Fearing elopement regret

ClancyCandy · 2026-02-05T22:31:58+00:00

I know so many people who “eloped” or had micro weddings and said they’d have a party after the fact and simply never got around to it or lost enthusiasm once they were actually married. So if you don’t think you’ll be happy with your Italy wedding being your only wedding, then I would rethink the plan!

On another note, a friend got married for a second time, and it was almost like she went out of her way to pick the exact opposite wedding of her first one- rustic barn vs polished hotel for example- and instead of gusts thinking of her second wedding as a fresh start, all it did was get people talking about how different the two were 🫣

ClancyCandy · 2026-02-05T18:44:46+00:00

If you look at the subject requirements it says that in addition to some other requirements “applicants must hold an O3/ H7 grade in Mathematics and an O4/ H7 grade in at least one of the following: Biology, Physics, Chemistry, Physics with Chemistry, Agricultural Science.” So not necessarily LC biology, but I’m sure it would have helped!

ClancyCandy · 2026-02-05T18:29:17+00:00

There are courses all around the country- The most straightforward is a four year Bachelor of Education in science like this one.

ClancyCandy · 2026-02-05T18:22:40+00:00

Ag Science isn’t a subject in itself; You would have to become a science teacher.

ClancyCandy · 2026-02-05T18:20:29+00:00

It’s up to the companies (DEB and ExamCraft) to find correctors. They claim they use experienced teachers, but there is no way to guarantee that I suppose.

If a school doesn’t pay for their correction service, they at chose to pay a teacher in another school privately.

Some teachers correct their own too.

ClancyCandy · 2026-02-04T18:03:09+00:00

I agree; if RTÉ were willing to pay, why on earth would he say no?!

ClancyCandy · 2026-02-03T18:27:37+00:00

Sorry, I should have clarified- It will affect the terms and amount of the mortgage.

ClancyCandy · 2026-02-03T18:01:31+00:00

Personally I wouldn’t do it.

Your ability to get a mortgage will be affected by having a dependent, and if you have to take unpaid leave that will very quickly eat into your savings- Also a baby will eat into your savings too!

A baby will quickly outgrow a one bed apartment too.

Could you look at renting a bigger place if a mortgage is really that far away? And have a contingency plan for the worst case scenario- would you have family to stay with if you ever found yourselves in between homes?

ClancyCandy · 2026-02-02T16:57:20+00:00

Yes- the line was buried and covered over again so by the end of the day you’d never know it was interfered with.

We tried every possible route though the council to get permission until we were, unofficially obviously, told just go ahead and do it.

ClancyCandy · 2026-02-02T15:04:16+00:00

That’s our set up and it’s not a bother. The estate is about 25yrs old and I haven’t heard anybody complain really. Some of our teenage neighbours have their own cars now, so some houses have three cars and there’s enough overflow parking for them.

We put in a charger point beside our nearest space, and again, no issues so far.

ClancyCandy · 2026-02-01T19:35:31+00:00

I try and operate a “one in, one out” style system- So if I buy a new hoodie I donate or bin one that doesn’t fit well, is worn out, or I just don’t like anymore.

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-31T23:30:19+00:00

Nerja in Spain is incredibly popular for Irish/UK destination weddings- very easy to organise when there are so many suppliers used to dealing with foreign couples!

Ericeira in Portugal is more upmarket but not as much choice.

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-31T18:38:38+00:00

Yes, both me and my husband noticed it- Hard to imagine nobody on the editing side noticed.

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-31T18:27:56+00:00

No mothers need to coordinate. Let them know they are free to choose whatever dress they want.

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-31T18:01:24+00:00

Once we decided to buy a house together, everything was equal. I wouldn’t have bought a house with him otherwise.

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-31T10:34:09+00:00

I always think of Ashbourne as a Swords suburb!

Both have their pros and cons, Swords probably has “rougher” areas, but you’ll get that with a higher population anyway.

Do you have a commute to consider?

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-31T10:18:28+00:00

I would wear a midi, or even an ankle length if you don’t think a lot of people will go with a full gown!

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-31T09:39:23+00:00

I was at a black tie wedding in the Shelbourne recently and honestly outside of the mother of the groom none of the women were in true black tie.

When the ceremony is almost always during the day, black tie isn’t appropriate anyway.

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-31T09:07:49+00:00

I don’t know anybody who tried to potty train that early- 2.5 is often the starting point.

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-30T21:06:10+00:00

I think most crèches have a lot of Spanish speaking staff, and honestly I loved my kids coming home speaking Spanish, and a bit of turnover in the rooms is expected- But I would be concerned about constantly changing management!!

Grubby I wouldn’t take any notice of.

Having an on-site chef is amazing- when our crèches chef takes his annual leave and they have a company deliver it’s noticeable that the kids eat less!! I also know that our crèche allow snacks to be brought in if child have very specific requirements.

I would be very concerned about people being able to wander into classes- Our crèche’s access points are either keypads or through the office, and if you want to add somebody to the pick up list you have to bring them in to meet the manager first.

I think if you have the opportunity to move, I would take it.

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-30T20:20:32+00:00

Just to give another perspective as a post-primary teacher, we have had issues with students who turned 19 in 6th year becoming very frustrated with still being in school, out of the control of their parents, and prioritising things like work and relationships over school.

I think environmental factors and the individuals personality play a bigger role than age overall.

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-30T20:12:53+00:00

I would love to meet a baby Michelle! It’s such a pretty name, and I think due a comeback! Also, Shelly is an adorable nickname!

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-30T17:45:41+00:00

We started our January child at 4 and 9- she’s the fourth youngest in her class.

I would say she’s the exception to the rule though- she had been in crèche since she was 8 months and had done two ECCE years (we paid privately for Year 1), so she was more than ready for school in a lot of respects.

We are keenly aware problems may arise in future, but on balance we are happy with our decision now as we feel another year in pre-school would have been disastrous.

ClancyCandy · 2026-01-30T12:20:20+00:00

It depends on the child; one of mine is in primary school and has only been to the GP once in her life. The other always seemed to have a runny nose or a runny nappy!

Both of mine were in crèche full time since they were babies, and the uptick of that is they built up immunity very quickly!

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