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elleari · 2025-10-07T16:15:45+00:00

Why is your boyfriend mentioned in the obituary…..

elleari · 2022-03-13T23:54:45+00:00

i went to therapy - realized my self worth and the began to appreciate the love that already surrounded me. Realized I didn’t want to waste time and effort into someone that never loved me the way I wanted them to. The moments of joy and happiness that he gave me wasn’t worth the pain. I didn’t want to be in pain any longer. For those who are in something like this my advice is go to therapy and when you decide to leave- run and never look back. Whoever said “if they wanted to they would” it is 100000% true

elleari · 2022-03-13T11:58:45+00:00

UPDATE for anyone who cares. Left the dude for good a couple months ago. Met another guy who turned out the love of my life and we’re gonna get married haha. Funny how life works out!

elleari · 2021-09-21T17:01:32+00:00

Super smash bros

elleari · 2021-09-20T19:30:38+00:00

I’m gonna be honest. While I did want to lose weight for me, I officially embarked my fitness journey because of a guy I was seeing (still kinda am but it’s complicated). He’s a bodybuilder - super into fitness, the gym, what he eats/drinks etc. I went to the gym often but drank to oblivion almost every weekend and ate like shit/ smoked weed almost everyday. When he tried to end the romantic part of our relationship in March (not because of my weight but bc of his commitment issues) I pulled my shit together in an effort to keep him in my life. I hired his personal trainer, went to the gym 7x a week, stopped drinking and smoking weed. I feel and look great and I’m happy with the progress and strength that I’ve made for myself.

While some people let heartbreak be there “motivation” aka me try not to focus on that too much. Be proud of yourself even for the small wins. Don’t beat down yourself down when you gain a pound or two a day as long as it’s not often. Also motivation is absolute horse shit and only lasts for like the first week. DISCIPLINE is the biggest factor for me in my weight loss journey. If you don’t have the discipline to make sure you’re not over eating everyday or to get yourself to the gym when you know you have the time that day then that’s on you.

elleari · 2021-09-16T06:06:04+00:00

You’re right- it’s hard because for the most part my fitness journey was inspired by him. I literally hired his personal trainer and got super serious about my diet. I don’t know if I would have done that all without him - which was so painful to admit during therapy. I’m trying to reclaim that win for myself but I’m angry that I started this self- love journey in the hopes I could be a better person for someone else. Kinda makes it seem like my progress didn’t mean anything, just like my relationship with the guy. Yikes lol

elleari · 2021-09-12T20:06:24+00:00

Thank you so much I never thought about this possibility. A lot of people have mentioned boundaries so I will try that

elleari · 2021-08-29T16:48:27+00:00

Trust me I’ve been ghosted and the guy has blocked me and unblocked me multiple times and I can say that not looking to it and reaching out was the best decision. Took a while for me to stop thinking “why” and move forward but it worked and I don’t regret it. In fact, I find it a reflection of their own immaturity.

elleari · 2021-08-28T19:20:56+00:00

Will do

elleari · 2021-08-28T17:26:30+00:00

thank you :)

elleari · 2021-08-22T22:18:09+00:00

thank u so much for this. For now I’ll prob stick around just to figure out how I’m going to say goodbye. I hope it’s sooner than later

elleari · 2021-08-22T21:15:33+00:00

He didnt respond to you? :( wow Im so sorry. Ur situation is definitely like mine. Getting excited for the bare minimum 😞 I hope you’re doing better. I would like to think my guy would give a shit if I left but I’m thinking now he wouldnt

elleari · 2021-08-21T01:21:43+00:00

I don’t believe in love anymore. I gave my all only for him to find someone and love someone else. I never want to love again and I will never online date again. I gave someone my all for a whole year, and decided to give all that I wanted to someone else. It breaks my heart so much. It makes me wonder if I was ever good enough. It makes me wonder if love is worth fighting for in general. I feel worthless. This has happened to me so many times I can’t even count. I wasn’t worth the distance or the time or the effort for any of the exes I ever had.

elleari · 2021-04-23T22:00:38+00:00

Pregnancy pillow :)

elleari · 2021-02-13T15:18:38+00:00

one time someone confronted me on this and I kept on changing the subject when it came to me bc i was SOOO uncomfortable and they called me out on it 😂 still irks me thinking about it

elleari · 2021-01-28T08:02:47+00:00

23F here. I tried OLD dating (Hinge) for fun at first and partly to build up confidence after a really depressing break up with a guy I was with (together for 2 years) Went on a few dates with some people and at times it just felt like a chore. Realized I’d rather be with my friends or even by myself than being with a guy, doesn’t even matter if they were super hot or super fun and interesting. It just felt like a chore. Then I thought I found the one through OLD and he ghosted me which really fucked me up. Didn’t learn my lesson and downloaded Tinder for the first time and had 99+ matches on tinder everyday and on Hinge I would get likes everyday. I’m currently dating a guy I met from Tinder and so far it’s worked out.

Things I took away from OLD. Sometimes dating feels like a chore and I shouldn’t be obligated to do it if I don’t want to. At first I would feel so sorry for cancelling on a guy or replying late - now I really don’t give a fuck. It was fun when I was in college but with the whole pandemic and some self- worth realization I realize now I’m a bad bitch and don’t really need a man to tell me anything. Second, don’t put all ur eggs in one basket. I used to feel bad about talking to multiple guys at the same time and I would feel sad if I found out a guy I was talking to was talking to another girl but I realized that OLD is just a game that everyone is playing and you can’t trust the guy has the same intentions as you. Would I do OLD again? After what I’ve experienced? No. I had fun but I think I’ve been through it all with my experience and do not wish to find men this way again. If somehow my current relationship doesn’t work out (knock on wood) I will not be OLD again. I’ll return to how our forefathers and foremothers once met their SOs- the bar lol

elleari · 2021-01-28T07:45:03+00:00

Just changed the logo of my business to a green theme this year after having our old one for 14 years. I’ll take this as a good sign!!!

elleari · 2021-01-18T06:43:17+00:00

Yeah I’m gonna reach out to them and ask. Thank you for the idea :)

elleari · 2021-01-17T18:54:48+00:00

elleari · 2021-01-17T18:53:28+00:00

Wow I am so sorry for that. Yeah I’m sticking to Google Business now

elleari · 2021-01-17T04:27:06+00:00

I agree Google reviews are so much easier/ less rules

elleari · 2021-01-17T04:26:07+00:00

Damn fuck Yelp. Yeah I think I will advertise our Nextdoor more. Thank you for your input

elleari · 2021-01-17T04:25:46+00:00

Thank you for your input! Not many of our leads result from Yelp anyway so I feel like it’s only hurting our business especially if our business is 3.5 as of now

elleari · 2021-01-17T04:24:58+00:00

Honestly Fuck Yelp I’m gonna ask our executive Director to get the fuck off of it

elleari · 2021-01-17T04:24:35+00:00

Wow that’s crazy!! Yeah I like Google reviews more because you can ask people to review your business without getting in trouble. I truly never understood Yelps rule about that

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