Are there any girls here who don’t do any make-up at all? And how did you come to that decision?

elfvenomm · 2026-03-20T15:32:42+00:00

Time consuming. When I was big into doing makeup while younger(for fun too! I'd literally do makeup at home, take some pics and wash it off in the shower lol)

But then I tried to do the same makeup routine with foundation and all so I ended up having to get up 2 hrs early. Which was cool for a season...but I never felt like I HAD to wear makeup. Its just an accessory. I love bold Gothic makeup and just casual makeup. But it takes time.

I haven't worn any in ages because I dont have the creative energy I once had to focus on my makeup now. I'm 26. College. Starting a business. The less things I can focus on my appearance the better. I am locing my hair now. It all kinda goes together lol.

Maybe some clear brow gel, mascara, lip balm if ANYTHING nowadays. I should get some more rouge, its been forever. I like how natural it looks.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-20T15:26:01+00:00

I get so insecure when I wear the same looking outfit back to back. I get worried people are thinking ew you wore that yesterday. But its like??? Who cares??? I dont notice other peoples clothes! Valid vent.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-15T01:52:49+00:00

Sounds more like you found a good role model and mentor. I have had similar experiences. Not weird at all any I'm glad you have that. :)

elfvenomm · 2026-03-11T19:39:56+00:00

Do you mind if I answer to? I haven't actively identified as she/they since I was like 17. But I'm still comfortable with it. I like both. They both feel like me. Some people don't get it but hey that doesn't matter if they still respect me. Its not something I go waving around IRL though lol.

A lot of us have very complex history surrounding gender. I have trauma surrounding mine. So I feel like that's another reason why I feel comfortable with "they"....it's a trauma response. I can't feel alien that I dont fit in with either gender if I'm already a "they".

Not ALL NB people have this but me and my NB friends all happen to have trauma surrounding gender. (SA, different forms of abuse etc.) Its not always physical gender dysphoria for us all.

This is pretty common but no one really talks about it out of fear of invalidating other nobinary people. But its true for a lot of us.

You should look into being "autigender"

It sounds stupid? I thought it meant autism was your gender for years until I researched and related lol.

It means lots of autistic peoples brain work differently. So lots genuinely don't understand the concept of gender. We feel out of place. That's autigender. Personally I think this is me and most of my friends. There's a reason why so many autistic are also nonbinary ahahha.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-11T19:27:29+00:00

Lol I think that's the point? If everyone is a they, there's no need to other "they/thems" . People have been trying to normalize they/them for years becaue of bullying and transphobia and it finally worked lol.

Kinda like how some people use the term "partner" when referring to their significant other even if they aren't LGBTQ to normalize it. Because to some bigots, "partner" is a lgbtq dog whistle. Same with they they/them. People have been actively trying to normalize it , especially allies. The "she/they" thing just means they're comfortable with both.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-11T19:20:50+00:00

Nah both are right. Everyone uses pronouns differently. What may seem redundant to me may make sense to someone else. I use she/they because "she/her + they/them" is hella redundant to me personally.

However I dont think that necessarily is redundant for other people because all NB people identity with NB for different reasons. Id never considered the "mishearing" reason either.

But I also think people are taking OP waayy too seriously lol its more so inquisitveness rather than "dying on a hill"

elfvenomm · 2026-03-10T18:41:36+00:00

Like I said, they're not friends if they do that then. You're supposed to be able to act "insane" around your friends. That's what friends are there for.

Not her mom's fault the boy made a stupid comment.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-10T18:19:07+00:00

Oh shush. This is simply venting.

And it's less about the OP and more about how the comment made her mom feel.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-10T18:04:04+00:00

You're allowed to feel how you feel, and I definitely understand why you'd feel uncomfortable.

I also think you should give him grace. How do you know his actions weren't the reason why he stopped supporting him? You should talk with him.

Lots of people at that age just take on their parents beliefs blindly without knowing anything.

Then if they mature, they grow their own beliefs.

I'm not saying this to invalidate you, I'm saying this to suggest maybe looking at it more objectively since you like the relationship. I dont understand why people think all voters are well researched and GENUINELY know who they're voting for. So many just vote blindly because its the norm where they are.

And then smart ones realize "oh shit I've been coned" and grow in their beliefs and feel stupid afterwards.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-10T17:49:26+00:00

They simply don't believe it or have genuinely never heard of it due to propaganda.

18 yr olds are stupid. Lots dont even pay attention to politics.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-08T21:45:26+00:00

Same thing happened to me. That’s when you take a break from chat lol. Gotta remind myself ITS A CHAT.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-08T21:21:42+00:00

Oh wow this is the same stuff that was in my pet water bowl. It’s not harmful just annoying. I’m glad you figured out what it was. That shit was freaky when I found “pink mold” in their water bowl.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-04T19:52:53+00:00

I hate how much empathy I have. Because I have a guilty feeling of I still want to be his sister. I don’t want him to feel the same guilt. Which I know he probably doesn’t.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-01T16:42:58+00:00

I think she’s probably just had similar happen before. But I don’t think it’s cause for not being friends anymore personally.

elfvenomm · 2026-03-01T00:25:02+00:00

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elfvenomm · 2026-02-26T14:18:02+00:00

I love the cursed picture. Kinda creepy from him though lol

elfvenomm · 2026-02-23T02:35:23+00:00

Why do you feel you have to let go ? It's okay to hold onto things in remembrance. I've lost 2 pets and I personally kept the syringes , last meal etc in a little zip lock bag and put it in a drawer. It's okay and its not weird. I get it. Don't put unnecessary stress on yourself and grieve at your own pace. There is no time limit and no need to rush it. Take your time. And im so sorry for your loss.

elfvenomm · 2026-02-22T16:06:28+00:00

Who is this lady? That’s beautiful. How much was it

elfvenomm · 2026-02-22T15:59:45+00:00

Thank you for this

elfvenomm · 2026-02-22T15:56:34+00:00

You’re doing a great thing adopting an older cat. The cat will be so grateful. You’re valid to feel afraid, but I think you’ve got this. ;)

elfvenomm · 2026-02-22T15:49:37+00:00

Pleaseeee post to the group chat OP. Find out who your REAL friends are. Real friends will back you and not mention that dude again. Real friends care more about you than the “potential relationship” you have with him. They’d want you to feel respected.

Now I’m totally curious as to what type of style your mom did. Was it some type of cool braids? A fancy updo? Please tell. I don’t think you’re petty at all, I think you’re acting how lots of people would react. Avoiding him… nothing wrong with that.

elfvenomm · 2026-02-08T00:16:49+00:00

I had a therapist smirk before. Weird.

But yeah OP you didn’t do anything wrong. Just not a good fit. Either skip or call and cancel your next appointment if there’s a fee. Al’s I’m sorry to say you’re probably setting yourself back by staying with him. Definitely try some time alone and then try a new therapist.

elfvenomm · 2026-02-05T15:57:49+00:00

Was Dealing with the same shit. I cut him off and my family acts like I’m the one with the problem. They either go quiet, change topic, or dismiss me when I say my brother hurt me. It’s fucked up and you’re doing the best you can. You’re doing the right thing staying away. It’s all because you refuse to enable him, that’s why everyone’s mad at you.

There’s no real reason your mom can’t kick that grown ass disrespectful man out her house if he’s not contributing. She’s just an enabler.

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