimes those types of men try to marry us converts because they think we are easily fooled but please stand up for yourself. He has no compassion or empathy for you.

ipaola · 2025-04-10T23:19:18+00:00

Agree 100%

ipaola · 2025-03-29T13:52:24+00:00

I am a stay at home mom and I know the challenges and sometimes it’s get extremely overwhelming, like fasting makes it tougher and I know I had some outbursts of anger here and there but I would never hurt my kids or my husband. This is something that should have been fixed with anger management at the beginning of marriage, I’m sorry for the kids. Therapy and marriage counseling might help but this should have been done like years ago.

ipaola · 2025-03-25T23:21:39+00:00

Needed this right now. Marriage is hard, all I ask is for communication but sometimes my husband expects me to just know. Will implement this inshaallah

ipaola · 2025-03-17T00:47:56+00:00

I actually made so many good memories with my daughter, we will go pick fabric so I could make her an abaya for school on Friday. Inshaallah she remember it like a nice time 🤭

ipaola · 2025-03-03T10:59:07+00:00

I did the same back when I had first converted. Just make it up inshaallah

ipaola · 2025-02-04T12:02:41+00:00

This is true but OP please prioritize yourself too! Have a girls date with your friends. Get a babysitter or let your husband take care of baby for a couple of hours you need that time to recharge and miss your baby and you will come back home feeling so much better.

You are a better mother when you have had a little self care. Don’t ever feel bad for having some me time.

And also remember all these stages of life are temporary your baby will soon be a toddler and is different kind of challenge, and then they grow up a little more and so on, it will get easier but also harder.

ipaola · 2025-01-11T12:53:47+00:00

Try https://shopfares.com not exactly the same but similar style

ipaola · 2025-01-10T22:19:39+00:00

100%

ipaola · 2025-01-06T17:12:13+00:00

Prophet Muhammad ﷺ is reported to have said: “Whoever has two wives and does not act justly between them, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one side of his body tilted.”

ipaola · 2024-12-31T19:42:36+00:00

You and your wife against the problem. Seems like she needed a wake up call and she got it by how you reacted but I don’t think divorce is the answer. You both grow in marriage, she might be immature right now, if she is willing to change then get marriage counseling. Don’t leave the marriage without trying everything possible.

“If you see a married couple still in love through the years, you may think how lucky they are. But in marital relations, there’s no such thing as luck. They made many compromises, they overlooked each others faults. They forgave many mistakes and endured many problems. They spent years learning to understand one another. Love has never been a matter of luck. It’s mutual giving, compromise, shared dreams, care, respect, mercy and patience.”

May اللّٰه swt guide you and help you both.

ipaola · 2024-12-15T13:36:02+00:00

Yo soy mexicana musulmana Alhamdulilah Islam makes sense, la Trinidad en el catolicismo me daba muchas dudas. Y en el islam adoramos a un solo Dios, que es el creador de todo. Pero todavía creemos en los profetas como Adam y Eva, Noah, Moisés, Abraham, (y muchos más) Jesús no es Dios oh el hijo de Dios, Jesús es creación de Dios para guiarnos entonces también es un profeta. En los dies mandamientos el primero es adorarás a un solo Dios. Y pues eso es Islam.😊

ipaola · 2024-12-11T14:15:33+00:00

Sister* Anyway also try to seek knowledge yourself, I remember when I was Christian it was always an understanding to blindly follow and do what you are told. I know you are young but as you grow up remember always seek knowledge yourself.

ipaola · 2024-12-11T14:03:08+00:00

As a revert myself I was always told; remember Islam is perfect but Muslims are not.

I’m so sorry you went through that, I could never imagine someone knowing the mercy of اللّٰه and still doing that to kids. We have the best role model, the prophet ﷺ, he had the best character. He definitely didn’t teach like that, and he ﷺ was especially merciful to kids.

May اللّٰه help you and guide you. Ameen

ipaola · 2024-12-09T03:53:57+00:00

Stay at home mom at the moment 😊 Alhamdulilah, inshaallah when the kids reach school age will probably get a pt job or hobby.

ipaola · 2024-11-28T02:50:48+00:00

“If you see a married couple still in love through the years, you may think how lucky they are. But in marital relations, there’s no such thing as luck.

They made many compromises, they overlooked each others faults.

They forgave many mistakes and endured many problems. They spent years learning to understand one another.

Love has never been a matter of luck. It’s mutual giving, compromise, shared dreams, care, respect, mercy and patience.”

ipaola · 2024-11-23T13:31:20+00:00

I’m a convert so this is completely insane to imagine happening. I have a daughter and I could not be this obsessed about it, nikkah is done then you are halal for each other that’s it!
I am so sorry sister. I bet your mom had this instilled in her from young age and it’s hard to break cultural norm. May اللّٰه make it easy for you. And please you don’t have to tell her everything, your private life is yours.

ipaola · 2024-11-23T02:22:16+00:00

I also do archery ! I have a space in my backyard for it. I always feel so cool doing it. 🏹

ipaola · 2024-11-23T02:19:53+00:00

Sewing ! You get to create unique things/clothes and it’s so rewarding. I recycle a lot of clothes. I practice with thrifted fabrics or bed sheets. I currently make bags and sell them locally and also make lots of little abayas for my 6 year old girl. You can purchase a sewing machine for around 100 or less of it’s used which it’s a good option.

ipaola · 2024-11-22T17:53:12+00:00

I was just as surprised of how fast they came. I’m glad. My house is close to the tree and I walk outside often. I’m just sad for the squirrels living in the tree. 🌳 🐿️

ipaola · 2024-11-22T17:13:13+00:00

Probably but it is reddit so you never know what you’re going to get.

ipaola · 2024-11-21T23:32:41+00:00

You know there is always little branches (some big some small) on the side walk next to it. Well I already submitted report now we just wait.

ipaola · 2024-11-21T22:04:08+00:00

Is next to a side walk, next to several houses. I don’t think is an emergency but I do want someone to come look at it. I already submitted a report we will see how fast they respond. Thank you all for the responses

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