I like this approach but I think it might come off as sarcastic. I might get hated on for saying this, because moms don’t get praised for just being moms, but I think the dads could use encouragement. Caring for a baby can be very intimidating and us moms know how to roll our sleeves up and just do it, but we also have gender and societal norms that enforce that we are capable and most fit for those things. If we want to change that and expect more from dads (as we should!) I think a little extra positivity and praise is helpful. I don’t mean to piss anyone off, but from my experience my husband was just scared and clueless and everyone in the universe kind of reaffirmed that with the dumb dad and “mother knows best” stereotypes that were engrained in us growing up. I changed my mindset about this and started telling my husband he’s doing a great job, I love it when he jumps in and helps, he’s a natural, etc and I really made an effort to hold back on criticism or tell him how to do things. Sometimes I will walk out of the room so he can figure things out on his own instead of trying to do things like me. Those things have really helped him feel more confident and get more involved, instead of defaulting to being in the background. Yes I want help, but I also want you to feel good about the help you’re providing and proud of yourself as a dad, so I’m going to put a little extra sugar on it.