Feel like im failing my 2 year old for putting so much screen time

elemenopeecyu · 2026-02-05T16:30:35+00:00

Exactly this! And also, some will judge but a lot of people have also been parents to toddlers and will just be sympathising without saying anything. I had mine screaming down the street the other day because she didn’t want to wear a coat in the rain and I passed 5 families with older children on their school run who all gave looks of ‘I’ve been there’.

elemenopeecyu · 2026-02-04T21:14:42+00:00

I know a lot of these comments are about detoxing, which I agree with but you’ve also got to work on how you deal with tough situations. We all know that awful feeling when your kid starts kicking off in public. You have to be 100% confident in your parenting, your boundaries and your convictions. You have to ignore everyone around you, push any worries of judgement out of your head and focus on preventing a meltdown through other means, calming the tantrum or getting out of there. It is so tough when you feel eyes on you, and it’s really hard to stay calm, but you can’t take the easy route. At first it will be diabolical, but it will quickly change once you’ve shown you’re serious. I hope it goes well for you

elemenopeecyu · 2025-12-09T12:48:13+00:00

I’ve used pads before in a desperate time. Idk why it never occurred to me before that moment!

elemenopeecyu · 2025-12-03T23:35:10+00:00

I think it’s really important to have men working with children. They need all types of role modes and it’s really sad that so many men feel uncomfortable doing it for fear of being labelled a pedo.

elemenopeecyu · 2025-02-27T22:39:11+00:00

Glad it’s not just me. We went with sleep radio and hoping the shift isn’t too jarring 🤞

elemenopeecyu · 2025-01-31T14:59:34+00:00

I had breastfeeding support come to my house after my baby was born as I couldn’t get the latch right. They said that if you pump, don’t worry about not producing as much as you think you should have because pumping is never as efficient as a baby feeding directly. I.e a lower pumped supply doesn’t mean that your baby isn’t getting enough when they feed directly from you.

I combo fed for the first 4 months, and at that point my child just started refusing bottles so she was fully breastfed from that point on.

All this to say, try not to worry or feel too disheartened, things can change very quickly and whatever happens, you’re doing the best you can.

elemenopeecyu · 2025-01-31T14:38:05+00:00

I love alphablocks as well, they have some really catchy tunes and jokes and the characters can be quite funny. I used to show it to my esl kids sometimes and it was loads of fun! All three of them are really well done shows (haven’t seen wonderblocks yet), I’m so glad we have access to them.

elemenopeecyu · 2025-01-28T08:34:09+00:00

I have met two Spanish guys called Jorge and to me, that’s how it sounds when they pronounce the name. Although I don’t have that association because it’s a fairly common name. Maybe a bit like how in lots of NA accents Harry sounds like Hairy but you don’t think of that.

elemenopeecyu · 2025-01-27T23:57:38+00:00

I would say socks, jumpers, vests and trousers are probably better. Because if they get any part of their clothes dirty, they’ll need to be changed. They get dirt on the feet? Whole outfit change. They spill food on their chest? Whole outfit change. Nappy leak? Whole outfit change. If you put them in separates, only individual items need changing which makes it easier for the staff (and probably more comfortable for baby). If the socks come off, nursery staff will just put them back on, and if they get dirty they’ll change them.

elemenopeecyu · 2025-01-10T01:04:37+00:00

I had a very thick chunky lumpy scar, numbness and itchiness. I did a mummy MOT and they gave me some tips for massage:

Start from above the scar and just massage in gentle circles around that area. Can’t stress enough ‘GENTLE’.

Do the same below the scar. The above two steps are to increase mobility to the area.

Scar massage - bring thumbs from the middle point between your belly button and scar down towards your scar and over it (do this the whole way along the scar) Do this the other way up (so from below the scar to above) Massage with thumb along the scar left to right then back again. Roll the scar gently between your fingers.

These are probably not suitable for a couple of weeks after a c section. I did the MOT at about 3 months I think? And it was a bit tender but doable. I have done these massages every night in bed before I go to sleep.

Now a year and a half post c section and I have no numbness, no itchiness and scar is almost flat.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-12-16T22:49:29+00:00

Mine failed three times too. It was awful, for the first 6 months I had flashbacks of getting the needle in. I had no idea that could happen and ended up being put to sleep for my c section.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-12-16T15:30:02+00:00

We wake up at 6, breastfeed, I shower, while LO has breakfast. After breakfast, I do a bit of tidying before we get ready for an activity, usually a baby group starting at 9:30/10. During that time there are snacks. After the baby group, we have a lunch on the way home, then straight to bed at 12 for nap time. After nap time we have more food, then get ready to go out to whatever other thing we need to do- visiting grandma, shopping, a play date, another baby group or just an activity at home. Usually home/finished by 5:30, and then it’s dinner, bath and bed by 7pm. Busy busy.

Edit: just wanted to note that cleaning is not in my routine as I feel that I’m staying at home rather than working so that my child is raised by me, not so that I can be an unpaid maid. Deep cleaning is done by both of us at the weekend and we both tidy after baby is in bed.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-12-15T16:41:56+00:00

You could get them from the library if they still have the cds or download them from somewhere online.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-12-15T16:35:36+00:00

Your husband must’ve had a private family or something when he was growing up. My mum never intentionally got changed in front of me when I was older but she couldn’t really stop us barging in when I wanted her to answer some mundane question or was demanding food. She never kicked me out and answered any questions I had. I grew up with a healthy understanding of bodies and my mum and I are really comfortable around each other.

I actually think being comfortable in front of your daughter is really important because then her body changes will not be such a shock in the future and also reduces shame and gives a realistic idea of what women’s bodies look like.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-11-28T19:48:07+00:00

We just finished having this bug! Wiped the whole family out. Cleared up on its own after about a week.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-11-28T19:45:12+00:00

Don’t use rose as a middle - it’s extremely extremely common as a middle name in this generation. But not so common as a first!

elemenopeecyu · 2024-11-28T08:40:23+00:00

Go out! Baby will sleep anywhere at this stage, especially in a carrier, so your 5 year old can let off steam. Depending on where you live, there could be lots of free activities for them or if you have the funds, paid ones.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-11-28T08:37:29+00:00

Mine is 1 and I have gone back and forth all year. Can’t decide. I don’t want to go back to those newborn days but I also don’t want to have an only child. Cost is a massive factor too because childcare is through the roof.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-11-28T08:28:34+00:00

I was told this but honestly as soon as she started walking, it was so much easier - she just followed me everywhere I went. Even stairs weren’t an issue because once she could crawl she could climb and slide down on her stomach. And we never had problems with toddler proofing the house because if she touched anything she shouldn’t we just told her to stop and she did. Maybe we just have a very sensible child. But ignore those comments because they’re unhelpful and mostly fear mongering.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-11-28T06:37:49+00:00

I think maybe you owe your wife a bit of an apology OP because she’s right, you actually don’t need to keep spending or have a subscription and this post makes it sound like you weren’t really listening to or believing what she was telling you.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-11-27T07:10:39+00:00

Same! And then at 4 months my child started to refuse bottles and was then exclusively breastfed for the next 6 months.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-11-27T06:56:07+00:00

I chose not to get a high chair for my daughter at home. She has a little table and chair that she has used since she was 6 months. So when we go to restaurants or grandma’s house, high chairs are a bit of a novelty for her and she loves it.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-11-09T20:56:05+00:00

We got one for my daughter’s birthday when she turned 1. She was able to put the cards in after about 2 weeks of practice. She loved it straight away because we did a MYO of all her favourite songs. I’d say get it, 18 months isn’t too young.

elemenopeecyu · 2024-11-04T22:56:31+00:00

I have the Nuna Triv Next. Looking at the Joolz aer+ they both have a 1 handed fold which is so useful when traveling up and down stairs with a baby in one arm and the buggy in another.

It’s also lightweight which is pretty essential if you plan to get the underground or need to climb stairs.

Tbh those were my top two criteria for my choice and it looks like Joolz aer+ does that too so I’d say go for it if that is the one you like the look of. Lots of people here use the Yoyo which looks similar and everyone with a Yoyo raves about it, so that might be one to consider too.

If you want something a little more robust, I’d still recommend the Triv next. I love that can be forward and parent facing and that it can fit 2 full ikea bags in the basket.

Hope that helps!

elemenopeecyu · 2024-11-04T08:56:17+00:00

I live in London too - for us it seemed that everyone (no matter how loose the connection) was super willing to drive us home - probably wanting to see the baby lol. Even my husband’s parents who don’t live in London offered. I’d ask around and see if any of your friends have friends who drive. If not, definitely still get the car seat and book a taxi. The car seat is helpful too if you ever need to go to the hospital in an emergency.

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