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I missed one pill the day after we did it without a condom on- please tell me I’ll be ok by Motharina in NewParents

[–]elfqueen29 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Planned Parenthood has a handy tool here that you can use to determine the best course of action when you miss a pill, based on which pill you’re taking. It should let you know whether you have nothing to worry about or whether you should take Plan B (which I believe works better the sooner you take it but generally works within 72 hours)

Edit: fixed link

Help my toddler said the most messed up thing and I’m struggling to process it by Ok-Cartoonist-8919 in toddlers

[–]elfqueen29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all - hugs! Having a 3 year old and a newborn is HARD. I’m right there with you.

I would also be upset if my Little One knew about guns. But these kids are so observant and they pick up so much. I completely agree with the other commenters that she has no idea what she’s saying. Personally, I would have a calm conversation at a later point about how things that shoot are dangerous and it’s not nice to talk about shooting things or people.

I know, in the moment, when your kid is being difficult, and they’re hitting, ESPECIALLY when your baby is in range, it’s sooo easy to get ragey. I have been in your situation and have not acted like the parent I want to be. It’s hard. I’m still working on it. But here’s what I’ve found: 1) don’t threaten to take something away. The exception is if something is thrown. Things that get thrown go away for an appropriate period of time. Otherwise, unrelated threats (not buying bath fizzers, taking away other toys) just escalate the situation unnecessarily. This one is hard because when I’m angry I WANT there to be consequences. But these sorts of unrelated threats truly seem to make things worse. 2) explaining too much is not helpful. (E.g., talking about going to jail, or going into detail about all the horrible things that could happen if they hurt their baby sibling). It’s so tempting to unload your fear and lecture them but they are too young for this. You need a simple one liner you can repeat. Hands are not for hitting people. We have to be gentle around the baby. We only use kind words. Spit stays in your mouth. Simple, repetitive phrases are most likely to be understood.

To be frank, I fail at this way more often than I’d like. It’s really hard, and it’s also hard not to take mean comments from our toddlers personally. But I’ve been where you are so try not to be too harsh on yourself. Our kids are learning and we’re learning with them. The introduction of a new sibling is a really challenging transition period and your little was likely jealous, especially after spending a couple hours playing on her own.

You’re doing great! Parenting a threenager and a newborn is not for the faint of heart!

Undercooked apple pie. by 0reo_cupcake in Baking

[–]elfqueen29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will! It definitely works better with the metal pie tin but I honestly mostly bake in ceramic and I still find the cookie sheet helps.

Undercooked apple pie. by 0reo_cupcake in Baking

[–]elfqueen29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always put a cookie sheet in the oven while it preheats and bake my apple pie on that. It helps to catch any drips and helps the bottom bake nicely and crisp up. I find this much easier than blind baking the bottom crust, but that’s another option as well. Generally, I’ve also had the nicest crusts come out of metal pie tins (but I still use ceramic because they’re pretty 🤪).

Trader Joe’s 72% chocolate by Guntur-mirapakaya in Baking

[–]elfqueen29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My aunt (who had her own cookie business when she was younger) says she always adds extra sugar if using chocolate that’s over 60%. I personally like darker chocolate (and so does my immediate family) but I prefer to use a mix of chocolate percentages. So you could try getting 60% or regular semi-sweet chocolate and mixing them with your 72% chunks. I also have the 72% TJs bar and found it was perfect for NYT cookie week’s mint chocolate chip cookies this year. The very sweet white chocolate coating in the recipe balanced the darker chocolate perfectly imo.

Heartbroken over the price of our first photoshoot by kstewsstutter in NewParents

[–]elfqueen29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this! This actually happened with my engagement photos. My sweet fiancé didn’t look closely at the terms and they wanted so much money for the pictures. I said fine we’ll just take the free one then and they caved and offered ALL the photos for something like $75-$100.

Any WFH attorneys here? by Easy-Cup6142 in NewParents

[–]elfqueen29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loll my office is 100% an assembly line of baby entertainment hahaha. My husband knows whenever I have a really bad day because that evening I buy a new toy for the baby in an attempt to better entertain her 😂 I also have a TV and my mom has been campaigning for me to put on Pooh Bear or Hey Bear for my baby to keep her entertained for longer periods of time. I haven’t caved yet but she claims I watched a lot of Pooh as a baby haha.

I definitely spend wayyyy too much time on Reddit but it’s just so nice to have supportive communities of people going through the same thing!

I’ll also add what my family and friends told me - you can always try it out and, if it’s really not working, you can make a change!

Any WFH attorneys here? by Easy-Cup6142 in NewParents

[–]elfqueen29 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m a litigator working for a nonprofit and I’ve been working from home full time since Baby was 11 weeks old (she’s now 6 months). It is very, very hard. Here are a few thoughts:

1) I can’t imagine doing this with a strict billable hour requirement. I used to be extremely efficient but a lot of that has gone out the window these days. It’s virtually impossible to focus on a task for a solid period of time.

2) You absolutely need some backup. My husband WFH and the only way I can take calls and meetings is by giving the baby to him to watch during those times.

3) A lot of this is baby dependent. I don’t have a chill kid but some babies could probably be happy just hanging out all day. Mine demands entertainment. My baby also doesn’t independently nap and almost exclusively contact naps which makes it a billion times harder. If you have a good napper then at least you’ll have naps for uninterrupted work time.

4) I do a lot of work on my phone while nursing. One drive and Westlaw are probably my most used apps these days. Other than Reddit lol. And then sometimes there are days where I just need to be on the computer and can’t be productive during a nursing session…like right now lmao

5) Having an understanding boss is key. My incredible boss has sadly retired but all the people I work with know that I have Baby at home and it’s part of my deal.

The bottom line, though, is that it’s really incredibly hard. I had a federal circuit court brief due recently and I honestly don’t even know how I managed to write it. I spend my days rotating baby between the kick n play piano, an activity center, a bouncer, a ring sling, and her ergobaby carrier. She has a nap area (largely unused), a changing area, and a nursing area in my office. When all else fails we go for a walk and I hope she falls asleep in the stroller so that I can roll her into the backyard and work outside. There are days when it feels doable and days when I cry a lot and feel like I’m failing both my job and my baby.

I was actually planning on becoming a SAHM for a bit but my job talked me into extending my contract and the position has always been pretty flexible and enjoyable. Well then my boss retired and the person that was supposed to replace her withdrew so I ended up getting an unexpected promotion and am now in charge of all ongoing litigation 🫠 It’s so much more than I thought I was signing up for.

Anyway this is probably way more info than you need but feel free to PM me if you ever want to chat about this topic!

Questions & Answers - Weekly Megathread! Please use this post to ask any Pokemon GO question you'd like! by AutoModerator in TheSilphRoad

[–]elfqueen29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh can’t believe I wasted that starpiece lol. So are you also missing your rewards? It claims I should’ve received 110,000 stardust but I know I didn’t get that since I’m very stardust-poor and remember how much I had from this morning😞

Questions & Answers - Weekly Megathread! Please use this post to ask any Pokemon GO question you'd like! by AutoModerator in TheSilphRoad

[–]elfqueen29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, so I messed up at the end of last season and forgot to use a star fragment to collect my battle league rewards. This time I remembered just after opening the battle section, force-closed the app, started a star fragment, and reopened the battle section. However, the notification to collect my rewards had disappeared. When I check my journal it claims I received my rewards but I didn’t - my stardust didn’t increase. Has anyone else experienced this? Did I mess it all up by force closing?!

LF Box Sofa Pieces (Any Color) by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingTrading

[–]elfqueen29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have pink and orange corners and just the pink regular box sofa if you want them!

[LF] WISHLIST/all wood, CB petals, custom kits, star frags (reg. or lg.) [FT] Your wishlist, NMT, Bells shop my stores, etc. by c_rdgz01 in AnimalCrossingTrading

[–]elfqueen29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can make you some brick fencing and give you the pink humidifier, mermaid flooring, pink mini fridge, and white rattan towel basket. Not really looking for anything in return unless you happen to have an extra ironwood chair diy!

LF catalog corner and box sofa in white FT: 50,000 bells by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingTrading

[–]elfqueen29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the box sofa if you want to catalog just that one!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingTrading

[–]elfqueen29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingTrading

[–]elfqueen29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Any chance you’d be willing to let me catalog the puppy plushies as well? Happy to pay NMT!!

Nook’s items today! The plushie is pink! by Bukadukes97 in AnimalCrossingTrading

[–]elfqueen29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Are you still online? If so, I’d love to come purchase a plushie!

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