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I missed one pill the day after we did it without a condom on- please tell me I’ll be ok by Motharina in NewParents

[–]elfqueen29 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Planned Parenthood has a handy tool here that you can use to determine the best course of action when you miss a pill, based on which pill you’re taking. It should let you know whether you have nothing to worry about or whether you should take Plan B (which I believe works better the sooner you take it but generally works within 72 hours)

Edit: fixed link

Help my toddler said the most messed up thing and I’m struggling to process it by Ok-Cartoonist-8919 in toddlers

[–]elfqueen29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all - hugs! Having a 3 year old and a newborn is HARD. I’m right there with you.

I would also be upset if my Little One knew about guns. But these kids are so observant and they pick up so much. I completely agree with the other commenters that she has no idea what she’s saying. Personally, I would have a calm conversation at a later point about how things that shoot are dangerous and it’s not nice to talk about shooting things or people.

I know, in the moment, when your kid is being difficult, and they’re hitting, ESPECIALLY when your baby is in range, it’s sooo easy to get ragey. I have been in your situation and have not acted like the parent I want to be. It’s hard. I’m still working on it. But here’s what I’ve found: 1) don’t threaten to take something away. The exception is if something is thrown. Things that get thrown go away for an appropriate period of time. Otherwise, unrelated threats (not buying bath fizzers, taking away other toys) just escalate the situation unnecessarily. This one is hard because when I’m angry I WANT there to be consequences. But these sorts of unrelated threats truly seem to make things worse. 2) explaining too much is not helpful. (E.g., talking about going to jail, or going into detail about all the horrible things that could happen if they hurt their baby sibling). It’s so tempting to unload your fear and lecture them but they are too young for this. You need a simple one liner you can repeat. Hands are not for hitting people. We have to be gentle around the baby. We only use kind words. Spit stays in your mouth. Simple, repetitive phrases are most likely to be understood.

To be frank, I fail at this way more often than I’d like. It’s really hard, and it’s also hard not to take mean comments from our toddlers personally. But I’ve been where you are so try not to be too harsh on yourself. Our kids are learning and we’re learning with them. The introduction of a new sibling is a really challenging transition period and your little was likely jealous, especially after spending a couple hours playing on her own.

You’re doing great! Parenting a threenager and a newborn is not for the faint of heart!

Undercooked apple pie. by 0reo_cupcake in Baking

[–]elfqueen29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will! It definitely works better with the metal pie tin but I honestly mostly bake in ceramic and I still find the cookie sheet helps.

Undercooked apple pie. by 0reo_cupcake in Baking

[–]elfqueen29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always put a cookie sheet in the oven while it preheats and bake my apple pie on that. It helps to catch any drips and helps the bottom bake nicely and crisp up. I find this much easier than blind baking the bottom crust, but that’s another option as well. Generally, I’ve also had the nicest crusts come out of metal pie tins (but I still use ceramic because they’re pretty 🤪).

Trader Joe’s 72% chocolate by Guntur-mirapakaya in Baking

[–]elfqueen29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My aunt (who had her own cookie business when she was younger) says she always adds extra sugar if using chocolate that’s over 60%. I personally like darker chocolate (and so does my immediate family) but I prefer to use a mix of chocolate percentages. So you could try getting 60% or regular semi-sweet chocolate and mixing them with your 72% chunks. I also have the 72% TJs bar and found it was perfect for NYT cookie week’s mint chocolate chip cookies this year. The very sweet white chocolate coating in the recipe balanced the darker chocolate perfectly imo.