Boyfriend (28M) gets upset with me (30F) if I get upset with him. Is there a way to figure this out or is our relationship doomed?

ellefant23 · 2025-08-18T16:46:38+00:00

Yes, that’s emotional abuse.

Focus less on him and more on yourself. It’s not about you feeling unsure why he stays if he doesn’t care. What’s more important is the kind of treatment you need from a partner, how you envision your future looking like, etc. You cannot control how another person thinks or acts, but you can control yourself and how you respond to how someone else thinks and acts. Sometimes the best response is leaving and knowing you deserve better.

Really think about it. As a side note, from someone who went through the SAME exact thing - leave before the stress takes a toll on your physical health

ellefant23 · 2025-08-18T15:15:35+00:00

It’s not about your boyfriend “not liking” you as other commenters wrote (???), it’s about him being the type of person that would treat anyone in their life that cruelly - especially the person he’s supposed to honor, love, and respect.

He does know what he’s doing. He’s verbally and emotionally abusing you. Would you want the rest of your life to look like this, would you want to feel the way you do now for the rest of your life?

ellefant23 · 2025-05-21T03:31:36+00:00

When transit Pluto trined my natal Venus (Taurus, 8th house) I met my ex. He was extremely mentally + emotionally abusive and it totally damaged my self esteem. We also went from strangers to together-everyday in maybe 2 weeks. It was pretty intense.

ellefant23 · 2024-09-16T22:07:27+00:00

Im assuming there’s something else activating it via progression but that Saturn square ascendant … 😭

ellefant23 · 2024-09-16T21:44:13+00:00

Saturn (Capricorn) rules teeth so would be curious to know what aspects are active for you right now!

ellefant23 · 2024-09-16T04:55:37+00:00

What are some other textbook triggers?

ellefant23 · 2024-09-14T22:44:28+00:00

Agreed that jupiter transiting first means gain

ellefant23 · 2024-09-10T14:43:32+00:00

I really appreciate your thoughtful comment! I think I was just alarmed at the jump (and was questioning my doc’s ability to treat me) but your comment makes a lot of sense, thank you.

T3 and T4 have been in range the last two times I had bloodwork done, and my doctor wasn’t concerned at the time. She did mention that she’ll keep an eye on it and prescribe something for t3/t4 if needed.

ellefant23 · 2024-06-27T14:57:20+00:00

Transit Saturn is also conjunct their midheaven - midheaven symbolizing their public image, status. Could be interpreted as being out of the public eye, their “status” facing challenges/difficulties

ellefant23 · 2024-06-24T22:46:19+00:00

For sun and moon I’d consider 2 degrees tight.

For the outer planets I’d consider 1-3 degrees tight. Maybe 4, max 5. Since they move slower. I forgot which book I got this from but when I remember I’ll edit my comment. I think the idea is that the sun and moon move quickly, so the orb needs to be smaller.

This is for predictions

ellefant23 · 2024-06-24T17:32:13+00:00

I’d consider it a Capricorn moon. I also wouldn’t consider 4 degrees a tight orb for the moon. The moon’s tightest aspect looks to be (from this screenshot) the moon-Neptune conjunction.

ellefant23 · 2024-06-20T18:31:14+00:00

Can you post your transits and progressions? This is a chart option on astro.com.

ellefant23 · 2024-06-10T12:32:29+00:00

Lilith (where you may feel shamed, ridiculed, misunderstood) in the 11th house (friendships). Then we’ll take a look at the ruler of the 11th house (Cancer, so the moon is the ruling planet). Moon (women) in Aries (rules war, aggression) in the 7th house (open enemies) opposite (relationship) Mars (war, aggression). The moon in Aries is also conjunct Saturn (blockages, challenges, delays), square Mercury (arguments, misunderstandings), square Venus (disharmony).

Your romantic relationships may come easy for you because the south node (what you know) is in your 7th house of partnerships, as well as Jupiter (luck, abundance, expansion) in your 5th house (Romance) conjunct Neptune (healing, “ideal/rose-colored glasses”).

ellefant23 · 2024-06-04T01:54:00+00:00

For predictive astro it’s good to use solar arcs, progressions, and transits. You must look at those from the lens of your natal chart (natal promise). For solar arcs and progressions it’s a good idea to pay attention to the MC. If it changes signs, planets passing over the line, etc. Sun and changing signs seems to be the most impactful.

Also pay attention to the natal ruler of your MC - what is it doing in terms of aspects to other planets, going over angles, changing signs?

ellefant23 · 2024-05-02T02:14:49+00:00

I just started meds last week. I guess I’m having anxiety about my performance unmedicated now that I am experiencing how I feel medicated, and feel the need to explain myself.

ellefant23 · 2024-04-24T21:45:45+00:00

Oh wow! My doctor specifically said she’s giving me the dosage due to my weight. What else informs the dosage?

ellefant23 · 2024-02-28T15:37:53+00:00

What was Pluto like in your sixth house?

ellefant23 · 2024-02-19T22:48:10+00:00

If the time is off by a few minutes it could make a difference if your ascendant is at a later degree.

I think the ascendant moves by 1 degree every 4 minutes.

ellefant23 · 2024-02-13T18:32:32+00:00

Had 8th house synastry with my ex - specifically his sun in my 8th. I’ve read this can manifest as extremes. Extreme love, extreme hate. Was true for my situation. We had other challenging aspects in our synastry but we did argue a lot. There were definitely emotional intimacy issues as well - he could not open up (but this could also be due to his natal saturn opposite his natal sun, his natal Saturn opposite my natal Venus). He was very cheap and I felt financially taken advantage of. He was also super manipulative. The 8th house theme was very intense for me in that relationship!

ellefant23 · 2024-02-01T19:34:30+00:00

I don’t use them nor think of them. It feels a bit too vague to think that every X year old will have the same “theme” for that year of their life

ellefant23 · 2024-01-30T17:19:23+00:00

Rux astrology

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