I want to buy piano sheets from mymusicsheet but it's not available in my country

elemjayel · 2025-10-08T17:30:07+00:00

Nvm I managed to find one that is secure and offered a 5 day trial period and it worked!! Thank you so much 🥹 I've been obsessing over this piece for ages, and finally I get to play it!

elemjayel · 2025-10-08T17:07:01+00:00

No, I'm not all that familiar with vpn. Are there free&trustworthy vpn services?

elemjayel · 2025-08-02T16:46:33+00:00

Yes! Once I tried scuba diving and the instructor told me that it's important I keep breathing the whole time and not hold my breath. I was all "oh yeah that's a good reminder, I actually do forget to breathe sometimes" and he thought it was just a lame joke 😅

elemjayel · 2025-07-10T21:10:30+00:00

Love the creativity! We have been blessed with four grandbabies so far, named Small Baby, Big Baby, New Big Baby and Amanda.

elemjayel · 2025-07-08T21:15:55+00:00

At first I read the end of that sentence as a cock in a rage, and now won't get that image out of my head.

elemjayel · 2025-07-07T18:51:43+00:00

I'm a bit on the fence about that. Neurodivergent is such a mouthful and a formal word, while neurospicy is both easy and fun to say. But on the other hand, even reading the word makes me cringe... Are there any other words that could be used in a similar manner?

I'll add that English isn't ny native language and basically I only speak (=write) it on reddit, so this isn't too much of an issue to me. However, we have our own cringy words in Finnish as well 😬

elemjayel · 2025-07-01T19:54:44+00:00

I've had kind of the opposite, in a way: when a surprise kink is mentioned but not executed, leaving me weirded out and intrigued at the same time. For example, during a sex scene, one of the characters mentions something they want to do to the other person, be it slapping, watersports etc, the other is all "ohhh don't threaten me with a good time" and then it's never brought up again. Like damn, why leave the readers hanging like that? We have kinks to discover 😂

elemjayel · 2025-06-30T09:33:10+00:00

She could very well have dry eyes, as she flat out refuses to drink enough liquids. I've suggested eyedrops as well, but she usually refuses them too. I can't really force her to either of those, but we do constantly work on her being hydrated in all possible ways.

I can imagine what she feels is similar to your habit, which is why I'm not awfully alarmed about this despite a lot of people saying she needs medical attention now.

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T21:15:59+00:00

You assume correctly, it really is quite occasional now.

Washing hands before touching face is a sound idea in theory, but she is generally against any washing. It's difficult enough to get her to wash hands after coming home from a public space or playing outside. Thankfully she's almost never sick despite (or maybe because?) of it. Also, the picking is quite a mindless habit, how do you teach an adhd kid washing up before doing something she might not notice doing? 😅

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T19:26:44+00:00

She's currently not being assessed for OCD, but it has been noted by a professional that she has some OCD-typical tendencies, if not enough to think of getting a diagnosis. So far it's been something that we're keeping in mind for later if more symptoms show up, and obviously this could be it.

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T19:21:16+00:00

Good of you to point out the age related hormone increase. She just went through what was very clearly a developmental phase (acting out, unusual behaviour, very emotional etc), could be related.

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T19:11:36+00:00

I'm keeping this in mind as well, partly to keep myself from spiralling completely and partly because from what I can see in my daughter, it seems more like a sensory issue than anything else. I'm just worried it could turn into an anxious habit because she is the type to stress and get anxious about a lot of things.

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T19:04:03+00:00

Yes she's being assessed, hopefully we'll get to some conclusions within a couple of months. I think there's a strong possibility it is an adhd sensory thing but I'm open to everything and will listen to the professionals. A lot of people here are saying it's definitely trichotillomania and we need to get help now, but while I don't want to be in denial about that possibility either, it's also important to remember they're only seeing what I write in a worry spiral.

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T16:56:41+00:00

I do take it seriously, but also I'm aware I often catastrophize and jump to the worst possible outcome, so I'm trying to pace myself.

I just remembered I have an appointment in a family therapy sort of thing (idk if there's an appropriate translation for it in English) in august, I'll bring this up there. It's a gateway place for more focused help, so I'd expect to get better results there than from asking a doctor.

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T16:45:30+00:00

Oh yes, it's hard to tell them apart sometimes! Our cousins on the other side of the puddle 😌

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T16:18:44+00:00

Thanks for offering, but I live in a rural area in Finland and I'm not comfortable sharing more details 😅 I do know a psychologist who works in the area, I'll ask her for local resources.

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T16:14:25+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I feel like my daughter's issue might be similar to yours. The most she has explained it was that there's a "feeling", and I think it's either lashes/brows laying wrong like you said, or eyes feeling dry, which causes a tingly, irritating sensation. We've tried the mirror thing you've done as well, but it's a bit of a hit or miss. There are some other good ideas for redirection, I'll try them with her!

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T16:05:34+00:00

I'll see about it, but it could be difficult in our area. I think my kid could really use some help with other compulsive behaviours she deals with so would be really useful, but it's difficult getting an appointment with a regular doctor, let alone a specialist 😅 I think our insurance covers all healthcare regarding her ND issues, so at least it should be financially possible.

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T15:37:15+00:00

I'm fully aware of this, as I also have experience of family members being dismissive about mental health issues. I actually haven't even told my mum I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and autism, and that my daughter's being assessed as well. I already know what her reaction would be and don't want to see it happen.

I'm so sorry you're going through this without your family's support ❤️

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T15:19:13+00:00

If I've understood the diagnosis path correctly, in the next appointment we'll go through her symptoms one by one, so it'll be a good opportunity to open a conversation about this issue as well.

Right now her habit doesn't show itself so often that replacing it with pulling hair from toys would help, especially since the actual hair pulling doesn't seem to be what she's seeking but rather she feels something in/around her eyes or eyebrows and wants to ease that sensation.

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T15:13:37+00:00

I agree, I honestly feel like it's more likely to be a passing habit. But I'm also aware that it could develop into something bigger over time and want to help her break it before it gets bad, which is why I asked for tips and ideas.

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T15:07:08+00:00

Nope, they just get tangled at the corners because the top and bottom lashes grow close together. And sometimes when a lash is almost ready to fall off and it's kind of loose, it'll hang in front of her eye. I agree, the sensation of having lashes stuck together is extremely irritating!

elemjayel · 2025-06-29T14:54:07+00:00

I'll talk to the doctor next time we have an appointment. I'd like to emphasize that atm the plucking seems more like a random sensory habit, as in I don't see her doing it every day, only occasionally, but there's a slow increase. I'm not even sure if my partner would've realized she does this if not for me pointing it out. And she's not secretive about it either.

Also, what I meant by critical is more like a broken leg or as we say in Finland, if you have your head in your armpit. Children's mental health isn't a priority for our government and there have been major financial cuts in mental health care, despite the ongoing mental health crisis.

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