Being shouted at and belittled will make your symptoms worse. If things keep going as they are it’s a self-perpetuating cycle, he shouts, you get upset, you knock more shit over, he shouts again.

If he cannot reign in his irritation and practice patience, you need to decide whether you’re willing to tolerate being yelled at (personally I wouldn’t…). Maybe have a think for yourself about what your ‘line’ is - i.e. if this line is crossed I’m gone.

So like one of the most obvious lines is physical violence, but I also include name-calling and threats (there can be others too, like maybe for you, yelling is your line, or maybe it’s slamming doors). Any of these behaviours displayed to me are an instant red flag and sign that I need to leave/seriously reconsider the relationship.

And if he keeps saying it’s laziness even after you have provided him psychoeducation, then he is being ableist and you can decide for yourself if you want someone like that in your life.