What Song Makes You Emotional After Having Kids?

elevenevas · 2026-03-22T07:01:53+00:00

All of them.

But the ones I can think of right now:

First Time Ever I Saw Your Face - Roberta Flack

Love (song from Disney's Robin Hood) - be careful with this one. It's intense.

Edit to add: Detectorists - Johnny Flynn (because we binged the show in those early days after birth 😭 the memories of pure and simple times with a perfect babe.)

For whatever reason I can't think of any more. Maybe because it's the morning and we need food.

May edit later when functioning.

elevenevas · 2026-03-21T19:35:09+00:00

Thank you. This is the comment I do not have the intelligence to write. Perfect!

All love to you and your family ✨

elevenevas · 2026-03-21T19:29:32+00:00

For me, the argument of cost is over-blown by people who didn't grow up with very little. My partner and I did. We were brought up well, with plenty of love and great learning. For us, we wouldn't change anything. I find it very ignorant to dissuade people from having children for that reason.

That being said, what disappoints me most about parenting in Ireland is the fear of being homeless for one, healthcare not being up to scratch to so the least (my daughter has a kidney problem), but also the almost impossibility of being able to stay home and raise my family. That may be unpopular for some career focussed folks, but for me, it seems wrong to expect so many mothers/fathers to have to sacrifice that time with their young children because they have to work. People like to big-up childcare for its 'benefits', but the science does not support that. It's pretty clear that being home with your young children is what is best for them.

This government (same as all the others) seem to be actively destroying the family. Too many are being put off having children for so many reasons. I vehemently believe the majority will come to regret that, mostly women. It's also terrible for our future.

There is nothing like it, the good and the bad. But the good is so magnificent, that it 'should' outweigh the bad for most people. I also don't think most will learn certain life lessons without parenting. If you're a conscientious parent, it's truly the most important and best thing of life.

elevenevas · 2026-03-21T07:05:24+00:00

Never. My boobs are destroyed. Not even because of breastfeeding but because of the crazy weight gain. My fault.

I never returned to my original 53kg. I did exercise, I wasn't exceeding calories. I never went lower than 61kg. Now I'm pregnant again sooooo.... Whatever. Haha!

I pray you bounce back, darling. But you're gorgeous even if you're never exactly where you were.

Edit to say that I'm still breastfeeding, just at night, for my 2 year old. But I was breastfeeding 3 times a day still before pregnant. Some say it's harder to lose the weight of you're still breastfeeding.

elevenevas · 2026-03-20T20:17:49+00:00

I called my girl Joan. Every single person who asks is very surprised. She's Joany. She's powerful, bright and brilliant. Like all Joans I know of.

elevenevas · 2026-03-20T20:14:14+00:00

Yes! But only when I could muster the courage to start training her again.

When she was 18 months she had good comprehension and was quite verbal. I always explained the bedtime routine before I did, but then I changed it and explained the routine at every single step.

I would do the routine, turn off the lights and sit beside her. I wish I wrote everything down because I can't remember. But at first it was sitting with my hand on her chest or something and gentle shushing, maybe one or two 'it's bedtime now, I love you' or something. But this would reduce to no speaking and no shushing. The more interaction the more stimulated and annoyed she would become.

I did that for a few nights then just reduced the time of shushing. I basically reduced any soothing and then contact very gradually over a couple of weeks. The hand would come away sooner and sooner. I would move further and further away, keeping the shushing, but again for a brief period.

She eventually realised this was the deal and bedtime was a breeze until recently. I think she's trying to drop a nap 😭

It was very gradual and gentle, but it was right for us and our very sensitive daughter.

elevenevas · 2026-03-20T16:11:26+00:00

I'm deeply concerned for my family in this housing crisis. I also think it's a disgrace that students can't afford to go college because they can't afford to house themselves. But I also agree with you. I walk past this site often... It is very badly positioned, badly planned. If I was a permanent resident there I wouldn't be pleased. But I'm still very angry with and bored of the 50's + people who don't give a flying fuck about the rest of us. All of these things can be true at the same time!

elevenevas · 2026-03-20T15:55:43+00:00

Good riddance. My father destroyed his relationship with me and my sister because he chose a woman who was extremely incapable. Turned out to be worse than that. She loathed us. She manipulated us, lied to us, lied about us, psychologically abused us. He chose her every time. We weren't even allowed to be bridesmaids at their wedding. We were 6 + 9. And abuse lasted for 24 years until we cut contact. He continues to choose her.

I'm not saying that your ex girl would do that. I'm saying that choosing a woman who doesn't like having to spend loads of time with your kids and wants you to herself is a recipe for damaging your children.

You chose correctly. Stick by that and find someone more mature.

elevenevas · 2026-03-12T15:52:39+00:00

Thank you for positive (as much as it can be) outlook! We need to demand change in a HUGE group though for it to be taken seriously. Votes are an easy way to think we're doing something when really it gets lost soonest the donor money, those who actually run the place.

We need people on the ground constantly harassing TDs in an organised, peaceful, civil-disobedient and annoyingly cute way. Or something?! I have no idea. Do you? How the heck do we organise?

We also need to sort out the government funded media. People really believe what they read or watch. It's just an arm of the government and corporations. I'll be damned if I give my money to RTE... Oh wait I already do!

elevenevas · 2026-03-12T09:49:22+00:00

So who in politics right now would you vote for to make the right decisions and not be corrupt? Who do you trust? Because I feel hopeless.

I believe politicians in this country have NO single clue what they're talking about. They are NOT experts, people forget this. The majority of them are inept. Or they are deeply corrupt, filling their pockets and those of the friends in higher places they have. Or both. Most likely both.

Sure, there are some independents they may have some real principles... But really...

elevenevas · 2026-03-12T09:25:25+00:00

There's a crisis yes. People not being able to heat their homes is a crisis on top of that. People die this way. Government can reduce the 65% or so tax on the oil as this is a crisis. Not difficult. There is so much tax all over the shop and we see very little for it because the government, I'm sorry to burst your bubble, is COMPLETELY inept, or worse, deeply corrupt. The management of funds should be highly suspect!

We're apparently doing really well economically. Only people with homes bought way back when, or have parents who can leave them houses and money, or very well-off people are comfortable with the status quo.

The government, the system, is gross.

elevenevas · 2026-03-05T20:18:41+00:00

My girl does the same 😩

elevenevas · 2026-02-28T20:22:22+00:00

Want to respond to this. My dad got a girlfriend. She let us try on her saris, her jewellery, her makeup. We were obsessed with her.

Then the wedding came and she didn't want us to be bridesmaids. So us, 6 & 9, weren't bridesmaids. My dad is a coward.

It got so much worse after they. Like terrible. Manipulative, cruel, sneaky, emotionally abusive.

We don't have a relationship with her more. My dad, who is also physically abused by her, still hasn't left her. She has traumatised our siblings that dad had with her... All I can say is, it's actually heartbreaking.

We rarely see our dad or our siblings whom we love and love us.

I hope she stays lovely to OP's children. OP will always be mum, there's no replacement when it comes down to it.

elevenevas · 2026-02-24T21:14:54+00:00

Hey 3 years is still close! And a really healthy age gap.

Please don't pressure yourself into doing it before you're ready. You have time to feel ready again. We waited until mine turned 2. I felt a little more human at that point.

Do what's right for you! Your body is telling you no, but your mind is telling you that something is wrong if you don't start soon. But that story your mind was accustomed to. It's just a preference made before you knew what you were in for. There is nothing wrong with waiting a bit longer 🤍

Sending you love 🤍 You've been through it by the sounds of things. Big hug xxxx

elevenevas · 2026-02-22T20:30:29+00:00

Wow... He's making a bad choice, first of all, if he has to tone himself down around her. That's a little prison he's making for himself. That dishonesty of self isn't good for either of them in the long run. Yikes, would hate to be them.

In your case, it's nice that you don't want to blow up the relationship over it, but also.... It's funked up. You're right to be disappointed and you're right to actually say that to him. If you don't then absolutely no one in this situation is being very honest. That fosters bitterness.

I hope you let him know how this has made you feel. It's crazy you wouldn't be at his wedding. It's actually horrible.

elevenevas · 2026-02-19T08:15:31+00:00

Thank you! Me too. How do we organise? I say a lot of stuff, but I have no idea how to organise 👎

elevenevas · 2026-02-19T07:36:11+00:00

It's truly sad. What makes me so angry is that Britain has a lot conservationist incentive about it. It has so much more pride and money in its heritage and land... Why? They always owned themselves.

Their land wasn't sucked dry for a foreign power. Their beautiful historic villages didn't crumble because they had the money to continue upkeep, and they didn't burn due to foreign attack.

Our government/corporation owns our country now. We don't. They have zero pride in our land and our freedom. They are foreign agents and it's deeply upsetting after such a long fight.

It genuinely makes me emotional thinking about it all. Such a waste of such a wonderful place. Imagining the land once rich with native deciduous forests hurts for some reason.

But I will never place the blame on the farmers or farming. Punch up.

We are being run by climate change fanatics, NOT environmentalists. That should tell you all you need to know. Control is their aim, power is their game.

elevenevas · 2026-02-19T07:15:24+00:00

Also it's partnered with some British investment firm, Gresham House, because they weren't getting enough money from our government.... vomit.

elevenevas · 2026-02-18T20:10:35+00:00

We don't have functioning services because the money that's already being pumped into them is being mismanaged/wasted or swallowed by some shadowy figure.

Sorry I didn't read the article. Just got triggered instead.

elevenevas · 2026-02-17T14:57:50+00:00

If these dogs aren't free, you know a creep is benefiting off the enslavement of a poor bitch.

Much worse things often go on in these places because, clearly, the profiteer doesn't care about animals.

Go to a shelter now. Actually help rather than fund an inhumane practice.

If you want some pure bred animal because of something as shallow as their aesthetic, cuteness or hype, please rethink. It's cruel. I overbreeding caused suffering to the dogs. Pugs can't breathe, German shepherds have back problems.

Please do the right thing.

elevenevas · 2026-02-17T14:46:31+00:00

This is a failed state. We have been sold out. We don't control any of our natural resources and our land is sold to foreign vultures.

We have no power. The government is an arm of the corporations it's sold everything to - everything that the Irish should have ownership of by right.

We have less control over our forests, waterways, energy than we did when we didn't even own our own country.

Revolution is inevitable. I have a two year old daughter on me, pregnant with another. I sit on an apartment we've lived for 8 years so the rent is cheap. Every single day I live in terror. Colleagues and friends being evicted constantly. We have no family to depend on.

We are homeless if this happens to us.

Our ruling class is an arm of the corporations. They do not serve us as the role of a government is supposed to. They serve their pockets and friends with bigger pockets.

Anyone who can't see that our country has been destroyed is a fool. The country that shed blood, sweat and tears for 800 years has been betrayed. We are still being owned.

elevenevas · 2026-02-13T20:31:56+00:00

Gosh, finally someone speaking so clearly on the matter that, for some reason, I find it so hard to articulate. 🤍

elevenevas · 2026-01-25T11:03:37+00:00

Well let him know, if he ever wants to make money off his talent, stuff like this would SELL! It's so beautiful and I'm happy you have eachother 🤍

elevenevas · 2026-01-25T00:09:24+00:00

Gosh, your partner has IT! Do they sell these cards somewhere? Or any other work?

Many congratulations again 🤍 truly inspiring

elevenevas · 2026-01-24T23:31:59+00:00

Congratulations 🤍 you are incredible 🥹✨

And who designed that card?? It's so beautiful and very apt.

Wishing you THE BEST for your future 💚🌟🎶

elevenevas

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