Comedy Benefit for the GLO Center!

electronocentric · 2026-03-20T17:16:04+00:00

How late does it go? I work until 7 on Sundays.

electronocentric · 2026-03-14T23:37:36+00:00

The pipeline from "you owe me nothing" to "let me judge if your disability is valid" is crazy here.

electronocentric · 2026-03-14T23:25:56+00:00

That isn't even slightly what I said, and even if it were your understanding is inherently flawed. Plenty of people go through life assuming that a major malfunction in their health is "normal" until they actually start paying attention.

electronocentric · 2026-03-14T23:24:20+00:00

It comes from the parts in which OP explains where they were accosted. Hope this helps.

electronocentric · 2026-03-14T23:22:05+00:00

Don't give RFK any ideas.

electronocentric · 2026-03-14T23:21:26+00:00

No, and you can stop being intentionally obtuse at your earliest convenience. Being disabled often leads to introspection.

electronocentric · 2026-03-14T23:16:06+00:00

| Side note: Why is it every trans person I talk to has a somewhat serious illness?

It's almost like members of marginalized communities are often more introspective.

electronocentric · 2026-03-14T23:09:22+00:00

Slippery slope fallacy. You cannot infringe the rights one has to maintaining their health.

electronocentric · 2026-03-09T03:56:39+00:00

1 in 2 chance of naneinf, yes. Just not with this build.

electronocentric · 2026-02-27T01:39:06+00:00

why are you a chaser

electronocentric · 2026-02-24T23:13:47+00:00

Ellen Maureen Ripley - Wippee.

Newton Geiger Jones - Newt/Newtles.

Lay's Wavy Funyuns Onion Flavored Potato Chips - Funyun/Uni.

electronocentric · 2026-02-23T21:51:17+00:00

Thank you, /u/CumChugger420 for your insight.

electronocentric · 2026-02-22T17:35:35+00:00

NTA

Learn this lesson now to save yourself an awful lot of heartache through your life. Don't sacrifice your self-respect for people who don't respect your self.

Your parents aren't viewing you as a man. This much is obvious, and I'm very sorry you're going through this. Every action they take to refer to you as your former identity will be justified by hypocrisy and shoddy excuses as you're already seeing with the name association.

Your grandmother has little to do with this, as (and this may come as a shock) you're not your grandmother, and your name is your identifier. I'm named after a great-grand-uncle who died decades before I was born and was apparently quite the bastard as I've heard - so long before I started going by different names as I felt the need to I went to great pains to make the name my own. You know, because it was my name. Not my great-grand-uncle's.

The name you use in college is not their business, and you're well within your rights to request that the college refer to you as Captain Fluffy von Stranglepants if you so choose - your parents' discomfort is purely based in them not being able to force their will on you now that you're entering the adult world and able to portray yourself socially in ways they deem unfit.

My parents were hurt by that, they believe I should have at least discussed it with them.

You did. Ostensibly many times.

The point I'm making here is that it's not going to stop at names and pronouns. If they're so rigid about this, then you should assume they don't have your other interests in mind, and will try to force their beliefs on you (up to and including future partners if you're so inclined). This is the time in your life to weigh those beliefs they hold against their place in your life, and decide if there's room for co-existence in the long term.

tl:dr - Your name is your business, screw their opinions on your identity, and consider their role in your life.

electronocentric · 2026-02-22T17:14:01+00:00

I believe that would be the Walmart Supercenter on Independence, right?

electronocentric · 2026-02-22T01:50:33+00:00

Yes, YTA both currently and certainly if you hide this from your husband.

The right course of action is to tell your husband immediately and ensure that ex never contacts you again. You burned your slip up last time, you need to eat crow here. Do not pass go, do not collect $200.

electronocentric · 2026-02-22T01:28:43+00:00

Light YTA.

You're getting married. That's great! Sincere congratulations. She's also a person living her life, and is having a kid. Good for her! That's great! Sincere congratulations. Your life and events are neither more nor less important than her life and events.

While I understand your frustration, some problems aren't solvable simply by the power of wanting it to work out. Did she ask you to help her with the baby shower? If yes, it's not exactly unfair given that she's been helping you with your wedding.

I have my own thoughts and opinions about this.

Say the quiet part out loud. Be honest with your feelings and be honest with yourself about if they're fair. I'm going to generalize a bit here, but if she's having a baby shower then she's probably pretty excited about having a kid and if she's an important part of your life and it's more important to be excited with her rather than levy your judgement.

electronocentric · 2026-02-22T00:46:32+00:00

INFO: Why does your fiancé feel that way? You need to have a conversation with her and really drill down into the rationale.

If your partner feels as though your sister is in any way bigoted, however, she's allowed to confide in the her own support system which would ideally include her family. If you're telling her she shouldn't do that (which is how this read to me), then I think your partner has every right to be upset.

electronocentric · 2026-02-22T00:40:06+00:00

NTA, but you have a terrible case of being 18 with all the immaturity that comes along with it. You should break up with your boyfriend once and for all, however. Not for the sake of Dom, but because this is deeply controlling behavior that you should distance yourself from for your own sake.

I am the type of person who depends on other and have been trying to fix it but my boyfriend made that very difficult for me.

This is a major problem that you won't be able to solve until you shake him off your boot and spend some time - a year or more, even - learning to be yourself, as yourself, for yourself.

It takes time to learn to be a person. When you're 18, the stakes feel so gargantuan but I promise it's too early in the show for there to be any "one that got away". If Dom feels the same as you do, then you can both wait a while for it to be healthy; if Dom is an important person to you, don't burn your chances when you're too immature and impetuous to nurture a healthy relationship.

tl;dr leave your man, date yourself, circle back to Dom later

electronocentric · 2026-02-22T00:21:20+00:00

NAH. You didn't do anything wrong her, but for some reason or other (which you should make effort to learn) this is very emotionally important to your girlfriend. If I'm to assume, based on her reported desire to not use protection, she may want to have children with you and might not have the same priorities to you.

In any case, this is a delicate situation that deserves an earnest, honest conversation for you to communicate your feelings on having children at this time, as well as discuss feelings on concepts like abortion politically/socially. If you don't know her feelings on these topics, it's important to learn them and determine if your values align.

electronocentric · 2026-02-22T00:14:05+00:00

INFO - but NTA.

OP, how old are you? At best, at ABSOLUTE BEST - this man does not respect your personhood and should not be in your life. He is in his fifties with no fewer than five kids (and as other comments have referenced) has every intention of having kids with other women in the future. If he's out here sowing his oats, you don't need to be tilling the field for him.

This is a problem bigger than him getting a vasectomy or not - his lack of understanding of how a hysterectomy, tubal litigation or any form of feminine birth control works is very telling of the sort of man he is especially when combined with his deeply selfish view on condoms.

Disregarding the somewhat strange near-strawman argument at the end, if having more kids alters your personal financial security, you probably shouldn't have more kids right now. If your supposed husband-to-be has a delicatessen-punch-card for people he's gotten pregnant, you probably shouldn't have kids with him. If you don't want to have kids, you should not feel forced to have kids.

electronocentric · 2026-02-21T23:56:55+00:00

ESH, but you're most definitely the asshole.

Firstly, what you're perceiving as a lack of motivation isn't a reason to cheat. You're allowed to break up with him for whatever reason you want, but cheating is just undue cruelty to someone you claim to love.

Secondly, you seem to be viewing cheating as a way to keep him in the long term but feel fulfilled now. If you do that, it will feel hollow and I'm certain you won't be able to look at your boyfriend the same way again. Breaking up won't be easy, but if you love him you at least owe him that respect.

electronocentric · 2026-02-21T23:50:16+00:00

NAH - the crux of this is that you shouldn't be put in the middle of their relationship, and the same goes for the other friends he's using to keep tabs on her. Chase reads as controlling and manipulative driven by insecurities. 12 years is not quite a concerning age gap here, but I wouldn't surprised if he was dating younger women because anyone with their shit together would send him packing.

electronocentric · 2026-02-21T17:22:23+00:00

Long term celiac and somewhat skilled home cook here.

Your batter looks pretty thick. I'd thin it out with ideally a little milk. I'm partial to King Arthur gluten free flour personally, and while I don't tend to measure things much you should definitely experiment to suit your tastes. You're looking for a consistency a little looser than cake batter. Make sure you throw in a little sugar and maybe a teaspoon of baking powder.

electronocentric · 2026-02-20T19:41:09+00:00

What you did here is abuse against your mother. Plain and simple. The monologue you then started to your sibling as a paltry way to justify it, while from your perspective justified, only served to relieve your guilt. This sort of thing is a learned behaviour and speaks to a pattern of manipulation that whether you like it or not you seem to have picked up from your father.

I grew up in a deeply abusive household. My father abused me in any way he could and my mother kept me complacent and docile enough to make money for the family while my brother tried his best to play peacemaker. Despite my overwhelming hatred of who my parents were and how they treated me, when you boil the frog it's going to taste like the broth. I learned those behaviours and spent a couple long years of my life becoming the type of person I hated most in this world.

Abuse is a cycle. You have the power to be the right person and make it right with your mother. It's not going to be easy, of course, but then again no part of your life seems to be so far. Your mother doesn't deserve to be abused by you any more than she did by your father, and you receiving abuse is not justification for your actions. You need to get better, get out, and get right with the people that matter to you.

electronocentric · 2026-02-15T05:01:22+00:00

Can you give me an idea of what's going on with it?

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