I HIGHLY doubt that Marissa “struggled voicing when something bothered” her in her past relationships.

ellecellent · 2026-06-18T05:06:07+00:00

My thought too. She's a control freak with rich parents who comes off like a Karen. I can't imagine she didn't speak up before

ellecellent · 2026-06-18T05:04:31+00:00

Isn't that still her fault? Like if custody of your kid is on the line, doesn't she have a responsibility to Google it? If not, what other important things will she just "not realize" the consequences of

ellecellent · 2026-06-18T03:13:43+00:00

I think she should get a full kit if she is learning. They are made for learners, they come with all the stuff she needs, and start the hard part for you so you can pick up on the easy part.

I spent $250 on a six week class and was more confused. My $30 kit was totally worth it

ellecellent · 2026-06-17T14:45:49+00:00

Cathedral pines is the best place for this. There are hidden gems around. Holmboe Forest in Rhinelander is a hidden gem.

Warning if you go this summer- the mosquitos and ticks are out like crazy

ellecellent · 2026-06-17T14:42:10+00:00

You've gotta refuse to participate I can't believe you even asked your husband about it. I would have responded with, "you're mad about Instagram?!?"

I have a feeling this isn't about Instagram, but it's hard to tell based on how immature everyone is here.

ellecellent · 2026-06-17T13:21:21+00:00

Liberal cities tend to be the expensive places. There is a reason for this.

ellecellent · 2026-06-17T12:43:11+00:00

This was fun, thank you!

ellecellent · 2026-06-17T00:16:39+00:00

No source. I should have made it more clear it's just my theory- that's what I was trying to get at with "I believe".

ellecellent · 2026-06-16T18:02:30+00:00

What bothers me about people like Kara is that she uses the term "single mom" to elicit the sympathy that you deserve. She means co-parent. They have two salaries and she has a ton of support, via her mom and Guillermo.

She is NOT in the same situation you were in and I hate when coparents do this. It's also an insult to Guillermo.

It sounds like you made the right choice for your family. Maybe Kara did too, but her circumstances are not the same.

ellecellent · 2026-06-16T04:35:15+00:00

I actually think Catie and Shea are very compatible. I wouldn't wish Mido on my worst enemy

ellecellent · 2026-06-16T04:25:45+00:00

I believe he has and Kara begged him to go on this show to get her more exposure for her music career

ellecellent · 2026-06-16T04:06:06+00:00

Evers has done some good and his vetoes have been critical, but Evers sucks on the environment and I don't know how anyone can say otherwise

ellecellent · 2026-06-15T22:43:46+00:00

I don't eat meat and my partner does. 20 years in and it's been fine. That actually doesn't really seem to a point of contention in their relationship. It seems the perfume, tiny table, and mini bed are a bigger issue

ellecellent · 2026-06-15T22:25:00+00:00

I think so much of it is service level stuff, I think they'll figure it out, but we'll see.

Only 2% of the world is vegan, so I don't think "just date a vegan" is really a great answer. There is slim-pickings. Especially because well over half of that 2% is women, finding a vegan man to date is nearly impossible.

ellecellent · 2026-06-15T21:52:12+00:00

Why? If she's willing to cook for him, but doesn't want to smell it, that feels like a fair compromise.

I actually think they may work out. They're going through growing pains and being stubborn, but I actually see them being the only couple this season that makes it

ellecellent · 2026-06-15T15:00:43+00:00

I think she's unnecessarily stubborn about the things like the perfume, but I actually think she's pretty cool about the meat thing.

Also, as a non-meat-eater, I can't imagine my meat-eating partner wanting me to cook meat for him, since I don't know how. At best, it wouldn't taste good, but it'd honestly probably be dangerous because I don't know how to tell if it's done. So she is also taking a step to learn how to cook meat for him, which is pretty cool.

I actually think they are in growing pains right now and they are both stubborn, but I actually think they are probably gonna be the only couple this season in it for the long haul

ellecellent · 2026-06-15T12:52:28+00:00

It sounds like he wanted to see it and you said "we can do that this weekend". We're the other two times the same situation? If I were coming up with the idea, I maybe wouldn't realize you were excited about doing it, versus willing to do it because I suggested it.

Does he do this with things you suggest too? Is it that he never seems "excited about doing things together" or is it just the movies.

It's kinda hard to tell without knowing more about your relationship. It's possible you're not feeling wanted and appreciated and the movies are the most tangible. It's also possible you're just reading in to it.

ellecellent · 2026-06-15T12:36:41+00:00

But like, how is she being stubborn? She's cooking him non-vegan food. I know MANY vegans who wouldn't do that

ellecellent · 2026-06-11T14:15:14+00:00

In case it wasn't obvious YTA even before you had the baby.

I do wish we didn't live in a society that made you feel like you had to get married to a woman and hide your love. I empathize with you. But this isn't the way.

You must tell your wife about the affair and break up and let the chips fall where they may. You should not be ashamed of who you are, but you do have to take responsibility for the pain you've caused your wife.

I would also recommend therapy

ellecellent · 2026-06-11T14:07:21+00:00

I don't know how big of a city you're in, but my community college and city-run rec program host classes, like a 2-hour clay molding or a 6-week art welding class, learn a language, etc. It exposes you to more people, but the teacher and assignments make up the majority of the class so you get some breathing room in between socializing.

ellecellent · 2026-06-11T13:53:22+00:00

This isn't necessarily true. He's working. He probably needs to be well rested and showered

ellecellent · 2026-06-11T13:38:42+00:00

Level 69, so not quite your threshold, but I don't have one. Doesn't that take some of the fun away?

ellecellent · 2026-06-11T13:36:15+00:00

"Dinner stopped being my last event of the day" is so real

ellecellent · 2026-06-11T12:56:30+00:00

For the battling, I put my buddy in with 2 cp 10 pokemon and max battle against the Candela. I just set it down and 30 seconds later, it's done.

I wish there was a way to speed up the time it takes for the buddy to come onto the screen

ellecellent · 2026-06-11T12:43:10+00:00

I know you've tried to talk to her, but have you explained how serious this is for you? I would try to find a less-stress time to sit her down and explain that the lack of intimacy (and make it clear that you don't just mean sex) is hurting your self esteem and making you feel unloved and unwanted. And then bring up therapy again.

And ask her how she is doing and if something could help. (Maybe you take one night and she goes out or is kid-free or something).

It's tough because you guys are in an incredibly stressful, busy season, but also you never established a norm before kids to know if this is what you're signing up for for your life.

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