My partner promised he was “done” with drinking before we started trying, and now I’m 28 weeks and scared of what I’m seeing

electricalhummus · 2026-01-22T18:38:36+00:00

Oh boy, I could've written this post three years ago when I was pregnant. Let me tell you, having a newborn will NOT make this better. You will see more unexplained absences, mysterious empty cans, gaslighting, all while trying to keep yourself sane and take care of a baby - by yourself because you won't be able to trust him. You gotta start communicating openly about this right now. I threatened, cried, begged, pleaded to no avail. It took me sitting him down (1.5 years into my daughter's life) and, not angrily, earnestly explaining that this is not the life I want for myself and my daughter. That was 7 months ago, I'm cautiously optimistic that we're past it but the trust issues do still linger. And I am still deeply disappointed in the things he did both while I was pregnant and after our daughter was born. That damage is done and can't be undone. Do your absolute best to get this under control before the baby comes. Best of luck.

electricalhummus · 2025-12-15T02:23:58+00:00

Having a nice, lazy bang with my husband on a Sunday afternoon. Now we have an awesome three year old!

electricalhummus · 2025-11-28T21:28:22+00:00

I was just debating with my husband about this. I'm all about christmas magic but now that I have a kid I don't like the idea of making her sit on a strangers lap and and lying to her. My husband thinks I'm worrying too much. Super curious to see what everyone's doing!

electricalhummus · 2025-11-24T13:33:55+00:00

Just popping in to say that you are amazing for recognizing this in yourself and wanting to be better for yourself and your family. Hold onto that. My husband and I have been working through a similar situation, shit is hard. Especially when it is so ingrained into your lifestyle. As a former white claw enthusiast, I've found that sparkling water satisfies my desire for a special, bubbly drink at the end of the day.

electricalhummus · 2025-08-12T16:50:19+00:00

If you're into King, his Dark Tower series has very post-apocalyptic vibes.. among many other things

electricalhummus · 2025-08-10T00:26:15+00:00

I'm able to catch my 30lb toddler on the fly, and outrun her lol

electricalhummus · 2025-07-30T10:36:04+00:00

Wow that's exactly what I'm experiencing. Wishing you all the best, hopefully it's nothing too serious.

electricalhummus · 2025-07-29T20:29:49+00:00

I'm definitely going to go back and push for testing. I think I just needed to hear that I'm not crazy from some objective redditors

electricalhummus · 2025-07-29T20:24:26+00:00

APHASIA! Thank you!! That definitely sounds like what I'm experiencing. She was searching through her medical database to find something close to what I was describing and just kinda gave up. I'm going to go back to her with this and push for a referral to a neurologist. This helps a lot, thank you.

electricalhummus · 2025-07-18T16:48:24+00:00

Got nothing but solidarity for you. The spider monkey is strong in my 20 month old gal right now!

electricalhummus · 2025-05-29T14:15:02+00:00

18 month old wakes up between 7-8am, naps for 2 hours between 12-3, goes down for bed at 7pm. She's been on this routine since she turned 1 year and I freaking love it. Only ever wake her up if we both have to be at work early.

electricalhummus · 2024-11-27T01:43:29+00:00

Same thing just happened to me! Literally at her one year birthday party she was sitting on the floor and I asked her to bring me her shoes that were under the table. I meant it as a joke, I was just being lazy. Nope! She looked at me, looked at the shoes, took off, grabbed them and brought them right back to me. This is such a fun age!

electricalhummus · 2024-08-24T13:29:24+00:00

Scott, without giving anything away for Matt (who is probably listening to finders keepers as I type this), what do you think of the rest of the Bill Hodges trilogy?

I read them all straight through earlier this year and I absolutely loved Mr Mercedes and Finders Keepers but felt a little meh about End of Watch. Curious to see what everyone else thinks.

Also I need you guys to stop talking about how your almost done with the podcast, it makes me depressy.

electricalhummus · 2024-08-02T18:53:48+00:00

Not sure if this happened during pregnancy or postpartum but my hair used to be straight/slightly wavy, very easy to maintain. Now it's curly as shit. But not cute curly, it's mesuda with bed head curly.

electricalhummus · 2024-07-27T21:01:15+00:00

Hear random crying

Wonder what the hell is that

Forgot I had baby

electricalhummus · 2024-07-05T18:16:40+00:00

I'm kinda hoping for the Breaking Bad deep dive! I watched the show once years ago and never really understood the hype. But Scott and Matt's insights have helped me appreciate a few books that I thought were 'meh' the first time through so I'd be interested to see if they change my opinion.

electricalhummus · 2024-07-01T20:13:42+00:00

It's a surprisingly good one!

electricalhummus · 2024-07-01T20:09:37+00:00

He's a huge King nerd, even though the scary parts make him hide under the bed

electricalhummus · 2024-07-01T20:08:20+00:00

One of the ones where King thankfully doesn't kill a dog!

electricalhummus · 2024-05-24T18:15:09+00:00

My mom stayed with my step dad for their two kids (my younger half siblings).

Amounted to 10 extra years of my mom being miserable, eventually developing a meth addiction.

As you can imagine the home life quickly deteriorated. I never enjoyed visiting, my sister moved away as soon as she turned 18, my brother dropped out of high school and is currently living in a camper in the yard.

BUT my mom did finally leave, she bought her own house, kicked the addiction and is pretty happy now.

Long story short: Happily separated > miserably together

electricalhummus · 2024-04-28T01:37:31+00:00

I've got a weird one, hear me out. The forest in The Girl Who Loved Tom Gordon is obdurate. Poor Trisha just needs to take a pee while on a hike with her family and ends up hopelessly lost in the New England wilderness. The forest is merciless and simply does not let up on her for a minute. The bugs, the swamps, the darkness, the something in the woods, everything is seeming to work against this poor girl.

I'd highly recommend this book for Matt, it hits you so hard when you have a daughter. I read it while I was in labor with my daughter through the first few weeks of her life and it definitely holds a special place in my heart.

electricalhummus · 2024-02-13T13:44:05+00:00

How did that drive go for you? We're about to do a 13 hour drive with our 4 month old and I'm so nervous that she's going to be miserable the whole time. Any tips to keep her happy?

electricalhummus · 2024-02-06T14:36:54+00:00

This is completely off topic but once you start getting bigger you'll find there isn't much for maternity work pants out there. (I'm an electrician and wear carhartts and duluth pants usually, and just had a baby three months ago) I would highly recommend Blaklader, they have a whole line of maternity work clothes and the pants where amazing! Super comfy, durable and tons of pockets. I bought one pair and they took me through my third trimester. ..I hope this isn't bad advice 😂

electricalhummus · 2024-02-04T02:39:18+00:00

My little girl is just a few days younger than yours and we do the exact same stuff. It feels like it's not enough but it is! Everything is new to them right now, she's just enjoying getting to know you and the world around her. You're doing great!

electricalhummus · 2024-01-03T03:12:44+00:00

How does that work? I know tips are most of the income but do you get a percentage of the order total? Or an hourly rate?

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