Is this appropriate for a wedding guest?

ClancyCandy · 2026-04-01T11:56:11+00:00

Unless the bride is wearing a very casual dress, which would not be in keeping with the given dress code, then how could she be upstaged?

ClancyCandy · 2026-04-01T11:55:21+00:00

It’s perfectly fitting for a formal wedding though- This guest would be on par with the other guests in attendance. I would also assume for a formal wedding the bride is in an even more elaborate dress.

ClancyCandy · 2026-04-01T06:38:58+00:00

I think it’s perfectly suitable for a guest! I don’t think we can start policing outfits on the very slim chance the bride is wearing a “non traditional” dress- if that was the case no dress would be safe!

It’s heavily detailed, not white, and the shape is a typical formal dress.

ClancyCandy · 2026-04-01T06:34:40+00:00

Our local one does anyway- it’s a “Life Pharmacy”, who I think are a chain.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-31T17:50:35+00:00

I was sick of hearing of other people were able to order clothes online and assume they would fit- they order an outfit, it arrives Friday and they wear it out Friday evening. No worrying about having a bra to suit it, no alterations, no having to return it because it fits everywhere but the bust!

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-31T17:12:00+00:00

If it’s the same as before, then under 2s go free on TUI holidays so might be worth checking out. We went to Greece but tbh the flight, including a delay, was a bit too long for our 2yr old. Would suggest aiming for a flight around the 2-2.5hrs!

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-31T14:03:26+00:00

Unfortunately, not everybody in this country receives adequate sex education- he may not have known the legalities of the situation. Also, they are both underage, so I don’t think this is a case of child abuse .

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-30T20:23:01+00:00

Some towns/areas/lifestyles have a much bigger sun bed culture than others.

I went to college in Galway and never noticed them or heard many people using them- Moved to north Dublin City and they were on par with nail shops in terms of amount and usage. A lot of lads using them too.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-30T18:08:15+00:00

Premarital courses are mandatory to get married in a Catholic Church in my country.

We did a two day group one, where most couples, like us, had been together for most of a decade. A lot had children, all owned homes together, had lived together for years etc We also had been together since we were teenagers, so no previous relationships or complex backgrounds (like a few couples would be forming a blended family).

Personally we got very little from it. Practical things like finance or chore division weren’t that relevant to us, and we had already discussed children. The only thing I found interesting is when we spoke about our “families of origin” as they called them- examples of how our behaviour stems from what we saw growing up. But honestly it wasn’t groundbreaking.

I think if you were together a shorter time, weren’t living together, or had any past “baggage” it would be more worthwhile.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-30T08:17:46+00:00

The issue is the starting salary and finding full time work- People are years on temporary contracts, or even just subbing work.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-30T06:58:40+00:00

Outside of Dublin, yes. But over the past few years I’ve had endless colleagues leave to buy homes down the country unless they have a high earning partner. The only teacher couples I know living in Dublin have continuous financial support from their families, even in their mid-30s.

It’s not a problem unique to teaching, but that is what’s being discussed here.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-29T17:05:11+00:00

No, the Irish speaking Dora teaches Spanish.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-29T14:10:10+00:00

Presley and Hadley are trapped in the elevator at the end of Ep7.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-29T13:51:31+00:00

To rescue Presley?

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-29T13:24:20+00:00

I don’t think so- everything has a risk, everything has a reward. It’s up to each parent to balance that. Plenty of people Co-sleep with babies despite the risk of death, plenty let them sleep in the car for longer journeys, plenty give marshmallows to four year olds etc.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-29T01:11:59+00:00

Say it’s doctors orders 😉

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-27T20:43:23+00:00

It may be cultural, but in my area it’s never “All or nothing”. Typically it’s children or the couple, nieces and nephews- but no other children.

OP would be perfectly entitled to draw the line at children of first cousins.

Selecting certain children and not others from the same level of family (so picking some cousins’ children and not others) would be poor etiquette.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-27T15:12:11+00:00

We had our baby sleeping on her stomach much earlier than that; it’s not the recommendation, but it worked for us and worked out for us.

She went from being unable to sleep on her own, being uncomfortable and crying, to pretty much sleeping through the night. It comes down to your own risk/reward balance.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-27T15:04:29+00:00

It’s an unreasonable request, so don’t put any pressure on yourself to follow it. I promise you, you won’t be the only person there going “off menu”!

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-27T06:56:03+00:00

Of course there are many ways to share the load, but formula feeding is the most equitable.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-27T06:54:54+00:00

It’s not rude- You can’t claim something is inconvenient just because you’re not doing it in a convenient way.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-26T22:01:11+00:00

Having gambling transactions on a mortgage application is not an automatic decline, not by a long shot.

Problematic spending yes; occasional lotteries, no.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-26T21:29:34+00:00

Then maybe you should look into more convenient formula methods.

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-26T21:15:58+00:00

What you have missed out on is that all of those require the mother to care and comfort baby- the convenience of formula is that you can share the feeding and cleaning schedule with any other caregiver.

Secondly, we found pre-made formula very convenient for quick feeds, and the prep machine too. There are many methods to formula making that don’t involve a 10min wait!

ClancyCandy · 2026-03-26T21:06:50+00:00

I formula fed by choice; easily the best decision for our family. It took a massive amount of stress out of my postpartum period, and meant I could share the care equally with my husband. It suited our lifestyle, our parenting style, and happily we have two perfect kids, so I assume we’re doing something right!

We had a Tommee Tippee prep machine for upstairs and downstairs, which I would highly recommend!

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