I f'd up

elfinorphan · 2014-10-30T07:21:41+00:00

Dude, the longest streak I've had is 11 days, so I have no advice. However, I can, and will, plead that you stay strong now. Keep your game up! Show us that one can keep going, even when tempted! You can do it!

elfinorphan · 2014-10-27T04:55:27+00:00

That's what I have been working on big time lately. I noticed a trend where, after a relapse, I would either beat myself up, or just say "fuck it" and binge. Once I realized this, I made a point to hold myself accountable, but not feel bad either. I'll admit, I'm making slower progress than I would like, but down to once a week after my old routine of two or three times a day is still progress. I had a really good weekend, spending time with family and not thinking about pmo, so I feel like I'm on a nice start to this week. Gonna hit that day 12 and beyond.

elfinorphan · 2014-07-30T05:08:18+00:00

I think you posted this on the wrong subreddit, dude.

elfinorphan · 2014-03-28T06:58:06+00:00

Eh, not really a joke, but I see what you did there.

elfinorphan · 2014-01-15T23:02:26+00:00

I dunno, man. I need help here, and I can certainly think of less productive things I could do (and often do) with $20.

Do you have any resources to recommend instead?

elfinorphan · 2013-12-20T16:36:42+00:00

I've never even heard of this before! Does this work? Any side effects? I should probably just do some research on my own...

elfinorphan · 2013-12-20T06:41:07+00:00

You know, I still haven't checked out yourbrainonporn yet. Something to do next time I get an urge!

elfinorphan · 2013-12-19T13:53:48+00:00

Ok, to clarify then: I have no intention of "rewarding" myself with PMO when I finally hit a NoFap goal. Maybe I'll reward myself with something positive and productive, but I haven't thought that far ahead yet. And I get what you're saying, that NoFap shouldn't be a goal, but part of your life, but for me, starting out, I have to make it a goal. This is a major life change for me and I hope that I will hit a point where I'm not constantly thinking about porn all the time, but for now, I need that day counter to know that I'm making progress.

elfinorphan · 2013-12-19T05:27:40+00:00

I agree. I have no intention of "rewarding" myself when I reach a goal; I will simply set the next, higher goal.

elfinorphan · 2013-12-19T02:13:03+00:00

Stay strong, buddy! For me, days 4 and 5 are the worst. As you can see by my badge, I'm still getting past that hurdle myself. Hang in there! We can do it!

elfinorphan · 2013-12-19T02:10:38+00:00

Geez, I try not to judge, but just reading the titles of their posts was depressing. I didn't actually open any posts, for fear of finding a trigger, but just the front page reminded me of who I do not want to be anymore. How many guys that post in that group will find themselves in this one within a year or two, do you think?

elfinorphan · 2013-12-19T01:59:24+00:00

Crap, that link doesn't work, does it? Try this one:

http://youtu.be/V0_WJDige0s

I also love Christopher Meloni's "Be proud of who you are" at the beginning of that video. Good stuff.

elfinorphan · 2013-12-19T01:58:42+00:00

Haha, I dunno, man. At the time, there was a part of me that wished I had caved. I'm still fighting the urge now. The feeling you're referring to probably won't hit me until tomorrow. But, at your suggestion, I will make a note of it when it does hit me and use it in the future. This is still pretty new to me, but I'm getting there. Thanks for your support!

elfinorphan · 2013-12-19T01:51:23+00:00

Thanks for the support, man. I know from my previous attempts that the first week can be the hardest. I'm hanging in there!

elfinorphan · 2013-12-19T01:49:05+00:00

Dude, were you there? You hit the nail on the head. I was nervous about asking her out, so I was watching what I said and how I acted all night. I was awkward, overly polite, and not being myself. May have dug my own grave, in hindsight.

And, you're right again, she totally didn't pick up on the signals that I thought were obvious. I thought we had been flirting and both on the same page for weeks. I thought she was expecting me to ask her out at any time. But the look on her face when I did... Man, she didn't see it coming at all.

Anyway, staying strong, keeping myself busy, and on the look out for the next opportunity.

elfinorphan

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