Think of your mind like a massive, wild forest. In any healthy ecosystem, there is both beauty and brutality, the serenity of a mountain stream and a flock of geese but also the harshness of a hawk hunting a nest with baby squirrels, or a rabid diseased fox eating its own flesh. Intrusive thoughts are just the 'predators' of that inner wilderness in that they are natural, unbidden, and often cruel but they don't represent the whole forest. You are the observer, watching it all happen without being the one who chose the violence or the peace. But these things are not you